I walked out on my boy friend and I left him alone in a mall at 2am.

Philippines
February 6, 2010 2:04am CST
We got into a terrible argument and I walked out on him. I felt guilty after because he doesn't have a ride home and I left him there. Now we're not talking. Should I be the first one to approach him?
8 responses
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
that happened to me, too! well, technically I left walked out from the movie theater and rode a taxi back to my house--alone, leaving him shocked what I did. we were arguing in the theater (forgot what it was.) but anyway, I think you dont have to approach him if you think it wasn't your fault in the first place...besides you walked out at the height of your argument so its really understandable why you left him in the mall. don't worry he's a grown man, he can find his way back home. ^^
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
Is he the one in the pic? Thanks a bunch for the comment, it's always nice to relate to someone. Yeah, I guess I shocked him too, it's the first time it ever happened. I only hope he sees things in a deeper level and realize that it's what he said that made me leave. My boyfriend's a pampered boy, used to having a chauffeur around him all the time, he's never taken a cab his entire life so I guess that's the part that's gonna make him furious. Anyway, thanks for the advice, stay in love!
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
First let me ask what is the reason of your argument? Who caused that terrible argument that made you walked out on him? If I were in your place, if it is my boyfriend's fault, why we fought that night then I walked out, of course there is no way for me to first approach him. I will wait for him to make the move to talk to me again, apologized and make me understand why things like that happens. But you if I see that I am the one who caused that fight because I did something wrong, and then I walked out on my boyfriend. Of course I would be the one to first approach him. If you are in a relationship, it is important that you know how to admit your mistake, step down and make the move for everything to work out.
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
Hello January, thank you so much for the advice. I can't really tell who's fault it is, we were arguing so bad that I wanted it to stop so I walked out and left him. Anyway, thank you so much I feel a breath better now. I'll try to wait today for him to talk to me, if not, I will. I agree with you when you say that stepping down and admitting mistakes is essential in a relationship. Thanks again. Hope things get better soon.
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
8 Feb 10
I think it was you who walk out of your date, you should stand your ground. Remember that he is simply your boyfriend, and he is courting you. It is good that at this stage, you are learning to know him, what if you are already married and you don't know this guy, you will end up packing your things and it will be you who loose. Show him that you are a girl to be love and understand, and if he really care for you, he will come to you. But if that love is skinned deep, watch out or you will cry later. Being guilty id normal, new friends will come by just keep smiling always.
• Philippines
9 Feb 10
Well, it really depends. Who started the argument? who is at fault? if it was you then you should definitely say sorry. But if it was him, then don't. It's just fair that he should realize what he did wrong ( if he was at fault)...
@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
Don't do that again. You can quarrel a lot, shout if you like, retaliate with a throw pillow, but never leave a loved one alone without a ride at 2 in the morning. You don't know the dangers that lie just around the corner. Okay? And since you were the one who turned your back, be humble enough to apologize first. What if the big pride of yours gets a little hurt? You love him, don't you? You will always have different opinions in life but loving each other will surpass all differences. Call him now!
• Malaysia
6 Feb 10
There are 2 points you need to consider: 1. Who is the one at fault? If it is you, then you should be the one to approach him first. If not, go to point 2. 2. Is he worth it? If your love towards him is deep enough to forgive the wrong he has done, then approach him. Wish you good luck :)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
It depends on what you argued about. Think back now that you are probably sober from the anger and see who is on the right. If you happen to be on the wrong side meaning the argument or the cause of the argument is your fault then you should approach him. However if by looking back you feel you are on the right, then you should just sit tight and see if he will soon come to his senses and apologize. You should not worry about your boyfriend not getting a ride home as I am sure he can take care of himself.
@verabear (796)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
It depends, what was the reason behind the fight? If you could, maybe you should separate the reason for your fight and the fact that you walked out on him and left him without a ride home at 2 in the morning. Sometimes, even if he admits his fault but because you hurt him by walking out on him, that may stop him from making the first move. If possible, call him and say sorry for the behavior, sorry that you left him there all alone, but that you still feel strongly against whatver it was you fought about. Then let him take it from there. IF he doesn't say anything about the fight, then end the conversation, then it is his turn to do something about it.