moving out

moving out takes a lot of courage and a lot of guts, olisaur. but, as they say, you have to when you have to... that happened to my daughter a few years ago. while she was still in college, she asked if she could move out. i said no and told her she can when she finishes college. you know the type of family culture we have in the philippines -- it's just not good for a member of the family to move out, even if he or she is already married. but you know, olisaur, there is always a time for letting go, for letting our children find their place under the sun... for you, moving out is the first step to doing this... finding yourself and your own place... under the sun...

It's scary and exciting all in one. You just have to take it one day at a time and embrace the changes that are to come. It means growing up and having responsibility and being able to handle any situation on your own without help for anyone else. It can definitely be a great learning experience.

You first confirm about your place of stay in the new place. This is very very important. You can eat bread and go to sleep. But accommodation is priority for you. Then see about the security angle. Check whether you have enough money to pay for the rent and food. Then go forward. Other small inconveniences can be set right slowly.

Hi olisaur, I think it is great that you are venturing out on your own! I think that if you are planning on living on your own that it would be a good idea to find some roommates and a good job. Rents are really expensive these days. Best of luck to you!

I don't think I am good at giving the best advice when moving. I did it so quickly. But, I can tell you that before moving, especailly out-of-state you'll want a place lined up. I mean you have to have a place to go once you get there. For a college student renting is probably best. Make sure its something you can afford, and make sure you've got some source of income. (unless you've already secured a job). Renters usually have to have something to fall back on when paying bills. A fixed income won't always cut it. Mind you now you are responsible for taking into consderation of the fallowing Rent, water, eleteric, (gass) -- that last one is possible-- food, and transportation weather it be maintaining your car or taking the bus. Cell phone, or land line are optional, and if you're taking classes online cable/internet also needs to be taken into conseradation. Since you're moving out of state as well travel expences must be taken into acount as well as first and last month's rent, as well as secerity deposit on a place to move in. So have you considered the above? from your post you haven't. I'd reconsider moving until you have something established.

Well I moved out at 17, it is a very scary thing...but if you are ready you'll be just fine. I would say make sure that you have thought things out fully, and you have a legit and realistic plan to make it. Moving alone is really expensive, school responsibilities and work is a big deal too. Although it has been done...

I moved out in June of last year and that was pretty nerve wracking. I definitely understand what you're feeling and going through at this time. We had just secured our apartment and I had just gotten a job and I was pretty much up in the air on what I'd need and how much it would truly cost for everything that I would need to buy in the end. I'm glad that things worked out. I think it takes faith and hard work. Budgeting for some people will probably help with the financial aspect. And, it will take a bit of time to get used to living on your own, but I find that I definitely prefer it compared to living at home.

Anything that we do for the first time can be a nerve racking experience for us. So why not do what you plan and if you don't like it you can always move out and find another place to live. If you end up deciding to move with your friend and their family, pitch in to pay for the bills or ask them how much they will charge you for a month rent. That way no one can judge you for being a free loader.