"Leaving Someone you Love is the Hardest thing to do" !
By cloud31
@cloud31 (5809)
February 6, 2010 11:58pm CST
Oftentimes you want to back out into a relationship, several times you want to leave but everytime you tried you cannot move out because of LOVE..You want to leave because of one reason(forbidden)
But you cannot leave because love is overruling, you find your match with him,happy with him, you don't want to giving him up, don't want to lose each other,you feel loved and security with him.And his begging you to STAY!
Is this enough ground to stay and keep going?or to leave him and start a new life!
Share your views and Your advises about this topic..Thank you and Happy Lotting!
God bless!
6 responses
@Rhazelle (356)
• Canada
8 Feb 10
I left mine a while ago, and I was really depressed and regretted it. But love had me blinded for a while, he really is a great guy, but not as great as I thought he was. I thought he was perfect when we were together. Now that we're apart, I'm finding new guys and a few of them I can compare with him and tell myself "hey, this guy's better". I still miss him, but now I know that there ARE other choices out there that are better, and that's helped a lot in getting over him.
Like I said, I still miss him, but what can I do. Just moving on...
@cloud31 (5809)
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8 Feb 10
hello Rhazelle,
Thank you for sharing your own story i am so much grateful you gave time to participate and gave your innermost advises.
Yes its so hard to do a thing without mind and heart unity..I feel i am trapped with my feeling. If im going to leave can I still have the courage to face to what's on the future like what you said once you meet someone new you will find that there is more better than him.I really don't know how can i start really.
I will try to follow your advises guys.Thank you and Happy Lotting! God bless!
@Rhazelle (356)
• Canada
8 Feb 10
Oh I just realized I didn't really answer your question. IF you really think it's best for you, then yes, leave him. I know it's hard, but eventually you'll get over it. If you choose to stay then that's fine too, but if you have a valid reason for leaving him like you're dissatisfied in your relationship, don't stay JUST because you love him.
That's the logical choice. I probably wouldn't if I were in your shoes, but logically, that's my answer.
@emrita_lozano (37)
• Philippines
7 Feb 10
yes.. you are definitely right!leaving someone you love is the hardest thing to do, but we have to consider why we have to leave the one we love,sometimes we have to say goodbye not because you want to escape in that relationship.we have to say goodbye for the happiness of the one we love.because if you really love someone, you can set him free even though it really hurts,saying goodbye is also saying how much i love you..!!sweet goodbye,,,i love you, GOODBYE!..
@Hubfee (665)
• Thailand
8 Feb 10
How can I just walk away from you when all I can do is watch you leave, coz we shared the laughter and the pain and even shared the tear. You are the only one who really knew me at all......Against all odd. not sure if my lyric is correct hehe it's nice song I recomment you to hear.
@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
9 Feb 10
Hi,
First of all I would like to say, there must be sufficient reasons to leave, even if there may be no reason to stay. For example, the last and final break up I had was based on the reason that she won't stay with anyone who is not preferred and promoted by her father, and of course this reason wasn't from the beginning. It just popped out one day. I don't think it was a strong reason to leave.
So one must be sure that his or her reasons for leaving is quite strong, because leaving someone at the time when things could be done or when he needed you the most will be a very treacherous thing to do.
Anyway, if one still has love in oneself, there is no reason to leave. There is no such mismatch or conflict that can't be changed into wonderful relationship. But if one has made the decision in a perfectly calm way and is quite determined about it, then one should leave. To be perfectly honest, I think, love is just a habit of having someone close to you. Love is an attachment, one of the many dependencies that prevent us from doing what is right.
What forbids you is this side of love. Love filled with expectations, desire and hope. This is the side that made elation and depression both inseparable part of Love. Loving all is love, and loving a single person is an attachment. I am not saying that attachment is bad. I am way beyond that controversy.
If your situation needs you to forget someone and move on, you have to find the root, the attachment and get rid of it. Don't even think about how much alone he will be, because it doesn't matter. God has put you into this situation for he wants to do what is good for both of you. So leave it on God's wish and surrender yourself upon his hands. Free yourself from earthly "love" and take the brighter, the spiritual side of it. Be firm and take the decision to walk alone, as that is what we all have to do finally.
Take care
God bless you
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
7 Feb 10
I personally think, no matter how much ''forbidden'' there are, it is not easy to leave the one you love. It will always be and stay heartbreaking, and the hardest thing to have to do. To stay would only make matters worse, therefore, if you want to leave, do it as soon as possible.
• India
7 Feb 10
Though many ppl claim loving to be a very difficult task, it is an absolute pleasure when things are absolutely happy. So its always better to take the pleasure than think about the pain...