Different religion with your lover, what will you do?
@celestialpurity (67)
Indonesia
February 12, 2010 12:59pm CST
There is unwritten law here, in my country, stating only those couples with same religion can be married in the name of law. For those whose religion is different, one of the couple has to change it (at least for the purpose of wedding certification making). What do you think of this situation? And if you were living in this country, going to be married, but had different religion with your love one, what will you do?
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@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
12 Feb 10
Well, in my country, the U.S.A., people can marry and be with people of any race and religion that they want to be with. Now, people who are of different religions and backgrounds can make it work, but it is not easy (then again, no relationship is), and you have to be open-minded about them and their beliefs.
If it becomes too much of a problem, then it will not work. You have to be able to put things aside in order to get along with one another.
I have known many people who have parents who are of two religious backgrounds. My brother's girlfriend's parents are two different religions. Her mother is Jewish and her dad is a Catholic, and in my family this is quite common. Some of my cousins have married people who are Jewish, Protestant, Buddhist, and other religions. It's all a matter of making it work and being open-minded.
@celestialpurity (67)
• Indonesia
12 Feb 10
Yes, i know that in modern countries, especially US and European, it is simpler (i'm not telling it is simple, but simpler) to be married although the couple have different religion.
To be honest, i don't really like that 'unwritten' law in my country, since, in my opinion, religion shouldn't be made as a border. Because it is not, and should never be.
Actually, i have several friend whose parents are different in religion and they get along well. Only, as the question, they can't write 'Protestant' and 'Catholic', or any other 2 different religion on the wedding certificate ^^
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@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
12 Feb 10
No, they cannot write "Catholic" or "Protestant" on a Wedding Certificate, but if you want to you can put it down, it's not required.
@celestialpurity (67)
• Indonesia
13 Feb 10
there are available fields to be filled in my country's wedding certificate. but the fill cannot be different, that what i meant :)
@bjane02 (19)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
...hi... the first problem comes upon deciding where to be wed, & what kind of ceremony should be followed... then where to go to church once every week wd d family... i think that's the main concern there... difference in religion could probably be a source of argument if the couple wont be able to give way for the other. well for me, it doesnt really matter if you have the same religion or not... as long as u have good understanding & agreement, it isnt a problem... all religions believe in the same God... =))
@celestialpurity (67)
• Indonesia
13 Feb 10
i have same thought with you, especially since i am an agnostic, which don't take much of religion thingies. so there will be no problem for me to go to temple by my own, though it look like that i'm not gonna go there in the near future. i prefer stay and spend my time at home than going to such place.
@phoenix8606 (4942)
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12 Feb 10
hi! and welcome to Mylot! I think love and religion have nothing to do with each other, maybe there both are in our hearts, but this are two completely different feelings and we must not mess them!
@celestialpurity (67)
• Indonesia
12 Feb 10
thank you :)
yeah, i kinda agree with you. the law shouldn't mess with that two things
