Breaking up with my boyfriend

Hi Chums~ I am so sorry to hear that your boyfriend did that to you! But, I have gone through many relationships where men have done that to me and I survived! Yes, it does hurt really badly and it takes a very long time to get over it, but believe me you will! I am going through a possible breakup right now with my boyfriend of almost three years and when we started seeing each other he was seeing someone else too and it was someone I knew! It was really awful because she once was my friend, sort of. It is a long complicated store! But, now we are living together for over two years and he wants to leave and live on his own. I will be devasted if he leaves me because I love him so much too! But, if he does I will have to go on with my life and get over him too! It will be just like you have to do! It will really hurt me and I will cry and be miserable, but I will have to get over it and I am alot older than you are!

I know it is difficult to love a person who do not love you as much as you love him. For almost two years you have given all your time to this person and your world revolved around him. It is about time you love yourself more. You are a pretty lady and I am sure that you will meet a better man than him.

I understand how you feel but this is a challenge for you. What do you think is in the other girl that you don't have? looks? intelligence? career? money? character? what? is she more loving than you do? is she more caring than you do? With that 2 years that you've been together, I know there are good times in it. Now, try to find out maybe she is more sexy than you? Now improve yourself. Let that person realize that you can be the best that you can be. Don't let him feel that you are hopeless without him. Let him see that you have something to be proud of. Make some improvements in everything in you. Good luck.

I almost experienced the same situation like you.I broke up with my boyfriend several months ago.He brought it up to break up with me first.The reason was we were not suit each other.I was quite painful at that time because I loved him so much I didn't want to lose him.I once thought I owned him as I owned the whole world,which I mean,he meant the world to me.We had many many promises.We thought about getting married and having baby sort of thing.Then suddenly he left me,leaving me alone.I almost freaked out.Step by step I realised he was not that important to me,it was just like my habit to spend my life with him.Now that he chose to give up,I had to accept the truth.I firmly believe I can lead a happy life without him.So I move on.There is no difficulty I can't overcome.Of course you need time.Believe me you'll be fine after that.God bless you.Just be happy and be strong.

First of all, I can't imagine myself broken hearted at your age...must be really difficult for you. You must be facing one of the sad event in your entire life. At my age I would like to tell you that I have had my own share of sadness brought by love. I encountered several cheating hearts myself and it was never easy to deal with. But the only suggestion I could give you is to move on from the sad experience and let go of the fact that the feelings aint mutual anymore. It's hard enough knowing he didn't feel the same way for you now...what more if you continue to hold on when you're not the one he's totally into. He'll just use you if you let it go on, and this is not a good situation especially for us ladies. In a nutshell, please do believe that God created us women to have brains and to be wise in our decisions because we tend to be the ones getting used and hurt in the process of breaking up. Chums1822, you're very pretty and I believe there is no man who wouldn't want to know you and take you out on a date. I know right now is not the time for you to mingle to other men but I guess it won't hurt to try gaining new friends. You'll know what I mean when you'r at the stage of letting go. Good luck. Happy mylotting.

I know you love him. Two years is a very long time. However, if after the devotion and honesty you had given him and still he has the nerve to cheat on you, well girl, all I can say is CONGRATULATIONS that you had discovered his cheating ways early on before it's too late. If the picture I am seeing is your real picture, well then all the more that you shouldn't shed tears. Your ex-boyfriend is NOT WORTH IT! You look like a very charming and intelligent girl. I know it's hard but try to shift your focus on your studies or work and excel. When the right time comes, a better man will appear. Ask for God's guidance and pray the He'll give you the strength to move on. I KNOW YOU WILL! Good luck!

It is really a very difficult situation. It is very hard to handle but you should fight for your feeling. You should accept the fact that you and your boyfriend are not really meant for each other. You should move on. You are still young and beautiful. You are single and available again. For sure a lot of guys will be falling in line to court you. You know, every time there's a door that was been closed, there will be another door that will be opened. So don't be sad too much, be positive. He is not yet your husband, it's still better that it happened earlier and not too late. You know, you should not think like it is the end of the world, what you should think is it is the start of a better life. And you should prove to your ex-boyfriend that it was really his lost and a mistake that he have chosen another girl. What you should do now is stay pretty and take good care of yourself. Move on! Happy myLotting!

Go out and invest in your friends. And move on.It happened to me when I was your age... just two years ago and I did just that. I am so much happier and more independent now.

He made it clear he loves the other girl more, I think thats all you need to know, can't be with someone who dosent love you.

I think you have no choice but to let him go. Its going to be hard of course but you just have to. As he said, he loves the other girl more than he loves you so why bother. Show him you can do it without him. I assure you you will know what is the meaning of love when you meet the right person.

If you really love him then set him free, I know that God has a purpose in your life & i know by doing that its makes you feel more comfortable & i know from time to time you can overcome on it.Just pray to God for more wisdom.

just let him go.his just a guy theres so many guy out there ok.if you are ment to each other he will back to what matter it takes but if he did not comeback ok his not your destiny life must go on.

My suggestion is to you is that stop thinking about him.He must have got a better apple than you.Boys are always like him,never get satisfied with old things,always go for new.In your case,find someone better who is more trustable is your most suitable solution.

I was together with my ex-boyfriend for three years when it all ended, he had been cheating on me and a lot of other things. It was the hardest thing I've done and I felt just like you. How am I supposed to start my life all over again, without him? It took me a long time to get over our relationship but when I had, I realised that I was better of without him. I wish you good luck!

You know you can only say that now that you can’t let him go because you really love him. But that is just now, there will come a time that you will forget the feelings you have for him. He even admitted to you that he loves the girl more than of you, why do you still continue to think about it? It is worth less, you will be only wasting your time on him. My advice on you is to think of yourself now. Of course being alone is lonely, but there are things that can give you happiness. You can go out with other friends and meet new guys if you want. If you only think of him, you are just wasting your time. He fooled you, forget about him. You do not deserve someone like him..

It is difficult when we have to do this in our lives, but please don't feel like you are the only person to whom this has happened, because you are not alone. I've been there too. It was very hard for me when my boyfriend let me know that he needed to break up with me because there was another woman. I knew that I had to let him go because I've always heard the saying that if you love something let it go and if it comes back to you it was meant to be. Well, I let him go hoping that he would one day come back to me. He didn't, but I did meet my husband not too long after this and I've never been happier.

Let go even if you are on the losing end with pain as this will set you free, maybe it was really meant to be as someone who is God's gift to you will soon come your way. It happened for a reason and your best option is to face reality and have enough strength to go on, though it is easier said than done, i hope that you could overcome this and be a better person.

hi i think u should just let him go may be he s not the right guy for u, you will get a better person don worry life is not the end if one person goes away . be happy and make others happy . everything happens for the good

Don't worry God will give you better one someday

you know what sis you have to let go now before its too late..do you want to end up with a guy who doesn't love you anymore?he already admitted that he loves the other girl more than you so what's the reason to stay?you can still find someone who can love you the way you'll love them..time will heal the wounds sis..you should keep yourself busy, be with friends and family and enjoy your singleness and you'll forget him eventually...