what will you do if you're in this situation?
By bluangel628
@bluangel628 (383)
Philippines
February 9, 2010 11:13pm CST
A friend of mine is currently having problems with her domestic life. She was impregnated by her boyfriend and when they told the girl's parents about it, they went hysterical. The boyfriend is a very loving man. He wanted to give the best to his girl. Problem is he did not finish up college and has not found a decent job yet. The girl's parents are so against the union that even though the guy had offered marriage, they disapprove of it and thought instead of just having them live in one roof. The guy's family, being old fashioned, is so against the said set up and convinced the guy and my friend to get hitched even without the knowledge of the girl's parents. And so they did. The girl's parents made a condition before they get together. They asked the guy to get a more better job. Unfortunately, lady luck is not smiling at him and he remained without one. Although he has one right now, but not the kind of job the girl's parents wanted for him. The girl, being my friend had one day confided in me. She's torn between her parent's and her boyfriend, who's now her legal husband. She wanted to show to her parents that she has not chosen wrongly and they are wrong about him. He might not have a degree and a white collar job but deep inside, he's something to be valued. She wanted as well to live with her husband but not wanting to hurt her parents. If you were in my shoes, what advise will you tell her. She's going to have a child and all she's thinking right now is how to tell her parents that she wanted to move in with the guy without hurting them.
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5 responses
@bluangel628 (383)
• Philippines
11 Feb 10
I told her to follow her heart. She is and at the same time using her head. Thanks for responding and happy mylotting.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
11 Feb 10
They are married now but her parents don’t know? If that is the case I think the first thing to do is to inform them! She must follow her heart on this one; after all she is having the man’s baby! I think she should tell her parents that they are now married and that they intend to work hard at their marriage and be the best parents they can be and if they wish to live harmoniously and see the grandchild they may as well accept their son in law who in the meantime should also work hard to prove his worth to his wife’s parents. I wish your friend lots of luck and best wishes for her baby!
@bluangel628 (383)
• Philippines
11 Feb 10
That I think is the best thing they should do at the moment. My friend should somehow be open to her parents and let them realize what she's feeling and what she intends to do. In this case, communication will be open to them and at the same time, they may be able to prove that they are right in choosing each other. Thanks for responding and happy mylotting!
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
We cannot the both parties(parents of guy and your friends)
Their parents had good future dreams for them.
The parents wants them to finish up degree and send them to school to have a good future..but they failed their parents.
The guy's parents esp wants their son to have a good job maybe to help them also when he will have a good job.
With your friend's situation...her parents of course wants her a good life.
A husband with a good job that could give her a comfortable life and for their children in the future.
We can never blame the parents for having ill feelings.
The only solution is...let your friend and her husband prove both parties that they are wrong.
The guy needs to work hard to prove that,their decision for getting married is the right one.
They(your friend and her husband)should worked things together.
If your friend can do anything to help her husband..then,she must do something.
Even if she is pregnant,she can still earn money,in many ways.
They had to make sacrifices to prove their parents with things they've already done.
@bluangel628 (383)
• Philippines
11 Feb 10
My friend is still working to earn up the money they needed. Hand in hand with her partner, they are saving up for the baby. I do hope my friend's parents could find in their heart to accept her husband as a son-in-law. Thanks for responding and happy mylotting!
@jsadzn (2)
• India
26 Feb 10
It is of course a very much difficult situation not only for the girl but also for the boyfriend who is now husband. Above all they did another mistake of having baby at this moment, when their relation is at stake of parent. But one thing I can understand that your friend and her husband are both really in love as well they can come successful from the agony of not acceptable wedding tag from parents. As real and true friend you and other colleagues must courage to provide support both logically and economically.
Best of luck.
@will_win (222)
• India
27 Jul 10
Just follow your heart what its says.The boy offered the marriage proposal than its OK for me until an less if he cares for her and no need to worry .......and let him to finish his collage .......You know their is saying also ........suffer just now and enjoy later
