Do you believe that a a girl and guy can be just friend..?
By canielynne
@canielynne (135)
Philippines
February 8, 2010 6:14am CST
Hello fellow mylotters, do you believe that a girl and guy can be just friend..? or there will be one poin in their life that they will fall in love with each other? maybe temporaruly, maybe at the wrong time, maybe too late or maybe forever? what do you think?
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@thuhuong (823)
• United States
18 Feb 10
A boy and girl can be friends to a certain extent until love enters the heart. So no matter what, when there is an attraction, there's always going to be a little tension whether it be playfulness or just verbal flirting. Love, if possible can help both but sometimes when you're young, you may be blind to things which you don't see that may hurt you. Instead I believe a lot of young people love and fall in love because they are curious but don't really know what love is truly until money comes in. That's a different story. Love and money doesn't mix. When you cross that point, you'll learn a lot about your friend.
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@6precious102 (4043)
• United States
13 Feb 10
I have many male friends that will never be anything but friends.
@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
10 Apr 10
I do believe that a girl and guy can be just friends, and sometimes the best of friends. If things go beyond that, it can change the friendship and if it does, then they were friends first and it makes for a better relationship since they know that they like each other.
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@vigneshindian (203)
• India
9 Feb 10
i do belive in the fact that a girl and a guy can be good frds. in my case itself i have many frds but we have not crossed the line . but yes this delicate question and something related to emotion part.If love happens between frds then so be it we should be happy abt it
cheers
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@luvlymee26 (326)
• Indonesia
9 Feb 10
I think that is possible if a girl and a guy can be just friend. But its not impossible too if one day they can fall in love each other, because there are many cases of the couple who fall in love with their best friend. Well, everything can be happened between a girl and a guy. There are always possibilities for them to be just friend, or more than a friend.
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@tdiamond33 (330)
• Canada
9 Feb 10
I truly believe that you can be friends with a woman (speaking from men's point of view). I personally have a couple close friends that are female plus I have my girlfriend that I live with that I'm soon to marry. Both my female friends I've known for over 10 years anyway, but I feel it is still possible to be friends with the a woman. I feel it all depends on your current status in life. People who are in totally committed relationships can handle the other male/female friends a little better than a single person I would think due to the extra temptation.
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@celticeagle (168420)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Feb 10
Hello. Yes, I do believe that a girl and a guy can be just freinds. This is the best part of a relationship. The basis for long lasting romantic relationships start with friendships. I have had many. I believe in the 'George' type friend from My Best Friend's Wedding. What a great one to have!
@messageme (2821)
• United States
9 Feb 10
not a relationship because then that wouldn't be just friends. It's a relationship, there is a difference. I agree all relationships start with friendships, but if you end up becoming in a relationship then it didn't stay just friends.
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@celticeagle (168420)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Feb 10
True. BUT, if you don't befriend and see then you never know.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
8 Feb 10
i think guys and girls can be just friends. i have two female friends that i am really close to and to me i can't see me falling in love with them. i do love them but just as friends, they are more like sisters too me
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@HansonFan (1653)
• United States
8 Feb 10
I fully believe that a girl and boy can be friends without falling in love. I may "love" my guy friends but I am not "in love" with any of them. I tend to think of them as though they are family, like cousins. Conner is more like a funny and crazy little brother but I could never see myself dating him. I love him dearly, but it would be too weird to think of being with him romantically. Robert and Dylan as well. I believe there is a place in our lives for guy friends and then another place for that special guy.
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@cintoy (1011)
• Indonesia
8 Feb 10
I have seen many cases like this. Boys and girls can be just friends or best friends. There's no wrong in that. There is no need to involve love (as in lovers).
I am having lots of boys friends and girls friends. yet dun have girls as my best friends yet. but to some of my girl friends, we are very close as well. We can laugh as hard as we can without being embarrassed to others.
In some cases, there can be falling in love scheme. I do believe that those lovers from best friends are the best cause they understand each other very well and they are easier to communicate.
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@binagupta (627)
• India
8 Feb 10
according to my point of view yes, the girl and the boy can be a good friend for ever but the people take it in a negative way but they always remain trustworthy with each other
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@soundarya91 (45)
• India
8 Feb 10
ya i believe that a gal nd guy can be friends? coz i ve a fren who s trust worthy nd been wid me n those hard tyms nd till now v re friends . . i won miss his friendship . .
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
I think it depends on the girl or in the boy if they can stay forever as a friend or they will fall in love with each other. There are lot of best friends that have boy and girl partner and after a long long time they realize that they already in love with each other and there are also situation that even they are always together they still feel the same like a friendly feeling for for each other and they don't feel attracted to each other so even they are so close they still fall in love with other guy or girl.
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
10 Feb 10
Yes I believe they can, but it is sometimes hard for me not to feel attracted to some of my female friends even though I know that I shouldn't...
@messageme (2821)
• United States
9 Feb 10
I do NOT believe a guy and girl can be just friends. At some point in their lives they will eventually sleep with each other. Personally I have never known any male and female be just friends without ever having done anything with them. Wich id sad because a lot of people don't have trust for others for this reason.
@Iram786 (498)
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9 Feb 10
Yes I believe girls and guys can be friends. In fact I have more guy friends than girlfriends and most of them are really good friends. If you are friends with a guy there is a chance that you'll fall in love with them but it doesn't necessarily happen to everyone, it's possible to just be friends.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
9 Feb 10
Depends on if the two people involved are mature enough to control each other, and whether they have good self imposed boundaries.
If you are not mature, then you can end up having your emotions get swept away. True for either gender.
If you don't have good boundaries, you'll end up in situations where physical drives take over.
In either case, that's a bad plan, and a good way to ruin a friendship.
I personally have a friend that I have known for 6 years. I helped her twice, have seen movies with her, done a few other things, but always as friends. She's married now, and has a son. But we're still friends.
So, clearly it does happen, and the key like I said, was emotional maturity, and boundaries. Sadly, few people have either, let alone both. Then they wonder way they have a trail of broken relationships behind them.
@bamikalipal (588)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
Hello canielynne,
Yes, I used to have a platonic friend, a very nice guy with whom I could pour out my feelings, my problems and all. He understood me more tnan anyone else, maybe more than I understood myself. He was ever willing to help with his brilliant ideas, opininions and in anyway he could. He even gave advice to my kids. We loved each other like brother and sister. I also gave him advice whenever he was in a delimna. We meed people to help us see the truth because sometimes we fail to see the answers to our own questions because we would be too close to see things in their proper perspective. We never fell in love with each other, such an idea never crossed our minds.
Nothing lasts forever. One day, he had to leave because of a change in venue on his work assignment. I said goodbye with a heavy heart. A few months after that I had to leave to go abroad. Years later, he left for San Frrancisco. We lost touch of each other.
One day, out of curiosity, I made a search on Yahoo, that's how I found out he is in San Francisco. I didn't bother to contact him because, now, I consider him part of history, part of a beautiful past with my precious memories of him to treasure and cherish for always.
I hope that I have answered your question satisfactorily. Have a lovely day, canielynne.
@amaturan (15)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
yes, it is possible that a girl and a boy can be friend but they must noy very close than their girlfriend and boyfriend because it might be something.