Bad Mom Moment

I have yet to have the pleasure of experiencing my boys being in school, as one is only 10 months and the other is due in june, but im sure when the time comes i will probably face similar feelings. I didnt have a lot of good parenting role models in my life growing up, so i am constantly questiong my motherhood skills, and if i am being a good mom or not. I have learned from other peoples mistakes what not to do, but at the same time, it always feels like there is so muh to do that it is nearly impossible to be a really good mom. I do also have my moments when im exhausted, and my son has been up all night, and all i want to do is put him in his crib and lay down, but i know that would not be right. Sometimes i guess we have to sacrafice our sanity for the sake of our children.

Welcome to the parent club. I don't know one mom who hasn't felt this way at least once in her life; even though many would never admit it. Try the technique of alternating who gets to tell about thier day first. Let one go first Mon/Wed/Fri and the other go first Tues/Thurs and then switch next week. This will cut down on the confusion and let each of them have a chance tell you about their day. Also limit the time that they have to tell their story, if your ride home is 10 minutes give them each 5 minutes. As for the homework battle these are some of the tips we used when our boys were younger. When they got home they had 15 minutes of free time. This would allow time to go to the bathroom, get a snack or just chill. They then had to get onto the homework with the understanding that when they got it finished they could watch tv or play their video games. These were not allowed during their 15 minutes right after getting home. Encourage them and help them where possible. Part of the battle may be that they do not understand the subject matter so it is a struggle for them to do the homework. If this is the case consider a tutor to help them better grasp the subject. Homework will go much quicker and the battles will lessen.