When should parents stop?

Different kids will grow up at different rates and parents have different ideas about when the kid should be completely on their own. Some parents will kick their kids out of the house as soon as they turn 18. Some parents will allow their children to live with them while they go to college. There's no really set place where a kid should be completely on their own, but I believe past 18 they should be making their own financial decisions, and should be completely on their own around 22-25.

Hi Flirtykumquat, Too funny, I'm guilty of this to a certain extent. But I gotta tell you, those same kids your talking about are and will be our future politians! I work for a non-profit government agency, 15 years now, and although we or rather the higher ups make the choices for Summer Youth (little) counselors...instead of getting kids from the community colleges, they get the spoiled brats from very uppitty schools...kids that really don't need the 10-15 $ an hour job! It's a shame. Sorry I went off but it really ticks me off to see the injustices that exist. Getting back to your comment, I must be totally honest, if I had the $$$ I would give my girls whatever they needed or wanted at the same time teach them to be generous,kind-hearted...and also, of course, get a job! ~G~

My children will be required to get a job if they want a car and will have to learn the value of money in their teenage years. At the same time, I definately will not kick them out of my house when they turn 18 and I will always be there for them financially and so much more, I don't care if they are 40. If my son or daughter comes to me needing a place to stay or some money for a legitimate reason I won't even thing twice. They're my kids, thats what I'm here for.

I agree with what you've said here, but also know that it's unfair to judge them because I'm not walking in their shoes. I never felt I owed my children a college education. By the age of 14 they knew if they wanted to continue on or even if they didn't, encouraged them to get part time jobs so they did have the experience of the working world and managing their own money. Some of them were romanced by the idea of that first pay check and didn't think college was neccessary; however, when starting showing them what things cost they got grew up pretty quick. I think that parenting has to be each person's own style. I agree with what you said here and raised my children differently then some do, but I don't think it makes any one person a better parent over the other. Just a difference in the way you do it that's all.

once you are the parents of someone, always you are the parents of them. it is an unstoppable task as long as they love their children. it is not the question that when parents should stop as they keep offer the great love. instead we should think about when the children can be mature and independant. therefore they may be able to take care of their parent. there is no way to stop one's love

As a teenager, I think parents should continually support their children as long as they are alive, that's the role of every parent, to support. But in terms of financial and other aspect, they can stop with it as long as they see that their child or children can stand on their own.But of course those children can't stand and survive if in the first place they are not taught how to do it. Parents must teach their children, slowly, on how to do things independently, they must also give freedom but instill the value of liability or being responsible of ones action.

Hi flirty, maybe being poor had it's blessings. I was never able to spoil my girls like that but as a parent I wanted to. The rule in our house was that as long as you are in school, you can live here rent-free. That did not mean I'd supply them with all the luxeries they wanted. I could not afford to pay for college so that would mean scholorships and student loans which if they wanted it bad enough they'd go for it. I also believe that as a parent it is my job to teach them to be as independent as possible. Three of my girls are grown and yes, I do help out at times but they are all hard working and good people. I do not do everything for them or even close.

This is an important matter, and if dealt with incorrectly could put strain on the relationship between the parties. Kids are all different and they and their parents need to work together to come up with a growing-up situation that works for everyone.

Hi, my parents were taking care of me until I finished my collage, it means they taken care of me about 24 years, I know this maybe too long, but almost all my classmates are same as me, when we were graduated from collage, we had a job, then parents stop give us money, we can take care of ourselves.

Some people get all the breaks. I never got trained to budget, or bailed out of anything. I grew up, then got out, and have been pretty left to figure it out since, been a trip. Learning to budget now, getting ahead in life(almost) even teaching my parents a little about it, not that they listen yet. I appreciate you.

A parent is suppose to help to get their children to be law abiding citizens. They should not be doing and giving everything to their children till they are 30. That will make their children very unstable mentally and non productive adults. They will depend on their parents forever. Parents are suppose to teach them how to grow up to be on their own, living a life for themselves. Once a parent gives a child everything they will except it forever. That is why my girls heard the word "No" alot. I was not going to give them every little thing that they wanted. They have to learn responsibilities at a young age by doing chores. I had a paper route as young as 12 years old. It made me responsible and earning my own money early. Not depending on my parents for everything.

I am also a parent. And as a mother,i will be very thankful to had my kids with me,living with me until they want to settle down. I give my kids their freedom to choose and do things by their own. But forcing them to work at an early age is not my idea. I maybe consider them mature enough to work and live by themselves when they reach the age of maturity which i personally think is 20. By that time,i guess they were emotionally prepared to face life of their own. It doesn't mean that i will leave them..i will always be by their side..to guide and care for them. A mother never thinks her child as matured...but,her child will always remain her baby even of they're already married and had their own kids.

I think this is always a difficult issue for parents. As parents, we want our children to grow up to be self-sufficient. The question is how do we get them to that spot. Part of the answer will be dictated by the resources that the parents have. The more the resources, the more tied to the apron strings the children usually are. But the question of how to launch a child into the world is a complicated one. And perhaps there is some bailing out that has to occur instead of throwing them to the wolves so to speak. But in general, I think that young adults should work regardless of the resources that the parents may have. A strong work ethic is necessary in this society to succeed. Just my 2 cents.

moderation is the best. it is better for parents when her child is still young to try make him understand the idea of work. and after he grow up and become teenager let him work in summer jobs and not force him. and after he passes the teenage period talk to him that he must look for job to live and make familly

I believe that parents will always be there to guide their children. That's their role. It's like when you are going to travel to somewhere, the parents would likely to give you the road map to guide you and everything that will help you in the journey but the ride is always yours. You drive your way to your destination. As for I can consider that I grow up depending to my parents, though not all. I sometimes think that, I wish I didn't and I was more of independent. In Philippines we have this custom, mostly of the children depends to their parents until they graduated or got a job but there are also those even they have job they still live with their parents. This idea is a bit okay to me unless you aren't so dependent about everything. I know a very rich classmate. she got a nanny even until now and that nanny of her follows her almost everywhere, she has a secretary, and she got around 6 credit cards in all. She is so damn lucky to have a wealthy parents. i remember during an exposure in a hospital her nanny was with her and she was late that time. Her anny was the one who take on her hospital gown and put her cap. And someone blab, since she's that popular(LOL), there was a time when she was eating her nanny would even ask her if she still want to eat this and that and then her nanny would give her. Imagine she was around 19 years old that time and until now. She's like a princess. But i don't think this is a proper way to raise a child. I'm not in the position to judge the parents but again, you are supposed to teach your child about life and she's so too far about the reality of life. To think of it, yes I say she has a good life but even if I were in her position, I wouldn't let anyone treat me like that like a princess. i would also prefer to be reserve and not bold. And then there were these 2 classmates of mine who are rich too but they would even ride in public vehicle or walk through their apartment. so reserve. I think I have said a lot. LOL =D