are you a good partner?
By donnakristel
@donnakristel (1704)
Philippines
February 8, 2010 8:17pm CST
i think i am not. i have been to different relationships. i did not learn any from my mistakes. somebody told me that i should know how to be a girlfriend.
maybe yes, maybe no. how hard it is to be a GOOD GIRLFRIEND!?!
are you doing your best to be a good partner?
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12 responses
@valkerion (1827)
• United Kingdom
9 Feb 10
Oh well.. I am the sucker in a relationship. I do all her favors no matter what, just because I want to make her smile. But at the stage I am now I don't really care. We are both in love with each other.
Anyway, I am not so sure that someone can teach the other to be a good girlfriend/boyfriend. It depends on the way you feel for your significant other. If you rly love him/her you will be surprised by the things you will do for him/her!
Trust me!
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@donnakristel (1704)
• Philippines
9 Feb 10
what if you get used to it?
and suddenly, the care and favors stopped?
maybe, partly i agree with you.
@valkerion (1827)
• United Kingdom
9 Feb 10
You have to understand that I am not thinking of what I am doing. I am not doing what I am doing to be taken into consideration as the good guy. I just feel like this and act like this.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
9 Feb 10
I'm a pretty crappy partner, really. Part of it is just that I genuinely do have a lot of challenges to face in my life (mental and physical illness, a special-needs child, etc) and so I wind up having to work really hard not to lean too hard on my partner or expect too much help from them. Even when they're all "No I really don't mind", eventually it gets old for both parties involved. The other person starts to feel like they're being used and I start to feel like I'm someone's 'project'.
I'm also sort of a crappy partner because I'm a really major flirt. Though I would never actually cheat on anyone, I do tend to react positively to certain types of attention, and it's really hard for me to stop doing that.
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@donnakristel (1704)
• Philippines
9 Feb 10
thanks for responding. crappy or not. your his partner. period. hahahha
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@donnakristel (1704)
• Philippines
9 Feb 10
ow. good luck to both of you. mine just ended just last week. as a bad girlfriend, it is my fault.
@Allie_xoxo (1063)
• Canada
9 Feb 10
Recently my man told me that one of his friends consider me to be a good catch...I told him his friend was right, I am a good catch.
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@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 10
we were lovers for 16 yrs before getting married for the past 3 years .. during the early stage of my relationship with him was wonderful because he was what i wanted him to be .. then as time went by ... he started to have his own life, hand out with his friends, spend more time at work ... and i started to demand for more attention .. we fought often and the relationship was 'sick', then as time went by
after almost 9 years, i realised that i was making the mistakes... the more demanding i was and the more irratated i was, the more 'ego' he got .. i started to ignore him, i did not stop him from doing his favourite things .. i just concentrated on myself, my work ... he started to miss me ..
everything changed , i changed and he changed too ... and until now we are together for wonderful 19 years
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@donnakristel (1704)
• Philippines
9 Feb 10
wow... what a nice love story.
we have the same situation (but not the years, lol) he was busy with work and i demanded so much time. we fight like enemies. painful words etc. i was tired of fighting. i want to rest. for now. uhmmm...hmm..
good luck for you both! more 19x19x19 years to come.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
9 Feb 10
I think that none of us are perfect. All we can do is the best that we can. The thing about a partner is not how good they are or what they have to offer in my opinion. It's about finding someone that is as messed up as we are and loving them anyway.
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@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
9 Feb 10
mmm..generally I can say that I'm a good partner. I can have a kinda relationship for years with the same guy. I never cheat on him and I could treat him well. that's why I could have long time relationship with a guy.
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@donnakristel (1704)
• Philippines
9 Feb 10
i don't cheat but i don't treat him well.
that's why i am not a good partner. but i am going to change.
good luck to you.
@donnakristel (1704)
• Philippines
9 Feb 10
i totally agree. when it blows up, you forget about your partner and think about yourself. how hard is it to manage!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
11 Feb 10
I believe that about 90% of the time I am a good partner to my husband. However, I will also acknowledge the fact that I also have shortcomings as a spouse too. I know that there are times that I just want to escape the day to day that has become my life and those are the times that I have a difficult time being a good spouse. I will sometimes push my husband and at times I will push him too far and those are the times that I feel like I want to be out of our relationship. However, I have to keep in mind the fact that we have a life together and a family together and I really never want to be without everything that we have.
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@laura_lmaxi (678)
• United States
10 Feb 10
I always try to give my best when it comes to be the best girlfriend I can be, but I do have to tell you that for me it comes naturally, because I really love my partner, for me, the key is always put yourself in the shoes of your partner, and basically don't do to him, what you wouldn't like him to do to you. This has always been my rule, and I have always try to follow it. Also I am sure when you really fall in love you will really be the best girlfriend. When you love somebody you go out of your way to make him feel very especial.
@donnakristel (1704)
• Philippines
11 Feb 10
then you must be really a sweet girl. my guy told me about that. but i keep on forgetting it.
@timasma (123)
• Poland
9 Feb 10
I think I'm OK as in doing the usual things, cooking, cleaning and looking after my family. But I can be a pain, I'm too bossy, I get crossed really easy, I'm to demanding, but I admit what I am and always say sorry and try to improve my nasty way. I'm lucky that he loves me enough to see my good side too.
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@donnakristel (1704)
• Philippines
9 Feb 10
yes, you are really lucky. as for me, i don't say sorry often. i want my guy to approach me first. i know it is not good. but my pride is rising!