How do you handle differences with your partner?
By alen1982
@alen1982 (63)
Philippines
February 8, 2010 6:04am CST
as the relationship goes deeper differences arise, how do you handle that? would you work it out or just give up the relationship...
5 responses
@longsdogin (454)
• China
9 Feb 10
Hi,alen,I think have a talk works for me,if a problem surfaces I always try to find a way to solve it not to hurt both of us.Sometimes it takes a long time to arrive the common agreement,but the result is very acceptable and both of us r happy.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
9 Feb 10
Of course you should never give up. That's the reason why you are in a relationship because you relate to each other. Being in the state of connectedness, in mutual dealings with the person whom you are having a relationship with. How do you handle y our differences? Acceptance is the key. And patience too, it should be one of the values that we need to possess when you are in a relationship. Another way is to understand even though me might not actually understand. And another thing, I saw this when I was reading a book and its say, "problems arise when the major goal is self-fulfillment". Being selfless I think is also the key to make a relationship work. I know its hard, but we have to try.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
8 Feb 10
we talk....My husband and I are complete opposites so there have been MANY differences that have come up over the past 11+ yrs and in the beginning we would sometimes fight over them..but as time went on and we grew as a couple etc we learned to work it out..talk it over, compromise and so on
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
8 Feb 10
Basing upon this past 7 years in marriage our differences has a big impact on our marriage because we have different upbringing & it is almost a cause in every fight we have but I am the one who always give way or sacrifice for the marriage to work out. Its really a big deal but I don't mind as long as we are both happy having each other we are just both doing the best that we can be.