Will you still entertain suitors if you are already in a MUTUAL relationship?
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
Philippines
February 11, 2010 4:51am CST
If you have a special friend and you feel that you mutually feel something special for each other but it is not expressed. Will you still entertain suitors or will you be loyal to your relationship though you are uncertain if what is going between you is for real?
2 responses
@m310684 (35)
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11 Feb 10
Finally! I found a discussion that best suits my status right now. I have a special friend who never made it clear to me where I stand with him. He introduced me to his friends as his "best friend who keeps him out of trouble". I personally won't entertain suitors until we clear things up between us. I just think it's unfair for me to go out with someone else..
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
Thank you for your comment. I just have a follow-up question for you. Do you have the courage to ask him? You may answer this question or you may not. I will understand if you're not comfortable answering it. Again, thanks for sharing.
@m310684 (35)
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13 Feb 10
I honestly don't know if I can but i'll tell you this: I actually told him that I love him after a little episode of me getting mad at him for flirting with other girls. He said he knew why I acted that way "because you like me" as he said. But before I went home that night (we were at a friend's birthday dinner)I told him in the parking lot just before I was about to get in my car, "I don't like you ___, I love you". Seems like a cheesy scene huh? LOL!!! Anyways, he kissed me after that and asked me to stay but I refused and went home anyway. We didn't talk about that episode after maybe because he knows it makes me scared and really really embarrassed. We have a complicated relationship. But we never slept together.I'm too scared for that right now. Now, he's far away in his home country and promised to come back for a vacation in my hometown. Maybe then, I would find the courage to ask him.I hope you got something out of this...There are just times when you loose the courage to do something even for yourself and you end up wondering what would've happened if I had done it?
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
Yes, I did learn something from this. Good thing you got the courage to voice it. As for me, I opted to tell one female friend to help me keep it a secret. My case is different than yours so I rather keep it to myself. Otherwise, somebody will get hurt. Thanks for sharing.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
I entertain in a way that if the new guy wants to talk to me or whatever then I talk to him not because I want to give him a chance but to tell him I am already in a relationship. It would be wrong to be impolite to the new suitors just because you are in a relationship. If some guy likes you and is courting you, I think you also need to tell your boyfriend about the new guy. Awareness is also important at situations like this.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
You are in a higher trust level already because you can openly tell your boyfriend. Nice to hear that. Thanks for sharing your insights.
