When a compliment is not true... do you still say Thank You? :-)

I am not really good with compliments, be it true or not. Whenever I get compliments, I immediately give my retort that would make their assumptions or compliments wrong. Its like something that I have gotten use to do. I would only know when their compliments are genuine if they insist on their claim after trying to deny their kind words a few times.

I don't say thank you, I just laugh at it, cause we both now that it's not true. Wahahaha. Hmmmm. I think what I got is that I'm sexy, which is definitely not true, cause I have huge arms, I also got the "you have a good singing voice" which is also not true, and I'm sure of this one. I also got the "but you are pretty, and then big laugh" compliments. LOL.

That depends actually. If the "compliment" is a sarcastic insult then I will sarcastically agree and say "Thank You". Those kinds of dialogue is usually seen when friends are teasing each other. In that context I can say sarcastic things and agree to insults that I receive but still get no hard feelings. Though when it's from someone that I did not expect. I still might be sarcarstically humble. Taking your given example, I would say "No, Im not that good. Im only slightly good."(as in "medyo lang") and smile while saying that. Then again, there are those situations wherein I would just smile in acknowledgement of that "compliment" and not say anything at all. I guess it would just really depend on the situation, on what was said, who said it and on my mood(basis on how I would react to what was said). Hope that made sense somehow.

Well, I usually thank people for compliments they make, be they true, or not. I usually pay attention to their intonation and manner of saying the compliment, in order to understand whether they wanted to make me happy with that one or to insult me. If it's obvious that the purpose of compliment was to insult me, I usually return the favor and strike back with some sharp phrase.

Saying "thank you" is the best thing you can do. There are people who give compliments not because you're really good at singing the just appreciating the fact that you make an effort to sing in front of everyone. Not everyone has that gift who can sing like Regine V. or Jed M. I myself give compliment not based on the voice but on the effort. Unless, that person has really a bad voice and yet don't want to give up the microphone.

Instinct tells us whether to say thank you appropriately or not. If you feel the person is not sincere, then why say thank you? People has the instinct in determining whether its a lie or not.

Well, just take it as a compliment.. Whatever u think might not be good or best, in yourself, might be good to others, or even much better than them.. lol =D Thus, the compliment is for u.. hehe ^_^ No matter what, regardless of being true or honest, we should always say thank you, because it's hard to gain compliments, nowadays.. haha =D Since u are being recognized for that, so why not take it with honour?? hehe

You are right.We should respect their compliments.Saying thank you is a way of facing it in a polite manner.Who knows,their taste may be different and they could have enjoyed your voice really!So,don't miss the opportunity to accept their praise.People may have peculiar tastes.

If somebody compliments me, and I know that it is nothing more than false, phony praise, I will say "you don't really mean that" to try and coax them to be more truthful. To be honest, I can't remember the last time I was complimented, so I guess I need to cherish every one I get, honest or not

I can't remember, but usually those kind are sarcastic... but I just laugh it off.

Hi CecilleCarmela, Yes I do. I still say "thank you" to those people who gives their compliment. Whether it is true or not. Though sometimes, I can feel in my heart that, what have they commented is not really true. And they are just doing it just for the sake, other people may see them giving good comments at all. For me, I will say thank you because I want to show to them that whatever I done, I have done it with all my heart.

I seldom face this situation, maybe it because I can't judge if the compliment is true sometimes, but I think I will say thank you to someone even they dont deserve.

When I just saw the title of your discussion I thgought, well... you should say something like "I don't beleive that, but thank you". But if I did that, the other person would think I have low self estime or something like that. And most probably the'll ask, why do you think that? or bring a longer conversation. So you are right, just say thank you to be respectfull and avoid missunderstandings. About your last question, the least likely compliment a lot of people tell me is: you are very thin. I know I'm not, I'm about 200 pounds, but my body often gains and loose pouns so when I loose just a little tummy, but still very fat, they tell me that I'm thin when I know I'm not and that really bothers me instead of encouraging me!! Thanks for asking and sharing, Libna!

i think everone is going to have the same experience and i think it is the rule of the this society. even they give the compliement which is not true . they are also for the sake of your happiness. i think i will still say thank you and hone my singing skill to meet up to their compliment. i will take all these as the motivation to make myself progress

When a gay compliments me, I don't really believe them, because I know some of it are insult. I am not generalizing gays out there, I can say there are some who compliments but the real thing is they insult you, they are making fun at you at your back. Anyhow, even girls are now doing it. I appreciate if they will tell me the truth and laugh with me. If I heard a compliment, because I am negative type sometimes I do not say thank you. If they are my peers, I don't say thank you, but if they are professional and honorable people, of course it is needed a thank you in exchange with a compliment. The only compliment I appreciate real is comes from my dear male friends. I believe every man when they compliments women they are saying the truth. I appreciate them.

cecillecarmela they say we always down play ourselves,so I take my compliments with grace and thank the person who gave it as they must have thought a lot better of me, than I ever did. no use not saying thanks.Besides good manners would exclude me saying no I look even older than I am, so yes I thank the giver of nice compliments.

I don't give a compliment to anybody unless I really feel that she or he deserves the compliment. The same thing happens when I recieve a compliment. I don't feel like saying 'thank you' in return to the compliment if I don't feel that I desrve the compliment. It happens automatically. I don't force myself not to say 'thanks', but the word 'thanks' won't come out of me in the above case.

am the type of person who is uncomfortable with compliments. it's like i do the best in whatever i do (who shouldn't?) that if something comes out right then it's the way it was supposed to be and no big deal about it. however, if the compliment involves another person in the end result then that is when i say thank you for doing the best one can is sometimes a no brainer but having somebody involved in anything is quite different. this one really involved a lot of work.

Some times people give out good compliments because they want to be nice. Still I don't really like it if they give me a compliment and I know that it is not true at all. Still people that are close to you will always tell you the truth. It's always better to hear the truth anyway.

It's true that there are some people who make compliments even if you know that you did not do good but there are several reason why people do this. Some people are just sarcastic but some just don't want you to feel bad. Some people think that compliment even if you need to be criticize constructively will boost your morale.