Is the energy spent on friends really worth it?

I felt the same as you a few months ago as well as finding out that the people you thought were your friends were not at all.I find that there are alot of times that i could go without all the agro of having friends as there is a friend that i thought i could trust only to find out that i could not.There are also so called friends that say they will pop in and see you and they dont,but the time you do see them is when they want something,want to know something or there is noone else about.

Seems like a lot of work, and worry just to find a friend. Would there be a 20% chance that this person will be a good friend, after you have gone through all that energy and stress? I am doubtful. Perhaps this is the reason I have never made a friend. I have lots of good neighbors. I like everyone, and I have no enemies, but I'm 60 years older than you, completely without a friend. I like it this way! I am perfectly happy to be my own best friend. I have never let myself down yet, and when I need a friend, I know that I will be there for myself!

Wow, not if it takes all that work! I've been around the block a couple of times and there are some lessons about friendships that I've learned. First, be yourself. Don't stress yourself out trying to be someone you're not when you first meet someone because, if they're going to like you, let them get to know YOU. If you're having a bad day, don't take it out on your friends. Even if you have to lock yourself in your bedroom, don't be around the people you like if you're not sure you can control your mood...and your mouth. Don't worry about whether a friend is talking about you behind your back. Worrying about it won't change anything if it happens and only adds to the stress. No one is perfect and it's not the end of the world if it does happen...unless you tell someone your deepest, darkest secrets which is something you should never do. I have always believed that quality is more important than quantity when it comes to friendships so I had friends and I had associates...people I knew but were never close to. If you simply enjoy your friendships without all the worry you might find them easier to deal with.

I believe so. I think that a friend is worth all our energy, efforts and everything else if they are being a true friend to us as well. Friendship is also about give and take, we feel loyalty and a sense of belongingness in them when they also exert the same efforts for us.

Hi wigima I will tell you how the things go for me. I allways left them(potential friends)get around me and when they decide that they do it because of what i am,as a person in society. It says misery loves company.Ok is a negative example,but im sure you understand what i mean. Real friends are supposed to know you with you bad or happy moods,the rest are just people that you know and get offensed by your mistakes.

i really think that the time spent wuth your friend is really worth .. we can share a lots of things to our friends we can also share things that are personal to us to our friends .. we can sgare things and tell our problems to our friends even if we are not able to tell anyone even in our family . the time we spend with our friends are really good ones . i usually spend a lot of time with my friends .. thus i will say that the energy spent with friends is really worth it and there is nothing wrong in spending the energy with our friends . happy my lotting

No matter how many 'friends' we have, our thoughts are our own and it is our thoughts that finally become our companions. The urge to exchange news and views, expect a helping hand when in need, or lend a helping hand when one needs it all these and several other factors compel us to go in search of friends but circumstances keep changing and so do our needs. It is therefore wise to expect a turn of events depending on circumstances and move with the tide and also take things in ones stride.