What do you think about living together before getting married?
By Hubfee
@Hubfee (665)
Thailand
February 14, 2010 6:44am CST
In present, there are a lot of couple move into one house, living together. This is also including teenagers and young adults. What do you think about this? Is it good or bad? Is there advantages or disadvantages for this? Is it bringing more problems to society?
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11 responses
@phoenix8606 (4942)
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14 Feb 10
hi! I think there is nothing wrong about living together before marriage and it is also a very good testing about that, what will happen after the marriage, because many people can handle it, to live with their partners and it all leads to divorce. And that's why i support the together living before marriage, so that the partners can come to know each other better!
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@phoenix8606 (4942)
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16 Feb 10
hi! i don't think many of them get pregnant, because they live together, because I know many people and also some friends of mine, that got pregnant without living together, because they don't know how to prevent it and to do it when they are right. there are so many methods to prevent the unwanted pregnancy, we all just must look around and read some more books 
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@jezzmay (1845)
• United States
15 Feb 10
I do not think it is a good idea. I will
say I did it and it did not work out for
me. I found out I just did it to keep
from making a commitment. I think that
is what it tells the community and the
people around us. You say to your self,
I am not married, I can walk out at any
time, no strings attached. A cop out.
I know I did it.
Happy posting.
@jezzmay (1845)
• United States
16 Feb 10
There is no sure thing out there. When you marry you
be should aware that it can end at anytime. When you
live together it is the same way. People do not commit
to the marriage like they should. There should be a
commitment that you will stay together, through sickness,
the bad times,and no matter what.
Have a great day.
@blademaiden (734)
• Romania
14 Feb 10
I think living together before getting married is a good thing, because it gives each partner the chance to know themselves better and the other person as well. This way, they are able to decide if they are willing to tolerate the defects of the other person and to accept him/her for whom they truly are.
@Hubfee (665)
• Thailand
15 Feb 10
That's right! It may be good in the long-run. However, living together before marry also causes a lot of social problem, especially, those teenagers or young adult who are not ready to have family but think that they are. Can any parents really accept their children to live with someone else before married, especially daughter??
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
16 Feb 10
I lived with my husband for about two years before we were married. There were several reasons for this, the first and most important one being that we had a daughter before we were married. For us it was important to raise our daughter together as a family from the time that she was born, but we didn't want to risk our integrity in getting married too early. I think that this was an excellent decision for us because we were able to determine that we were compatible in every way and we've seldom had any problems between the two of us since we've been married.
@luvlymee26 (326)
• Indonesia
14 Feb 10
I think that's not a good idea. If the reason is to know more about each other, there are still many ways to do that. I think if the couple live together before married, one of them or maybe both, they will not think about responsibility, because they just live together, they will think nothing can bond them, and maybe one day, one of them will leave easily without any responsibility to their couple (but it depends on the individual personality too). If the couple want to live together, i think they should get married first. And I think there is more advantages for couple who live together in marriage rather than who live together without married.
@Hubfee (665)
• Thailand
15 Feb 10
But about spending life together in one house, how can they know more each other about that part?
If they will not think about responsibility because they just live together(before married), won't that be the same problem in the future when they have to live together(after married)?
Nothing can bond them...Married can bond them? I saw a lot of people divorced or live separately, some even left their children behind.
However, I agree with you about get married first before live together. That's also our culture. But the disadvantages for couple live together after married is they never have experience living with someone else who's not family member, then they will find the difference that they never saw from each other before and it'll lead to fight, unstable relationship because of distrust that bad thing happen without the consent of acceptance.
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 10
Ahh i don't mind about living together in one house if they can protect themselves from unwanted things that may occur, including a fight 
In my thought, why should it be a problem for society if they didn't annoy the neighbourhood around?? The advantages or the disadvantages is depends on the couple itself, how they live together during the time ...
In my thought, why should it be a problem for society if they didn't annoy the neighbourhood around?? The advantages or the disadvantages is depends on the couple itself, how they live together during the time ...
@MrKennedy (1978)
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14 Feb 10
I personally think that living together before getting married is a good idea, and generally has more advantages and disadvantages
By living with one another, you can bond more and get to know one another much better. Thus, living together will give you a far better chance of finding out whether you'd make a compatible partnership or a divorce waiting to happen
By living with one another, you can bond more and get to know one another much better. Thus, living together will give you a far better chance of finding out whether you'd make a compatible partnership or a divorce waiting to happen
@nautilus33 (1827)
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17 Feb 10
~ hi there!I live together with my girlfriend from more than 4 years, and I feel really good, because we are already like married, just we need to sign some papers to be official, but as I told you, i think living together before marriage is good, so that you can becemo to know your partner better ~
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