Why friendship ends?
By careguarden
@careguarden (5670)
Philippines
February 12, 2010 11:05pm CST
We need friends, they plays very important part as we journey in our life. However there are times that treasured friendship ends. What do you think the most common reasons why friendship later ends? Is it because your best friends moves in far place? Or she/he get married and don't have enough time to spend together like you used to? Or both of you are busy with your own life and don't have enough time to communicate often? Or he/she betrays you or ruin your trust?
Way back in High school I've a best friend, we used to spend time together watch movies, go the beach, watch concert, we're inseparable but then he got a girl friend, we rarely talk and spend doing things we used to and I felt being abandoned and I'm deeply hurt, until our friendship ends.
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12 responses
@Hazelrose (2179)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
Hi careguarden.I think the most common reasons why friendship dont last is because of lack of time and miscommunications.Have a nice day.
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@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
14 Feb 10
Yeah, being busy with our life especially when we have our own family could lessen our time bonding with our friends, thus leads to communication gap. Actually this what also happens to most of my friends, we rarely talk and when I need her most she's not around or vice versa. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your weekends!
@Hazelrose (2179)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
In my experience i have friends from my younger days that until now we still have communications through text.I can say that it really depends on us to make our friendship last long.
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
FRIENDS betrayal, that's the usual way friendship ends.
I tried that before your friends gets very upset of you
that she doesn't want to talk to you and says that its over.
I don't believe that friendship ends when you're apart..
It's just that your memories are there the thought of them
lives within you...
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@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
14 Feb 10
Yeah the memories of time we shared with our friends will always be with us wherever we go,as once they'd been part of our journey. However it could be nice when we look back with those times being with them and experience joy and fun, not a feeling of regret and resentment. Well anyway that's life, there's good and bad experience. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy the rest of the weekends!
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
My views "friendship" ends for me if she acted something
that can hurt me. When she broke the trust I have to her.
Those friend talk of you when you are not around. Don't
like that I rather be okay to be talked in front rather
than talk to others your weaknessess or something. I want
real, frank, understanding and can be lean on to and lend
shoulder in bad times and good times. A friend to laugh
with, share feelings, and sentiments and happy peers.
I will end the friendship if she dont share,care, and
understand me as who am I, and break trust and others.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
14 Feb 10
Yeah, problems arise in our relationship with our friends when one is being hurt and not being open to what she/he feels to the other. When the negative feeling you felt towards your friend is being kept due to fear of hurting other or breaking the friendship when in fact it will end no matter what you do.
There's so many things you will learn in friendship that will help you deal with other serious relationship. If you know how to keep and value friendship then surely you will know how to build a stronger relationship with others.
Trust and communication are the foundation of friendship, love is not required but respect and kindness is a must. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy the rest of the weekends!
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
13 Feb 10
I think misunderstanding is the main reason of ending of friendship.. mostly people when feel that their friendship is in under misunderstandings then they don'r try to solve it and it is the main reason to break their friendship.. i think in this situations both persons try to solve this understanding..and talks to each other what is the reason of this.. and i think.. they will find better solutions and don't ends their friendship.. thanking you and keep mylotting always..
@BlueGhost (129)
• Indonesia
13 Feb 10
Yes i agree many friend of mine must end their friendship with their best friend because misunderstanding,,
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
14 Feb 10
Yeah, you're right, it could be because of misunderstanding that's left unsettled for days and later break the ropes that tied you together. In friendship sometimes there are those things that our friend did to us that hurt us but we don't talk to them because we fear of hurting their feelings or we fear that it cause ending of friendship, when it will end up anyway. That it could be best to be open and honest with our feelings towards our friends.
Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy the rest of the weekends!
@sanjeevsingh (392)
• India
13 Feb 10
According to me a real friendship never ends. But if there is some missing link in the friendship or between friends, then only some unwanted occurs. A good friendship is broken of there is some disputes between friends. Another reason of this might be increase in expectation of one with another.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
14 Feb 10
Well the later you mentioned is one of the reasons that break friendship and even in every other relationship we have. Expectations that's not being cater or failed to met will always end up with disappointment and later turn into misunderstanding and conflict. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy the rest of the weekends!
@Hujing (47)
• China
13 Feb 10
Everyone has its own living path, when we walk on different paths, we are easily to miss each other. Maybe there is no betray, no misunderstanding, we just miss in each other's life.There is so many changes in people's life, so when we get a good friend, we just treat them heart to heart, we try our best to help him or her, to make us happy, because that is your moment. no matter what the final result is.When we recall it when we are old, we are so glad that we have so many wonderful experiences. There is no permanent things, I love you until I don't love you.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
14 Feb 10
I like what you said, "I love you until I don't love you." Yeah there's no permanent things in in our life, everything will come and go the same thing as in our relationship with our friends. And the best thing we can do is live in the moment and enjoy the time being spend with our friends and give our best to show our love and appreciation for being part of our life and bringing good company and shared wonderful memories. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy the rest of the weekends!
@zzyw87 (1254)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
I guess it is really just a fact of life. Friends will always come and go, even really close friends due to several circumstances. As for me, I have two best friends. One of them is still close to me. But I'm not able to hang out with her as often as before when we were still in school. As for the other one, I am not that close with her anymore. The reason is that she moved to a different town already. She always says she is very busy. I can't do anything about it so I guess I stopped making an effort to maintain our closeness because I feel she really does not care about our friendship anymore.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
14 Feb 10
Yeah, distance will surely affect our relationship with our friends, as they said, long distance relationship will not work, although often referred on lovers or couple. Well actually I also experience the same thing with your friend. Although it's me who move to other place and although we tried hard to communicate as much as we could but during those hard times that I've been through I loss time to keep in touch with my friend, until I realized that our friendship was dying and too late for me save. But it's okay that's life, the important thing is I learned from it. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your weekends!
@lipstick2009 (1236)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
For me friendship never ends.Friends might be separated by distance or other factors but true friendship has no end.
And one can reminisce the days spent with this friend, and even if a smile is all it
takes to make the memories still vivid, the friendship love is still felt in one's heart.
The bond is still there that one cherishes for a long long time.
@jeannames (303)
• Turkey
13 Feb 10
We must be friends with people deserves our friendsship with people deserves our friendship. People accept you as a friend broke our hearts doesn't
@ksmita (513)
• India
13 Feb 10
marraige, job , transfers ,these are not the reason for end of frienships. its just that you are away from your friend and still miss them. friendship ends mainly because of breaking trust,and not respecting each other.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
14 Feb 10
Well the memory of friends will always be in our heart. In my experience, when one is far and either you and your friend loss contact or fail to communicate, there's always a negative feeling that will make your friendship ends, it may not be quite bad, but the thing is you both slipped your friendship away and the moment you see each other after few years it feels like you didn't know each other. However there are other people where they can pick up their friendhship where they have left and start again. Well another factor is it all depends on the person. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy the rest of the weekends!
@oms_thetruth1990 (164)
• India
13 Feb 10
Hi Buddy,,,,,,
There are lots of reason by which frienship ends......
Like u hve get hurted by smthing they misbehve aur may they hve cheat u.....
for money.......
But go far away and don't hve enough time to spend with them is not means that friendship is come to an end....
Frienshipp is live in hurts......even ur not a live,
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
14 Feb 10
Yeah, friendship doesn't totally end the moment you both parted ways, it's part of your memory and therefore it will never be gone in your heart and mind. When a friend you dearly trust betrayed you then friendship will leave you a not so good memory that will always hunts you and prevent to enjoy the gift of friendship. So it's very important for people to give value with their friendship. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy the rest of the weekends!
@redshift07 (183)
• India
13 Feb 10
Well friendships usually end due to misunderstandings and mainly due to lack of trust on your friend. Or sometimes you just get so busy that you don't have time for your friends any more. These are the incidents that i have encountered. And a friend's moving away someplace should not affect your friendship because even if you see each other rarely you can still chat with him over the phone or maybe on the internet.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
14 Feb 10
Yeah, when you get busy or when both of you were living in quite different situations, like when your friend get married and you're still single, so you spend less time hanging out with each other and when you talk there's always some sort of "I'm not interested" thoughts, especially when one would love to talk about pregnancy and you want to talk about parties or when little misunderstanding sprout and let it grow then totally friendship will lost nowhere. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy the rest of the weekends!
