When you join school/college/work place, are you quick to make friends?

making friends - Extending friendship hand
India
February 7, 2010 3:45am CST
When I join school, college, work place or any classes, I immediately make friends with atleast one or two. Then only I feel I have some comfortable ambience there. How about you? Do you make friends fast or wait for sometime and then make friendship?
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13 responses
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
im not that friendly and im choosy, i rather want to have only one or two but real friends than have many of them and yet you cant count on them or they will stab you back once your not facing them. though of course its alright to talk with them like normal people do but consider to be friends then i dont think so.
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• India
5 Mar 10
This attitude of yours is good as you can count upon your friends. If we have many friends, then we do not know who is true to us.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
9 Feb 10
It has always been difficult for me to make friends because people have that kind of impression about me as snobbish but I am actually not. I usually wait for some time to make friends with people I meet and I kinda like the idea about living an impression of being snob and then eventually they will find out that I am not.
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• India
10 Feb 10
Do you like people misunderstanding that you are snobbish? Or are you hesitant to make friendship in the beginning itself?
• India
10 Feb 10
Oh! The words 'do not junge the book by the cover', is really good friend. Thanks for writing them.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
I kinda like the idea because later on they will be able to prove that I am not snobbish and that I am a very good friend who can make them laugh. My eyes look unfriendly and that's the reason why they have a bad impression. As they said, do not judge the book bu its cover, so dont.
• Canada
28 Feb 10
I did not make a lot of friends when I was in school. I would rather make friends with people of my own choosing, as opposed to people I am stuck with. My husband and I work for ourselves, so we are the only people we know in the workplace. All of our friends are people we have chosen ourselves.
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• India
5 Mar 10
Then all friends of yours must be your true friends.
• United States
5 Mar 10
No matter where I go I can make friends very quickly. It is great to have at least one person that you can talk to either at work or school. It most certainly makes the day go by faster especially at work. I have not always had such an outgoing personality. When I was younger I was extremely shy, but around 20 I grew out of it and glad that I did.
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• India
11 Jul 10
Very well said Str8_up_cutie83, if we have proper company, the time flies like anything.
@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
7 Feb 10
hi buchi_bulla, i am some what reserved person,i does not have any specialties in me,so i will not go forward to others,if they approach i will accept,once any one become my friend,mostly i will be very close to him or her,i will treat all my friends equally no partiality,have a nice day
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• India
7 Feb 10
That is really good. Once you accept their friendship, you will be close to them and will not show any partiality. I appreciate it.
@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
7 Feb 10
hi buchi_bulla, thanks for the comment/response,have a nice day
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• China
9 Feb 10
I am introvert. I can't make friends quickly. i need spend much time to make friends. When I just join a new place, I don't know how to talk with the strangers. Now I have worked in the comapny for one year and a half, I only recognize a few people and make friends with two or three persons. But I think, I need not have many friends as long as my friends and I love talking each other and trust each other.
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• India
9 Feb 10
If you have two or three trusted friends, it is enough. What is the use of having so many friends and no one is true to you?
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
7 Feb 10
I'm quick to make friends. I think this is because I make friends first within my community groups. I seek out other disabled people, other women, other LGBT folks. These people are often so happy to have a new member of their group they accept you quickly and teach you the ropes of a particular environment. I do not know if I was a member of no oppressed communities if I would make friends as easily.
• India
8 Feb 10
Very true. It is easy to make friendship in our community groups. But then we cannot restrict to that level only. We have to come out too and extend friendship hand.
• United States
7 Feb 10
I would not consider them friends but more of an acquaintance. After getting to know them better and if we have things in common then we would become friends. I am not quick to make friends because as the saying goes "keep your enemies close and your friends closer"
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• India
7 Feb 10
You are right. In the beginning they will be acquaintances then they will become close if common interests are found and will become friends.
@shan0822 (433)
• United States
7 Feb 10
I'm not the person can easily make friends. When I join shcool/college/work place, I would love to find someone I met or know before. If they is no people I met or know before, I will just try to smell to everyone, and look their eyes and find someone whose eye said"sit here, or hi". or waiting others to talk to me. I think I kind people good at remember people's face, but I can't remember people's name! So I think I will make one or two in the first day to schoo or work.
• India
8 Feb 10
That says you will make acquaintance in the beginning and then after a confidence level is built, you will make friendship. This is safe game and required one also. I too follow the same. Make couple of hai hellos and then slowly develop friendships. Thanks friend for the response.
• Philippines
7 Feb 10
I don't really make friends that fast, cause I'm really shy, and I look really mean ( which I definitely am not. Hehehe. ).. Anyway, I would make friends though eventually, but I don't make a lot of them, just a few close friends would do for me. I am not really the social type, and I would really rather stay home that go out with friends in the mall or something..
• India
7 Feb 10
One way it is better to remain this way friend. Have close friends in one or two numbers and be close with them.
@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
7 Feb 10
I think i will make quick friends. Not only in the school, college, work place but also in the neighbourhood and also in the online too
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• India
7 Feb 10
Oh! That is really very nice of you Vathsala30 to make friends in all the fields with which you are associated.
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
8 Feb 10
Fortunately yes its easy for me to make friends where ever I go because I always do the first move I did not regret being too friendly because I get to meet & be friend other people from other regions.
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• India
9 Feb 10
That is really so nice of you to make friendship by making first move. That shows your outgoing nature. I am sure you must have many good friends.
@neha1987 (58)
• India
8 Feb 10
I Sometime take time to make friends as im an introvert so i wait and make friends but once i make i see to tat i keep them all my life
• India
8 Feb 10
This reminds me of an autograph signed by friend when I was leaving the college. Dear Buchi_bulla keep it in mind That true friends are hard to find When you find someone true Never change them for someone new I am happy you understand the value of friendship Neha 1987