Lying

..hi blueghost.. well, its too easy to know if your partner is lying because he won't be able to look at you straight to the eyes.. he may look at you but it won't be that long.. sometimes, he will talk with his back turned from you.. but for those who are expert in telling lies, it would be hard to distinguish if they are lying or not.. what you need to do is to examine the changes in attitude and actions of the person as he continue to deal with you.. well, for me, my action would depend on the thing where my partner is lying.. if its about third party affairs, then definitely, I would try my best to get a solid evidence before I make up my mind on what to do.. Maybe, I'll let him chose between our family and his girl and he choses us, then I will give him another chance to prove himself.. but if he continue doing it after sometime, then maybe its time to end the relationship and let him go.. There's no point in continuing the relationship if there is no more love left..

I'm not a good judge of whether a person is lying to me or not, especially since most of the people I've discovered to lie are good at keeping it down. But I make it known especially to the people I'm that once I catch you cheating or lying that's the end of that. If I matter to these people, and they're still lying, they will find a way to make sure they don't lie. I have long established that with my husband. Now it's either he can't lie to me, or when he does, he ends up telling me anyway. I'm not very hard to talk to you see, and I basically let things go. i don't give him a hard time on anything. So there shouldn't be any reason to lie.

hi blueghost..I easily get hurt if I find out that my partner is lying. I will dwell on that-same day when I find out and think very hard why did he resort to lying rather than telling me the truth. I cam easily detect if my partner is lying if he is inconsistent with the details that he is providing me. I easily catch him if he is like that. Even if it's a white lie it still falls under lying. If he will give me a good explanation then probably I'll let it pass and he has to assure me that the same thing will not happen again and starting that day on I would let him feel that he can trust me and will not need to lie again.