Boys Don't Cry?
By summer77
@summer77 (414)
Philippines
February 6, 2010 3:21pm CST
When I was a kid, I heard parents and the elders telling the lil' boys not to cry because they aren't girl or otherwise maybe they are. Then I remember, when I was still a lil' girl, when a guy friend cried, we adapted such thought and start picking at our friend that he's a girl or gay because he cried.
As I grow up, I still hear people saying those words. And even big boys uplift each other when they reasonably cry at something and say " Come on dude, stop crying, you're like a girl."
I don't know why it become such a thought to almost everyone that "boys seems like girls when they cry. Maybe it's just an expression. As far as I believe not only the girls has the capability and the right to cry, which is really obvious. Indeed, I got more carried away and touched when a guy cry because as a thought, it usual for boys to cry.
I tend to think that because of such thought that has passed by generation to generation, boys have a sense of pride to show to people when they cry at something, because maybe they are bothered that it might make them looks less manly if they cry. Well I don't think so, for me it is more manly if a guy is true to his feelings. crying can never make a guy less, I am a girl so trust me!
So are you guys really have the sense of pride? Is it really a bid deal to show those heartbreak tears? And girls, how do you perceive when you see a guy cry?
3 responses
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
7 Feb 10
crying is not the sole domain of girls, summer. boys cry too, and that's as normal as it gets. what is wrong is when you cry for the wrong reasons or for no reason at all. indeed, you are correct in saying that crying is a way of expressing one's feelings. thus, there's no gender in crying, no age also... but it must be in the right situation...
@summer77 (414)
• Philippines
7 Feb 10
Yes you are right bystander, boys do cry too. But I was just kind of curious about the boys perception about crying. Because most of the boys tend not to show their tears in front of people and instead hide it. If boys do tend to do this, I just want to now what are their thoughts about it. Would it make them feel less manly too let others show their tears? Just curious. I am a girl and I am trying to understand the boys.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
8 Feb 10
that's part of culture. in some other countries, men don't cry, even in their most private... and they have other ways of expressing their angst. but here, in the philippines, there was a time when boys hide their tears. now, some show their emotions, even in public.
@lampar (7584)
• United States
8 Feb 10
That is true , summer77. When i was a boy, my mother always tell me not to cry as though crying is only for girl, when i grow up into a teen, among all our friends, we are not supposed to cry because doing so will invite tease and humiliating joke from friend, because most of us really believe only girl can cry in public, it is 'girl' thing.... after i become an adult, i realize it is just nonsense that boy is not supposed to cry and in fact crying is just a natural way for us to release our tension regardless of our gender, it is a human way of dealing with our emotion. 
@Mike4me (567)
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
Yes i do agree with you, I think that true guys are the ones who knows their weaknesses and limits and are not ashamed to cry. Crying is an act we do when we feel down and sad, and there is really nothing to be ashamed of. I also think that little boys should not be taught things like that while they are still young because its practically very normal.
