Am I wrong?

In a way you are right... on the contrary she is right too... i mean she doesn't owe it to you does she? its her life and her choices... I think you should just concentrate on what you have and what is in your control, you cannot control the way people behave, you should live life and enjoy your life with your husband, just change the point of view and be happy for those are there for you... cheers...

I think I know how you feel. My daughter was born very premature and, in the early days, we didn't know if she would survive. Shortly after she was born, we took our son to our community Christmas tree lighting. I didn't want to go, but we were trying to make the holidays as normal as possible for our son, who was six. We saw people there that we had known for a long time and were friends with. Some of them avoided us. It was sad to see people we considered friends ducking out of view to avoid having to talk to us. I guess they just didn't know what to say, or if they should ask how our daughter was in case she wasn't doing well. Still, it just made me feel bad. Especially during the holidays. It definitely changed my view of the friendship we had with these people. I don't hate them, but I don't really think of them as friends anymore. They are just people I know. In my opinion, real friends are there for you during good times and bad. I would rather spend my time with people I know I can count on.

hi dear .. let me tell you about me first : when any of my friends have 'bad things' happen in their life, i find it is not the righttime for me to face them, i will allow them to settle down with their emotions first. i also do not ask them too much over such incidets as i do not want to remind them of those moments ~ i prefer time to heal their pain first before i am involved in their life .. i am not selfish, or i dont care but this was how i have felt since i was young , when my friends father 'passed on', i was 13, i just asked her 'how she was' and adivised her to take care~ but others kept asking how, when ..those things happened .. that was when my friend started to cry n repeat the stories .. then in my early 20s i became a journalist .. and forced to question people who lost their family in accident/murdered/raped .. it was difficult when i saw them crying .. i will just move to the back of line (this was one reason i left that job) when my close 'office mate' had to deliver her baby in 6 months, i called her in early stage to ask, she was crying on the phone because the baby had only 50% survival chance, i could not take it, i just told her to pray n take careof herself and the baby, i called her husband to ask if he needed money .. then told him to keep in touch with me coz i cant face my friend .. you should talk to your friend, be as you were with her, let your problems aside and talk other usual matters with her first ..maybe this other people coming toyour aid have experience in handling such situations .. share ur problems with them i would also avise you to take care of yourself first as your husband needs your support at this time, remember he will be very defensive and emotional , be prepared for it

So sorry to hear about your hardship! It can really open your eyes to friends when something like that happens. Sometimes people get so caught up in their own lives that they forget aboout other people. A phone call a couple of times a week would be great wouldn't it?

I think that you have every reason not to want to talk to her. If you were going through a hard time, she should have been there for you. I know that if something like that happened to my husband, my best friend would be driving three hours just to get over to me and see if she could help. I think that it is sad how some people can pretend to be your friend, but like you said: Times like these will show you who your true friends are. I hope that things go well with you and I wouldn't worry about this Non friend of yours. There are other people in your life right now who deserve your time far more than she does.

I hope that your husband will get well. My father also had a stroke 5 years ago. Half of his body got paralyzed. We don't have money because he doesn't have work and my mom was the only one making a living with the three of us going to school. A lot of their friends came giving financial support and just dropping by the hospital to check my father. Some just called once and some just texted. It brought relief to my mom thinking that at least some one cared and checked on us. Don't ever rate your friend of what they have done for you... The thought that they checked on you and told you that you're okay. That's very touching.. Don't think that way. You should also think have you checked them out if there okay. They may not say it they also have problems and they also need someone to talk to..That's what I think and I hope that this could help you out.. :)

It is when you're down the dumps when you find out who your true friends are. There are a lot of fair-weather friends who can be very nice during happy times when they think they can get something good from you. On the other hand there are those who are just the opposite. I know of one who is not into going to big parties. On a friend's daughter's wedding party, she sent the gift but did not show up. "It's a merry occasion and I won't be missed." One day her friend's husband had a heart attack and no one but her showed up at the hospital everyday. A few weeks later the husband passed away and along with her family, she was in her friend's home everyday after work, to help out and give moral support. Her friend hugged her and cried, "I am sorry for having been upset with you for not coming to the wedding. In times of sorrow, you have been such a comfort and a really true friend to me." Actually, I don't believe in accidents. Things always happen for a reason. God is always good, but when things like these happen we tend to lose faith. But let's look at the brighter side. Physically, your husband has recovered, that's a great big blessing. Not everyone physically recovers from a stroke. He hit his head on the sidewalk and as a consequence, he has this brain injury. God gives us trials, not to make us suffer but to teach us lessons and make us stronger and braver. Through this event, you have found out how good and supportive some of your friends are. They are "angels" on earth that God sent you. Never mind those who didn't show up or didn't help as much as you expected. Your best friend may have valid reasons for not having been able to help as much. She may not be the type who is comfortable being around sick people. She may be busy and may have big problems of her own. Let's give her the benefit of the doubt. Be grateful that she showed up once and called three times. Now for your husband's comprehension and speech issues, I wouldn't easily believe what the doctor said. Yes, he is a doctor, but he is not God. Don't lose hope. Have faith. With God's help and your loving help, your husband has the chance to recover. I've known of similar cases where complete or almost complete recovery has taken place. Talk to him like he has normal comprehension. Keep on doing this and do not ever give up. Give him voice therapy. Ask simple questions and make him answer. Ask him questions related to his job or about his interests. Little by little he will respond. Faith, dedication, strong will and love can do wonders. Do not forget to thank God for every little progress that he makes. I was assigned to a patient who had Parkinson's disease, whose speech and cognitive abilities had been badly impaired. Aside from the physical maintenance therapy, we also did voice therapy. In addition, we had this mental exercise, consisting of simple Q and A and questions about law. He was a brilliant lawyer. I am not a lawyer, so I had to make an extensive research on this topic so I could ask the necessary questions. Believe me, he was able to answer questions and with persistence, his speech improved and became almost perfect. I even taught him new things, like counting in Spanish, naming the days of the week and the months in Spanish, while he taught me how to say good morning in Hebrew, etc. LaurenInLA, I know that you know about these things and I didn't have to spell these out to you. It's plain to see that you are an intelligent and compassionate person. But for now, you are too close to the situation that you are not able to see things in their proper perspective. Let's bear in mind that nothing is impossible if we entrust everthing to the Man Upstairs. We just have to count our blessings and thank Him for all of it. Despair not, think of the glass as half-full and here's a reminder qoute that I've shared with other mylotters and I'd like to share this with you as well. "Always remember to forget the things that make you sad, but never forget to remember the things that make you glad."