Would you read your bf/gf's email or text messages?

I would never read my wife's emails,text messages or anything that is meant for her. I trust her and if there is not trust in a relationship then there is something wrong and that needs to be corrected or you should think about getting out of that relationship.

Sorry but I need to say this because I also had gone through this stage. That's girlfriend syndrome... You can search it if you like. All I can say is that I ended up with my boyfriend. He and I did the same thing while he got over it and trusted me,I on the other hand got so jealous. I checked all his emails read all his text messages and the worst we even change phones. Hear this when you're trust gets broken its really hard to bring it back. I know it's really hard to stop yourself and get curious about what's happening. If you always think about it, it would surely happen. I think you should do some productive work. Don't think about it a lot/ All you need to think about is you need to trust your boyfriend. If he cheats on you, you will surely catch him no matter how hard he hides it. If you do caught him again don't just let it go, because even if you forgive him one more time. I think you need to let go because you won't have a piece of mind I suggest you enjoy life don't think to much. A productive relationship is not having a happy ending, It's in the middle of the story that's important. CHILL!SMILE!RELAX and have FUN!

Hello onlyprincess and welcoem to mylot.com! I see that you are failr new to this site and I do not recall having the opportunity to welcome you to this site, I hope that you enjoy yourself here on mylot because I know that I do. I would now like to thsnk you for a discussion I can erspond too, I have been in the same situation as you alomst but mine was different because we actually did brake up over something my daughter's father had did on the internet. What hurt the most is that I was pregnant with your child and you want to send messages to other females basically saying that you regret not being with them, I felt so disrespected behind that. I felt a lot of self doubt as well. The reason how i find out is because he was always on the computer when we were suspose to be sleep, cuddling, him holding me and his unborn child. Well I started feeling distant towards him and I got on the computer after he had left to go help his mom and he was on there sending all kinds of females messages about how he missed them and wanted to be back with them and loved them a lot. I felt like scum because here I am pregnant with your child and you want to do me like this. Wow, was they only thing that came to my mind. So when I confronted him about it all he said, was that him writing those girls did not mean anything that he wanted a family with me. Did he think that I was stupid, obviously! Things between me and him got to the point where I said enough was enough and I called it quits. I refuse to be walked over. Well onlyprincess i could go on and on about my daughter and everything. Until next time NakitaLikely3617 is out!

I have in the past read a couple texts from his ex wife and looked at who else he is communicating with. I felt guilty like I was betraying his trust. I have all of his passwords and accounts but I choose to stay out of them because I have to trust him in everything he does as he trusts me.

I think there is no harm in reading emails or text messages of each other as long as the relation is based on complete trust. In your case as you had a bitter experience and as you trust him now, your decision not to peep through his personal matter anymore is absolutely wise decision. May trust between you grow as strong as rock and your relationship be the happiest one. Good Luck & God Bless!

not i wont read my girlfriends messages and she also doesnt does so . i think its not a good manners to do that . there may be certain things which we should not interfere and mobile is one of them . i dont even touch her mobile . everyone should have some privacy . its not wrong to read your bf or gf messages but i dont like it doing or done ..

I don’t have relationship , but I want to respect my partner’s privacy. We must build a trust in our partner, just think about this they are the one fooling themselves if they become unfaithful. There is karma. When we began doing this, like you what you have done, you will keep on doing this for forever. I am just curious, your boyfriend knows that you know his password, why he keeps on doing it, he didn’t know you will find out? I think that is destined to happen, it is destined for you to find out what he is doing. Unfortunately, if he do it once, he can do it again. And like you said you are always in doubt, your mind will never get peace you wanted. The answer is no, if my future boyfriend will fool me, he will hurt me by doing this but that is his problem not me.

I did read my ex's email one time. He left his account open for me to read, and I was very curious to see what he was writing to these women about. I am not a jealous kind to the point that I told him to stop writing to the women he wrote to just because we were together. What I read was like a slap in the face. He had written a sexually explicit email to another woman just days before I was scheduled to drive over 17 hours to pick him up in another part of the country. This was after he had been with me for several days,and became the beginning of the end. To me it was like I never had him in the first place. He didn't understand how that was hurting me since he didn't "sleep" with her! But to me that is like cheating, if he is sharing himself that way with another woman and especially when we were apart at the time and I was driving that distance to get him. A few weeks later we were apart and he went immediately to another woman, who I found out he had been email writing to since he'd been gone, as well. Learned a lot about him after he left me.

I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you and yes it does tend to shake things up for the better as sometimes we don't know how we are until it hits us. I trust my husband and I trust that he will not do anything to hurt me. Even if I know that he's doing something behind my back, whether it be a white lie, I rather that he let me know so that I don't go snooping around with a hunch on my shoulder. In the past, he was unable to warn me of things like that but now he is aware of that and when we were dating, he put that as an effort which to this day was helpful as it made me aware of everything he was doing which made me trust him more. I appreciate that now and those are the things I love about him. So it might take awhile for you to trust your boyfriend as I have learned but you will love him when you find he is being true.

You would never know what will happen in a relationship or what the other person would be doing. And time would not be an assurance of that too. I too went the same ordeal but it was in a sent item in his cellphone that was with my ex-boyfriend. Trust is a very fundamental element in a relationship and so is Honesty. I would say that instinct kick in at that moment when you not intentionally found out that message on his sent box. There is a small voice in our heart that really tells us when there is something wrong in your relationship. And as what you say. Your relationship might be that strong if you still doubt him. You must be confident and be trusting but your boyfriend must also give you that assurance because if your doubting him it could either that you don't trust him that much anymore OR he is not doing enough to gain your trust back. If I were in that situation I would be giving him one chance and one chance only and if he does it again or he does not do enough to make me give him my trust again, then its better to move on than to stay in paranoia. Giving your trust back really take time but it also needs an effort from the other party to gain that trust back. Remember love is Trusting and Honest. Trust and honesty must exist in a relationship

Hi onlypricess! I am reading my husband's email and text messages ever since. I believe as married couple we are already one and there is no such thing as private property anymore... I believe if the person is allowing you to read their emails and text messages, it is one way of showing that they are not hiding anything from you... And they trust you and openning they life for you somehow...

A long time ago I sometimes maybe always read my girlfriend's email and text messages cuz a long time ago I don't trust her and her doings if she has something to hide from me but I soon realize that she is not that kind of person that would do that kind of thing to me. I read all her txt messages and email and found out that she does really not have something to hide from me, its ok for her that I read her text messages and emails she even offer me to read so and its not my decision to do so. Until now I never read or snoop my girlfriend's emails and text messages cuz its her privacy and I should respect that and trust my girlfriend more not like before that don't trust her in anything she does.

That's really sad to hear that you two had to break up because of that e-mail. I congratulate you two though, for going through that and for working things through. Anyway, when it comes to reading messages I guess it depends on you and your partner. As for me and my boy friend, we check each other's stuff from time to time but not thoroughly -- we believe it's a bad habit that breeds paranoia, which isn't a good thing. My two cents. The two of you stay in love now!

I never read any of my gf inbox messages.. cuz it will be very painful and she may think i don't trust her.. so i never do it..

I have read text messages and emails in my past relationships and based on what I found I decided to break up with him.I should be able to trust my boyfriend and who is to say that he wont do it again. If you have forgiven him you just have to put that behind you and hope that he won't do it again. I am glad my new boyfriend feels the same as me with regards to facebook and myspace and neither one of us have an account there.

My husband has been in a hurry and told me to read some of his stuff and sometimes I send him a message and it bounces back, so I have to see why. Usually he has over 500 messages, 400 of which are people trying to sell him stuff. He doesn't care if he's ever online. So I'm not worried.

I read my boyfriends text messages not because i don't trust him but I pay for it so technically its my phone even though I have my own, he just uses it. Sometimes he will tell me to text a person on his phone because he is dyslexic and I am quicker at texting than he is. As for email and facebook, he has these but doesn't use them. I don't think my boyfriend would be in contact with any of his ex's, he isn't in contact with many people from his younger days. I don't want to be worrying about who he is texting or chatting to, I can worry about every person he talks to. It would send me mad and cause friction between us both.

i am allowed to read my husbands text messages on his celphone and i also allow him to do so on my phone.well,i think what you go through is not unique,i also experience some of that things but i trust my husband and i never stopreminding him that if he does something like that on my back,he should make sure he will not regret the outcome of his actions.it is his freedom to do that thing,and it will also be my prerogative if afterwards i cannot trust him anymore and we will both live in misery.just start trusting your boyfriend but be more cautious.i know,what you go through is painful and i feel sorry for that.just continue loving him if that's what you feel,after all, we deserve to be happy.

I would never read my boyfriend's text and email messages if he doesn't know it. I mean, when we are together, sometimes he makes me read his messages when he doesn't want to read it himself. Hehehe. I also know his email password, but I never use it unless he asks favors to do something or email someone... I think I would never really read it, cause I don't really want my boyfriend to read mine. I don't really have anything to hide, I just don't like the idea of my boyfriend looking at my phone or email behind my back.

no, i don't and i never won't. as you said, the keyword is respect. even among couples, who are supposed to be open to each other, there's what they call privacy and it should be respected... at all costs... reading emails or sms of other people is ethically wrong, messages contained therein are for him or her alone and you should never snoop around...