Making other people responsible.
By hvedra
@hvedra (1619)
February 8, 2010 10:51am CST
I was reading an article about a woman who gives money to drug addicts who get sterilised. She'd fostered several children who were born to addicts and couldn't understand why anyone would put a child through that.
Now, she gets criticism from people saying she should help the drug addicts be better parents or that her money should be spent on rehab programmes, etc.
If people want to see rehab and parenting skills workshops for drug addicts, why don't THEY provide them? Why do they always tell someone who is trying to do _something_ how wrong they are doing it whilst not doing anything themselves?
I was in a discussion earlier where it was hinted at that because I am a Pagan, it is my duty to teach Christians about saving the planet. Not sure where this thinking comes from Christians are as capable as anyone of being environmentally friendly and how is it my job to tell them?
Why do folks say "you should set up this charity" or "you should do this work"? If it is that important THEY should do it instead of demanding others do.
What do you think?
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9 responses
@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Feb 10
This is all so weird! We all have our views and we have a right to them. I would ignore the negative just like in dealing with children. They say these things because they want to push stuff off on other people AND because they don't have anything better to say.
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@kaylachan (71519)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
9 Feb 10
I know how those types are. I feel those types of people don't feel as if they are capable of doing the task themselves. People should be responsible for their suggestions and actions, but they're not. its part of that strange cycle called life. Though I'd admit I wouldn't do something that I wouldn't want to do myself unless for some reason I physically couldn't in which case I'd make that cry
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@surfette (673)
• United States
8 Feb 10
Isn't it a shame when people have to criticize others that are trying to do good. If everyone did their share, we wouldn't have the sad situations we are seeing especially in our cities.
Some people just like to tell others what to do or what's good for them. Often, their lives are not going that well so they feel superior by telling others what to do. I have a very hard time with these people. If we all mind our own business, do what we can to help others and be positive contributing members of society, we would all get along a lot better.
There are many solutions to the same problem. I agree with you that if these people have a better solution... then they should do it and not just talk about it. Talk is cheap and actions speak larger than words. Two good old sayings that ring true.
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@phoenyxstarr (132)
• United States
8 Feb 10
I think anyone who says that other people 'should' do something are doing it so they feel better about themselves. I don't think I've ever told someone they should do something, not even my children. Whenever someone says I should do something (usually telling me how to raise my kids) I look at them & ask, did you do that? Is that why (insert whatever is appropriate to the situation, but not a good action)? That really gets them to shut up quick. LOL
I do what I do to take care of my responsibilities & interests. I'll let other people do the same. If I want to start this charity or do that work, I will. If not, don't tell me what I 'should' do. Ya know what I mean?
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@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
8 Feb 10
I agree with you stopping telling other what to do and do it yourself. However, I think alot of Christians have so much to say but don't do a thing about it. Instead of putting people down for trying to do good, do something to help the addicts, instead of condemning others for trying to do good in the world no matter what it is. People just love to judge others so much. 
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@MagicalBubbles (5103)
• Canada
8 Feb 10
I agree with you 100%. Most people (not all of them) but most people are lazy and dont want to bother doing anything.......except whine and criticize what others do. It makes them feel important and less ashamed they're not doing anything.
I dont see why pagans should do more than christians......where does that thinking come from anyways!!
When you hear someone criticizing others, tell him/her to put his/her money where his/her mouth is and STFU!!
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@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
9 Feb 10
hvedra,
As they say: "One man's meat is another one's poison" so differences of opinions and prerogatives here is just no stranger here.
There will be no ends especially coming from an environment where the differences are prevalent. I'd say, to each and his own here. do whatever you deem is right and comfortable for you. No point siting behind that chair there and criticize others when we should be standing up and take step forward to begine walking.
Have a nice day.
@scaflone8 (190)
• Philippines
9 Feb 10
I think no one should say that you 'should' do something when he or she is not doing anything. Each and everyone of us is entitled with his on choice of what he or she should. And no one should be judging that. There are just those kind of people who think they can do better but actually they are not doing anything themselves. No one should be responsible for anything that he or she has not caused in the first place. We have the choice of doing or not doing anything about something and people should remember we are entitled to our own choices as long as we are not hurting anyone in the process.
@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
9 Feb 10
Hi,
Nice discussion you've started. I think and I believe that everything is governed and controlled by God in the best way it could be. The conflict we create within and without are all in vain. Everyone has its own way of serving mankind. Let him or her do that in her own way. Whenever one is contributing or at least trying to contribute in anyway he is actually being a means to serve God. As long as there is initiation of welfare, there will be criticism. Spineless people don't come forward to serve others, but they are always ready to find faults.
Take care
God bless you
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