wWhat would you if you are in this situation?
By m310684
@m310684 (35)
February 12, 2010 6:31pm CST
Hey guys! This is a sequel to my earlier discussion on relationships. Here are the circumstances to help you answer the question:
1. You are from different countries, have the same job and have been friends for years. He is stationed in your country.
2.He treats you like you're the most special person in his life at the moment, taking you out to restaurants every time he's in town along with his colleagues.
3. He hangs out with you at the bar after dinner.
4. He bought a piece of property in your hometown (which he has never been to) and put it in your name because he can't have his name on it.
5. He gives you an expensive gift.
6. He tells you things about his family.
7. He kissed you the day you told him that you love him.
8. He used to flirt with you on the phone but you didn't flirt back.
9. People around you think you're together because of his actions when he's around you.
10. And lastly, he has to go back to his country but promised to come back for a vacation and visit his property in your hometown, meet your family, take them to dinner.
*But he never talked to you about the real status of your relationship. Would you wait for him or just let it go and go out with someone else?
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@apoljuice1 (730)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
That's scary. There's no emotional security because the man doesn't say outright that he loves the girl. It seems like he can spend and for him, that should be enough to keep the woman at bay, and not doubt the sincerity of the relationship. I'm not sure if any international bonds come into play, but if this is purely emotions we're talking about, it seems to me that the things he's giving should be enough to keep you happy. I wouldn't be ready to accept these gifts especially since I don't know why, and where it's coming from. At the point where he buys me a piece of property and puts it in my name because he can't own it, I wouldn't invest too much in this relationship. I want to know first why me, doesn't he have any other friends, and i would look past that property and not have anything to do with it unless he tell me outright that he wants a relationship.
@m310684 (35)
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26 Mar 10
Good point! I am thinking exactly like that right now. See, I've grown tired of thinking about what he really wants. I am a proud person but there was a time when I seemed to forget that whenever he's concerned. About that property, he told me he doesn't trust anyone else but me. Kinda cliche..But now, I realized it's nothing, really. If he comes back and makes things clear, then good. If not, then not my loss and would definitely not end my world..lol! thanks guys!!!!
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
..hi.. well, in your story, it seems you're already in a relationship if I may say.. If you want confirmation, you can always ask him directly.. ask him what's his motive in doing those things? and what's his plan why he keeps on doing those things for you.. It is just fair that you know what's really going on.. maybe he's a kind of a person who doesn't usually speak out what he feels, he is comfortable in just showing you how he feels.. Some men are really like that.. they're more into actions not words.. so there's no harm in asking questions directly.. it will clarify things..
