Am I Wrong?
@ScarletAlston (2693)
United States
February 11, 2010 12:17pm CST
So here's the brief version of my situation. I was with someone for about a month and realized that this person got on my nerves. So I ended up meeting someone else and liked them more. Now, I have left the original guy for his cousin and feel good about it. However, I feel funny becuase I never dated relatives before..Was I Wrong?
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
11 Feb 10
I don't if that is wrong dating a relatives that is closest to you. As far as I know if you date a relative that is in third degree that is what they called incest or Taboo. But if that relatives is about fourth degree there is no rule you can violate and no wrong for that matter...
@ScarletAlston (2693)
• United States
17 Feb 10
Thanks so much for the info..that was another one of the things that concerned me a little. They are cousins and I wasn't physical with either of them so I figured I handled the situation well...
@hapsicordable1 (475)
• Philippines
11 Feb 10
Oh well, things like that do happen...but not in a regular basis. Actually it's not a big deal whether you dated them both. It's all a matter of just being open to the idea that they were relatives...got my point? My sister used to date a guy and his cousin...at first it's such a biggie and they ended up fighting and loosing the friendship...but later on it's just no biggie anymore. You know in the end you'll realize who your true love is and who your true friends are...nice topic you started here ScarletAlston...happy mylotting.
@ScarletAlston (2693)
• United States
17 Feb 10
Thanks so much..its like the biggest problem for me is that they were related but now that we got to talk (the one I am with) its like he is still suspicious thinking I am still talking to the cousin. He keeps asking me the same questions over and over so I don't even know what I want to do about this anymore. I am starting to think I don't even need to be bothered with the one I like too..it's too much work trying to get someone to believe what I say.
@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
16 Feb 10
Maybe just a little bit ... lol! In the end of it all though you are never wrong to follow your heart. One should never try to stay in a relationship if your feelings aren't in it. Prolonging the inevitable only makes things worse in the long run and it is never fair for either party. It only gives mixed feelings and that can never be a good thing. I wouldn't sweat it it's over let it be over ... lol!
@syankee525 (6249)
• United States
12 Feb 10
i think its kind of wrong, because it can cause issue with them unless the ex is ok with it for real.
i always made it a rule never date any of brothers ex, and even friends unless i make sure it was alright with them first.
@ScarletAlston (2693)
• United States
17 Feb 10
You are right..the thing is, I was going to tell the one I started talking to out of anger once that I am seeing his cousin but I am not that type of person. I was going to tell the one I am dating now that his cousin won't stop calling me but I don't want to stir up any drama. If they happen to butt heads, I don't want it to be over me..I even tried to get someone to talk to the first one to get his mind off me but it didn't work...thanks for your comment though!
@smukherjee_on_line (578)
• India
11 Feb 10
To me it is very much confusing. I am unable understand what do you want to say.......
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@yresh12 (3210)
• Philippines
14 Feb 10
I don't think so. You don't like him anymore.
What's the point of going on with the relationship if
you don't have feelings for him.. The best thing you could
do settle the break up. Make friends with him and tell him
its not gonna work which i think you already told him.
If there cousins let them talk and see what they think about
the situation right now to avoid arguments and trouble. ^^,
@ScarletAlston (2693)
• United States
17 Feb 10
You are right! Why should I have to be with someone that I consider to be creepy..this fool would be standing watching me sleep in the morning! What is that? Who does that? He would do certain things to set me off and its like he got off on me cursing him out for foolish stuff he would do..but I think what really did it is when he told me that my child (17 months old) should have been his...dude, my kid has been around longer than you have..he was the type whenever my baby said da-da he would get emotional..I didn't need that in my life..I keep having these arguements with the one I am with now about the whole situation and now I am just about ready to be done with the both of them...
@chrystaltears (3392)
• United States
12 Feb 10
First, I hate for anyone to get hurt in romance or any other way. The only thing that I might think would not be right is if they were close like friends, and it came as a shock. I just always felt like their were too many people in the world to pick someone's friend, unless of course, the first guy understood it wouldn't go any where if you cared more for the cousin. There's a whole lot of 'depends on'. Nevertheless, I hope everything works out well in the new relationship and that the guy you broke up with will find someone he really likes too. Right?
