Dose age matter is there an age limit on love if so whats your limit?
By apples99
@apples99 (6556)
United States
February 6, 2010 10:04am CST
I dont think age matters much as long as the age gap isn't to big, for example a 3 or 4 year age gap is not that bad if the two people are adults, but I think a 7 to 10 year age gap is kind of pushing it. so thats where I would draw the line because maturity levels do count in a relationship also having things in common helps to but if theres a big age gap lets say hes 38 and shes 21 thats kind of a big gap.
Well anyway do you have an age limit when it comes to relationships and love if so whats your limit how much older or younger is ok with you?
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19 responses
@celestialpurity (67)
• Indonesia
6 Feb 10
i am a woman, an asian one. here in my country (and on most of other asian nations) people still can't accept if the woman is years older than the man, though that's completely okay with me. as long as they are in love, why not? so its okay for me if one of the couple is a bit older than another. in this case, i agree with apples, that 3-4 years is acceptable.
4 years younger man still okay, while my limit for older man is 7 years. more than that, i have to step back. i don't want to have a lonely old days if my partner is far older than me, as i don't want to leave my partner alone if i am the one who is far older than him.
@celestialpurity (67)
• Indonesia
6 Feb 10
yes, i know that. but logically, marrying much older one will lead me closer to being lonely on my old days, right :)
@RobtheRock (2433)
• United States
6 Feb 10
Celestialpurity, you could marry a younger person and still have lonely old days. Because of accidents, disease, and other things, nothing is guaranteed. I see older women who have "appeared" to be getting along well by keeping themselves busy. To me, it's sad to see them alone and I know they miss their men, but I am also happy to see them being so productive in life.
@enyniya (299)
• Bulgaria
6 Feb 10
age doesnt matter in love and everyone must understand that and stop judging people
because of this prejudice about age many relationships are destroyed
however i must point out that it doesnt matter how much older is ur partner as long as you are above 17-18 and are legally allowed to date elders.
@RobtheRock (2433)
• United States
6 Feb 10
I agree. There are too many women out there without partners for one reason or another. If you have the same interests and similar goals, age shouldn't matter as long as the two people are adults. I agree that there are factors in a generation gap, but interests and not being swayed by public opnion can make a couple very happy.
@amirev777 (4117)
• India
7 Feb 10
hi,
i dont think age should matter when it comes to love..love and lovers have no age limits. love can happen at any age and with a person of any age. what matters is how much they love each other n how much understanding they have when it comes to their relationhip. one has to be mature then the other partner(not neccessary that one should b elder or so)to understand and carry on the relationship without any complaints.
so age factor should never be considered and no restrictions should be put esp when it comes to age between the lovers.
@jasmeena (846)
• Indonesia
7 Feb 10
Age doesn`t matter but...not too big, of course. Let`s say a man falls in love with a younger man, if he`s about 3-4 years younger, it is ok. My borhter-in-law`s older sister is married to a man who is 7 years younger!! I am 33, if i choose a man, at least he`s 35-40 years old.
@thunderbala (748)
• India
7 Feb 10
hi.. i don't think love matters with age...love is something beautiful and wonderful.. there isn't any formula or method.. you just have to learn to love just by loving.. none can differentiate b/w good and bad love.. so love is an outcome which can come with any person... there is no age limit once u r legal to do so..
@mandymandy131 (19)
• China
7 Feb 10
I don't think it is a limit cause love has no limitations just follow your heart is OK.
@sang2k2 (1833)
• India
7 Feb 10
the age gaps never play much of role in a relation. we talk about age but does your thinking and your maturity grows with your age..growing of age means a sign of decaying ones body of may be a tenure of a body and not of ur maturity or your nature.
People tend to relate age with one's thinking and capabilties but its my belief that one;s understanding way of thinking depends on its experiences or phases of life..
so age can never be the limit while a person is entering a relation.
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
7 Feb 10
for me 3-5 years younger girl is ok for me..
i will never go for a girl who is elder than me, i want a young girl who is almost 3 years younger than me !!!!!!!!
@luvmysons (497)
• United States
6 Feb 10
I never thought I wanted to date a guy more than 3 years older than me..But My husband is 6 years older than me and thats when I realized that age shouldnt matter. I think when your younger age makes a big difference. I started dating my husband when I was 20 and he was 26.. Everybody I knew made a big deal about how much older he was to me. Now I am 33 and he is 39 and Nobody blinks. Its like they dont care as much.. Love is the issue. If your in love and as long as you are both above the legal age then it should be ok. Its really no ones business anyway. If your happy thats all that counts
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
7 Feb 10
Some people are judgemental especially if the woman is older than man for like 15 years but as far I am concerned Age doesn't matter as long as you both are in love with each other & happy with each other.
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
7 Feb 10
I don't think that there is an age limit in love. As long as they both love, respect and trust each other then that is what matters. My Dad is 10 years older than my Mom and they have a very good and strong reltionship. It does not matter also to me whether it is the girl who is older or the guy.
@prasunsam (356)
• India
6 Feb 10
I think age is not at all a barrier in relationships as long as both the partners are physically and emotionally compatible with each other.
@thunderbala (748)
• India
7 Feb 10
hi.. i don't think love matters with age...love is something beautiful and wonderful.. there isn't any formula or methoh.. you just have to learn to love just by loving.. none can differentiate b/w good and bad love.. so love is an outcome which can come with any person... there is no age limit once u r legal to do so..
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
6 Feb 10
I've always dated people of different ages than my own, it seems like. Mostly because of maturity levels, honestly. I couldn't find anyone of my own age with my interests or who was able to deal with the challenges of my life, and so I found myself being involved with older people.
At the moment, I'm dating someone 7 years younger than myself. The funny thing is, he's far more mature than the older guy that I'm in the process of getting a divorce from! So I have to say I've learned that it really doesn't matter about age!
My limit would now have to be 18, I'd think!
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
6 Feb 10
I don't think that age matters in love to me. I would be happy to date a man up to five years younger than me and up to fifteen years older than me. I am currently in my late thirties. If I was eighteen years old I would be happy to date a man up to five years older than me. If I was twenty one I would be happy to date a man up to ten years older than me. If two people meet when one of them is seventeen and one is twenty seven that looks like a big age gap. When she reaches twenty and he reaches thirty that sounds more acceptable. I know a lady that met an older man when she was thirty one years old and they are very happy. He is over sixty years old.
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
6 Feb 10
love knows no bounds, when it comes to the real thing. but i'd only look at guys that are up to 10 yrs older than me, at the moment. not keen on younger guys they just don't seem to have the maturity, and it can show. my partner is 5/6 yrs older than me.
@laura_lmaxi (678)
• United States
6 Feb 10
Well in my opinion ages does matter in the majority of the circumstances because people with the same age groups may have the same interest and the same amount of maturity and they want the same things, I don't think it is unmoral to be with someone whom you have a lot of age difference, but I do think those 2 persons would have a little bit of more challenges than a normal couple. Sometimes I have seen couples with a really big age difference, something like 15 20 years, and they last forever, they love each other, they are faithful to each other. But I guess that depends of the personalities of both persons.
@phoenix8606 (4942)
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6 Feb 10
Hi! I don't think love has anything to do with age, because as many people say love is blind, because love is a feeling and age is a condition and we all must care more for our feelings and not for the condition and the material things like age, money, status and so on. Love is something pure and wonderful and we should not compare it with the age. Right? :)))