How do you feel about a couple sleeping together before marriage?

Most people who sleep together before marriage because lust. They will not necessarily be a husband and wife. That many disadvataged are women. The men usually leave after getting pleasure.

Basically it depends on the culture of the country where we belong because there are a lot of countries who allow something like this and they dont give a big deal out of it. Here in my country, this is very uncommon and it is considered immoral to do this. I think its immoral too. Its not an excuse that if two people are in love then they can just sleep together before getting married. Marriage if a beautiful thing and you put out the real essence of it, if you would sleep together before your bond. Its just not right! This is not the kind of value I want my kids to have when they grow up.

Hi laura, I think it has to be the choice of the couple themselves but personally, I see nothing wrong with it. Whether they admit it or not, most couples sleep together before marriage and that has always been true, at least in western culture. I'm not saying that everyone does but certainly the majority. Blessings

Well it depends on how religious you are. I personally think 2 people should sleep together before marriage just to find out if they are compatible. It's important you find out if your partner is marriage serious though because if he isn't then you will be giving yourself to someone who isn't committed to you. And you need to be absolutely positive that he (or she) is being monotonous with you so that you are completely safe against diseases and such. But to be completely safe a couple would need to use protection.

I guess it all depends on the reasons behind sleeping with each other are. If the intentions on both sides are good, then I see no harm. Taking advantage is another story completely. I think a relationship goes a little farther with each new step you take, and it might be a good idea to find out if you will be compatible in bed. Some people have completely different views when it to bedroom things. Your relationship may be messed up because you have really bad differences in how things in bed should occur.

Hi laura..i don't think sleeping before marriage is the right way to understand and know each other. for those who live in liberal country maybe its usual thing but for me its really big NO. beside that, its a prohibited thing in order to my religion, and i believe that. thanx..

For me it's okay as long as both partners have feelings for each other.

this will always be a hot topic between friends and family specially if your family is conservative. i am married for 7 years now and before that we live together for three years. when we are financially ready then we got married. during those three years we did a lot of adjustments for me learned to know each other a little more deeply. what we want and what we dont want. we lay our cards on the table an adjusted to each others imperfection. then we got married for we both realize that we are perfectly fit for each other. it works for us, so i guess it is better to do this way than getting married right away then realizing that you are not fit for each other.

I think is normal now and I don't have to say more about it. If we follow the Bible say that is prohibited but we can accept that is a sin and weaknesses of both the female and male in that occasion...

I think that this is a necessary thing to do, because it allows the couple to get to know each other much better, and get much closer, thus helping to decide whether or not their marriage will be a compatible one, or a failure. After all, if you cannot stand sleeping in the same bed together, how on earth do you expect to spend the rest of your life together?

Sleeping before marriage is no big deal these days. It's getting to know that person while having fun with them. It shows trust and intensity in the relationship.

It happened to me and my husband but I hope that my 3 kids will marry before sleeping together.

Hi Laura, it dependes person to person and circumtences as in western countries it is not a crime or surroundings are making stories but in country Like INDIA, ya still it is an offense, ofcourse socially and traditionally. Now come to point that what is the need to sleep before marriage? ANswer could be with a question that why one marry with other for just physical need, for mental support, may just had a crush with him/her, etc. etc. as we want a perfect match and inbetween of engagment and marriage spending time with each other,talking over the phone, caring for each other gifiting each other etc. make you a special and all time one have feelings of being special for someone. I think thats all is fine enough for knowing a person and making up a dicision but as if all is very well he/she is good looking and nice all the way an after all we do not get what we are looking for and what for THE MARRIAGE INSTITUTION is being made by human society,,, there is no sense of spending such long time for all other activities. if you coming to other part of coin then all things can be managed and repaired only depends how we are taking it up. So again i'd say it is and endless discussion and each one has his/her opinion, as billions of people have billions of choices and each one is differ from other. only thing that how one takes up the things and if you enjoy sleeping with your partner then enjoy each and every second of it without having a doubght in mind and REMEMBER REMEMBER you should know what you are doing and do not regret later on in any condition, if it is mistake then even be thrilled about it and enjoy the mistake, suelry you will love yourself and your mistake and if it is not a mistake then already you've enjoyed alot. So don't be doubghtful about it and enjoy those beautifull moments.

i think if you are old enough both want to do it enjoy it and are sahe about it it is a great thing

I think it has become much more excepted to see this type of behavior from couples today. When I was young and dating before marriage it was looked down upon if someone were to be sleeping with someone they were dating at the time. I think i tend to agree with you saying it is important to know your partner in every way before marriage. Marriage is such a life changing experience and is ment to be forever. I dont think it is good for someone to sleep with every person they casually date. If someone is just sleeping with just anyone and everyone it become less of a special thing. Times change so fast the world goes to being more tolerant of this type of behavior and now theres the whole idea of dating online, partnerships online and cybering.... things never even thought of when i was young.

I am not married and I have slept with my previous couples and I do with my actual one. I think that marriage is a very important step, so if you don't know everything about your partner, it's not worth going to the next step. It's better not to have bad surprises when it's too late.

Many people think this culture develop within western society. The western society legalize this kind of relationship, where as the eastern don't, at least in common, and in several years back then. The western legalize this in common sense of society because it is developed as a normal behavior. As in eastern culture, this behavior is a very bad thing, even something we must hide, not proud of, in this case, before marriage. But I see that even in western culture, some people start to think that people shouldn't do that in the first place. As far as I know, marriage is a sacred condition. And it can never be forgave for such condition that a couple has already made love before. Because unvirginity is a disgrace in common folk's senses. Love is not an excuse for couple to make love before a marriage. Because I think, there must be a cutoff when should people do that, since a marriage is sacred, safe making love within marriage is also sacred.

I think it will be more beautiful if we sleep with our partner after we get married, the feeling will be great. if you have done it before you married, the feeling will not so special. just like usual, routinities, etc.

But if they can not be married, how will they face their future husband or wife? Maybe some people will not mind, but there are many people who will mind indeed.

i think if you are old enough both want to do it enjoy it and are sahe about it it is a great thing