I need Advice MY 5 YEAR OLD is drving me insane HELP!

Has she just recently started acting like this or has it been going on for a long time? My son is 10 and he was diagnosed with ADHD at about 7 years old. I thought he might have it for a long time before I took him to the doctor. She might just be rebelling, but she might also have a problem. I don't see anything wrong with discussing it with her doctor. It is not like you are marching her in there demanding she be medicated. You just want to understand her and save your sanity.

Sounds like she needs a good spanking to set her in line. You're the parent. Act like it.

Wow it sounds like your daughter is a reflection of my 5 year old daughter! She is the sweetest little girl some time, but most of the time I find my self questioning my parenting and what I did wrong. I have been trying to show her more positive in a hope that she will realize that it feels alot better to be praise and get mommys attention then to always be punished. It seems to be working so far, of course we have set backs sometimes, but hopefully I will make some sort of noticeable progress becuase sometimes she drives me completely nuts.

hi ronita dont you see what is going on? she is crying out for your attention and sure the good kids will get most of it, and that just makes the middle kid even unhappier and more liable to act out. she thinks she has a reason to have a temper. she is trying to get your undivided attention to herself. try to make some special dates just with her and go to some place she loves, and assure her she is just as loved as the other two kids. I know what it was like growing up with my retarded sister who got all the attention, and woe be if I wanted something I could darn well do it for myself. oh yes I was the older and also had to be second mom to my retarded sister. I loved her of course but as a little kid I craved my moms attention too. so try this and see if it helps.

looks like we have the same problem but mine is a boy. I have 3 kids, the eldest is a boy and the youngest is a girl. SO far only the second has the attitude that's almost the same as you kid's. He could be a lamb on some days but he also be a tasmamian devil if he has tantrums.

Certainly sounds like middle child syndrome to me. My youngest step son was that way when he is with his mom as she had a younger daughter by another marriage. The good news is that it will get better. Do you find that she acts out more when you are having to spend more time with the youngest child? This may be her way of getting your attention. If this is the case when she acts out place her in time out and difuse the situation; but then give her your full attention when she has served her time out. Also, planning a date with just her, go somewhere simple, to the store or McDonalds, just the two of you. Let her know that you appreciate her good behavior with great praise. Saying to her when she is doing something that you like "I sure do like it when you do _____" will let her know that you are paying attention to her and her actions.

It can be really difficult having to deal with kids but like we adults, they have thier personality and when not guided in the right direction at this age, the could grow up wrongly and become problems to themselves. I would advice you see a specialist in child psychology who would give you good advice and also get some books on child psychology that can tell you how to handle such situations. Wish you success.