I do not like the person that I am right now.....

I think I have gone a long way to be the person I am today. I do love being me and I have a few things I would change, but it takes some time to do and I am okay with it. I think it is hard for some because they want results "NOW" but what you have to realize is that it really is hard, but if you want to do it, just keep your mind going in that direction and it will just get easier to be that person you want to be!

Don't try, just do it!!! Maybe goodness is really not in your genes. HEhehe, kidding!

Yes, you do know the right direction so I'll just ask a question to get you to think. Do you just react to life or do you think then act???? Yes, you do know the right answers.

How you treat people, and how you talk to people is like a daily habit, and you have to learn to practice it sometimes. You won't change it just overnight, you might need to take a babystep, one by one. How about a small step a day at a time, gradually, you will change it.

I think most people don't like certain aspects about themselves - nobody is perfect after all. But I do believe that recognising our faults and taking steps to address them is what makes us a better person... and this is exactly what you are doing. How we have been treated in the past affects the way we treat others too. I wonder if perhaps you yourself have been hurt before by people you care about? From what you say it sounds like you're on the right track to improving things though - and I hope you find some inner peace in the near future.

I think if you start treating people better and get closer to people you will like yourself better. If you don't like yourself no one will, remember who you want to be and once you start being nice you will enjoy the benefits. It's nice to be nice, I prefer to love the person I am, for that I make sure I treat others the way I like to be treated. Is not hard, if you try it, you will feel better about yourself and that is all that counts at the end of the day. Get up in the morning and think... " I'm going to be nice to one person today" the next day say the same thing but you will be nice to two people and the day after three people, slowly you will get use to it and you will find yourself being nice to everyone. And you will be happy and proud of yourself for making such big, important and positive changes in you life.

anime123 first you have to love yourself before you can know how to love others. my husband taught me a mantra, say aloud I am somebody, I am unique, I am Anime, and really mean it. Now say I am Anime and I love myself. Christ himself said we must loveourselves first that we may love our fellow man. My extrovert husband taught me to be less shy and more outgoing so that people would not think me stuck up or cold to others.I do love the person I m now because I can help[ others now and can talk with strangers even if I must, I am not nearly as shy as I once was. but the thing is you have sunk into this I hate myself thing and you cannot do good things for other people when you are feeling this hatred towards yourself. You are somebody You are one of a kind, Anime you are unique, so tell yourself I love me, so I c an love other people. I like the way my husband helped me to become not down on my self but to love myself aand to love other people too and to show it. you must start loving yourself and it will show.,you will be different believe me.

I love the person that I am now but it never used to be this way! I used to hate myself like you but I attributed this to having low self-esteem. We are all different and handle different situations differently. I too want to get close to people but I feel that I push them away at times but I just cannot help it, I don't mean too. I know that I'm a pretty nice person at heart and I have a healthy respect for other people. I'm sure that you are a nice person too. I love self-help books, I don't know if you have an interest in these types of books but I find them very helpful and they help you to focus on thinking better about yourself. I highly recommend them. Anyway, things will turn out better for you given time. Good luck. Andrew

It is easy for a person to change himself once he realize that he needs to be changed. The realiztion or the need of change is not easy to happen. You can make plans on how you will change yourself to meet your targets. It is not easy though. I changed myself in some regards. First, I thought that I want to be unique like how I am. Later, I thought that why can't I change if I can become a nicer person.

hello Anime, The thought of accepting about your bad behavior proves that you are not that bad like what you think you are. Accepting oneself having rude behavior is not easy,it takes pride to accept bad thing about us. Well,there is nothing late when you start right now. If you think you are pushing people around you to the limit...then,start some changes with yourself. It is not yet too late for every good thing that we want to achieve in life. And,changing your behavior is not an exemption. Start your day with a little prayer and guidance from God. I wish you all the luck...

For me yap because I'm a behave woman many are like me the way I'm treated for them because my parents treat me on how to be a good girl by disciplining me I'm a good girl ever.

all you have to do is to make a reflection to all the bad treats and deeds you are doing and make an evaluation to yourself if among those attitudes towards others give a peace to your mind. if you have done that give yourself a time to change, i know there are still hopes and time to change to become a better person. just pray that you will be guided in all the actions that you want to do.

Sometimes I just like you, I hate what I am now, I want be more nice and good people. I think it's kind normal, right? No one can be perfect, it's good you realize what kind people you want to be, just remember it when next time you talk to friends, and family, improve a little bit every time. I think you will be great, Bless

In today's world , some people got the same problem as you. sometimes it is not because of our own problem, it is because of this society. just a simple example, my gf lend out her money to a women who stand at road and ask for help. the women promise she will return and money as soon as possible, but one week pass, there is no response. my gf said she is not going to trust any people any more. therefore sometimes because of certain reason, we refuse to do what we expect to be, however i think we must follow what we think and do the best we can do