Just Say anything, he is driving me crazy!!!!

hi! i think you should punish him like leave all the things the way he left them, and when he searches for something, because I thing he will if he don't oder his things, then you just say to him, you don't know and you don't care, because it is a mess everywhere and you will not do anything about it, before he cleans everywhere. the second way is to get all his things he messed up all over the house and gather them on some place where he spends a lot of time, on his favorite place in house and doing it every time he mess something until he stops!:) Hope I have been helpful to you!

Seems like i see myself in him ...at times. The only difference is when my wife starts to open her mouth and off i go. Men really has the tendency to rely on women in almost everything. I admit i myself is like that that's why i make sure to give her a good massage every night to compensate for her troubles.

I was gonna suggest reverse psychology...but it seems like his not really bothered with the dirty stuff around the house. Have you tried talking to him about it?

i couln't agree with the one poster here that says, men are powerless when it comes to household chores. i am married, with my loving wife, with 6 kids. and even though kids have their own assignments at home, i still do help in doing chores when some of them needs help or someone is not available to do theirs. i can't tell about your husband why he is acting like that. better do something with him before somebody happen to your relationship.

hi there eurekafemme? your partner dont have a work? i know someone who is lazzy same as your partner BUT he make sure that his body is clean and always want that he is smell good. im imagining your situation and oh my all i can say is..ewwwwwwww im sorry... sometimes i become lazy too and left my room messy its is because im too busy and too tired but im making it a point that i could not affect w/ my house mate. if im in your situation i dunno how long i can hold my temper .... goodluck,,

Hi eurekafemme Just curious, is he always like this, or is it just recently he develop this attitude? He could be depressed. Maybe there is something that his making him feel depressed. Try to talk to him about it and find out the couse. Maybe he needs someone to go up to him and say "I know what is happening is wrong, I am not blaming you but you need to really tell me if there is something not right, that I can help" People who feel depress sometimes feel no motivation whats so ever to do anything. They neglect their hygiene, act differently, may loose interest in things they like. As for you, be strong and see how you can help him. I really honestly think he sounds depressed by your description. And if he is driving you crazy, please understand that depression really wrecks a person, and their close ones. Be strong and help him go through what he's going through. By working together, you'll eventually find strength too. I sympathies you, it must be extremely hard living with him, and it must have drained your energy. It could drive you into depression too. But the fact that your here, seeking opinions is a good sign that you understand there's a need to make things better. I hope things will get better for you, your partner and your kid.

Your partner needs to improve. First of all I suggest he has a shower or a bath every day. He should wash with soap and clean his hair with shampoo. Before he dresses in clean clothes he should put some deodorant on. He should put his dirty clothing in a clothes basket. It wouldn't be difficult for him to put his clothes in washing machine. He should take a daily walk to get some physical exercise. He is a lazy slob and it is time for him to change. Good luck.

hi there eurekafemme, To be honest with you, he sounds as if he may be depressed. Is something bothering him? Does he work outside of the home? Have you sat down and talked with him? Whatever it is, it isn't healthy and must be horrible to live with. I would first talk to him and tell him how you feel and maybe suggest some therapy if he can't seem to pull out of this funk on his own. I also would not enable him to be like this. I would clean the linen and do the dishes myself for my own comfort. I would not pick up after him or do his laundry. If he left clothes lying around, I'd pile them up by his side of the bed. I would not be physically close to him as long as he was smelly.I also would not be waiting on him hand & foot. If he is hungry enough then he'll get up and get something to eat.I would let him know that I loved him but that his behavior is a turn-off for me. If he cares about you and your marriage then he'll do something to change this.

one i wouldnt make him any male, two toss his clothes in a trash bag and make his smelly butt sleep on the couch or floor..

Was your partner always like this? If not you guys need to sit down and have a discussion and try to figure out what has caused this odd behavior. Men and woman both alike can be slobs seen plenty in my time. Not to take baths and care for his own personal hygiene so that his own daughter doesn't want to be near him. That is a major sign of depression. What is he doing on the computer? Looking for work? Playing games? You need to find out and then make some decisions of your own for yourself and your daughter.

hi! my husband is opposite from yours, he always wanted everything in proper places, and he's motto is when you used something, you must return it from where you get it or it will be misplaced.he even helps in household chores when maids are not around,and he is the one who cuts the nails of our kids. :-) i'm shocked about what you have just told about your husband, by the way how long have you been married? is he like that even at the early part of your marriage? i guess not...you have just said that he sits in front of the computer all day long,does it mean that he has on line jobs or no job at all? how long since he's been like that? i can't imagine how can you sleep beside him and how can you make love if he stinks? is he depressed? it's not normal to be like that, if he cannot be responsible to his own self, how much more to his family, im sad to say this to you, but i can imagine the scenario of your life living with a sluggard, it's really irritating and stressful. have you tried to discuss the problem with your husband?if yes,what did he told you?

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Your partner is simply ridiculous, maybe you can leave him for a while let him manage to be alone and feels like nothing he can do with himself, i can't believe why some people acting like that way..They don't consider their partner having hard time tackling all the responsibilities.I find that you have are very patient with him and i can say his lucky to have you tidy up his mess and everything,his kind of person should put in trash LOL.. Try giving him a lesson you know what makes him down then do it to let him realize his incapacity to be your partner. Happy Lotting ..God bless!

Hi eurekafemme, I think you should talk seriously about this matter. It doesn't helps your marriage to grow harmoniously. How long have you been together? Were there a times that you ask yourself, you shoulnot have married this man?

Hi eureka! I feel bad to hear what you have told about hubby. All the symptoms you have mentioned about your hubby’s behavior do not appear healthy. He needs to be treated for his laziness and carelessness towards himself, his health and family. If he continues to go on like this, you will be in more trouble and distress. Please ask him calmly and coolly that why he is behaving oddly and why does not he care for himself or family. Also, please tell him the consequence of his abnormal behavior. I also fail to make out, what made him so lazy and careless. Hope he would mend his ways soon. Please be patient with him, you making arguments may make the situation worse than this. Have a nice day! Deepak

I think we do have the same problem, my partner is also lazy especially with his own stuff. He also could sleep to dirty surface and he doesn't even bother to clean up his room, when Im there I am the one who keep his stuff and clean his room because I cant stay in the dirty place. I dont know if there's any cure in laziness but I think my partner doesnt capable of changing and I am planning to leave him because of his laziness.

Don,t say anything. Get some paperplates for you and your daughter as well as some plastic forks, cups, spoons and knives. Prepare only food for the two of you. Get another laundrybin. Take all his dirty clothes, put it in there and leave it where he normally throws his clothes. Next to it, you put a broom, a bucket, some cleaning stuff and of course our dear friend, the mop. Put some bathsoap, a towel and if he shaves, his razer, as well next to it. He will either ask the meaning of this or hopefully get the point by himself. You still don,t say one word.