You just skipped on my response.. thank you!

hello cecillecarmela.. i would just take this matter as nothing personal, i guess. there could really be various reasons why the discussion started skipped your reply, but hey, don't take it personally. we can just reply to some more discussions, as there are plenty of other discussions out there.

cecillecarmela I think I would feel just like you, if the poster could comment back to all the other responses, he or she could darned well comment back on yours too. I never do that as its a tad rude, like you are saying the others are great but you,you do not count. No we should comment on all or not at all, this is unfair to a person who took time and energy to respond to your discussion, the least you can do is comment back to this person. do not pick favorites, thats not fair at all.

One of the set backs on having a discussion that is really popular which has a lot of responses would be that most of the responses that you would get can be identical. Not necessarily the same but, you can almost see the exact idea in responses given by different kinds of people. We can expect that. With that situation, the one who started the discussion can end up responding with the same replies that they did on those initial responses. The other succeeding responses that would share the same ideas from the previous ones would get altered but, none the less, still the same reply. I have read before during my participation here in myLot that, as much as it is indeed nice to reply to each posted response to one's discussion, they should really avoid replying with just their gratitude as it does not merit any value in one's participation in the site. Then, as mentioned before and still being dealt with, the notifications don't always work. Perhaps, one would get a notification that one of their discussions claimed a response yet, when they do get to view their discussion, three or more responses have already been posted aside from the one that they got notified with. Of course, not all members can be that diligent all the time we get to view our discussions. If my posts somehow got ignored, intentional or not, I have no qualms about it. It happens..

When I do that, it's usually because I just don't understand what they're saying or their response is really off topic. And yeah, I know I could just say "I don't understand" or "I don't think you understand what I'm asking", but sometimes I just don't feel like it.

Now I am of a mind that sometimes responses do not require a response back and as such am loathed just to respond for the sake of it with just a "thank you". There have been times where a response I have received has basically agreed with what I had said in my discussion, regurgitated much of what I had said but didn't add anything unique in their response. When this happens I tend not to reply because there is nothing in my opinion to respond to. I tend to respond to those who build on the discussion, deliver their opinion and bring in new angles and elements to the ongoing discussion. But it is very much each to their own and if someone wishes to just say thank you when someone responds then there is no harm done.

if I do not understand what is in the discussion then I'll get through and my time very limited in responding to all. Of course I look around first and if not found something strange I immediately responded. This is also outside the boundaries of my brain. I let it go if I did not get comments from them.

I will feel that also, that my discussion is unappreciated. Because I feel my discussion is the only one that person did not read or he or she doesn't thing of any comments that they will put there. Me I put a comments anyhow, if I don't have anything to think of comments to be put there I just put thank you, because I read their response even if sometimes their response is one liner. I want to let them know that I am happy that they are dropping by on my discussion. Sometimes i can't put a comments on a certain discussion because i am so busy but I make sure when I have time I read their response and I leave a comments there no matter how long or short the response is. I hope some members can do the same, because it can makes us confuse when they did not put even short comment.

I think it's okay. say for example your response happens to be similar in thought to a previous respondent then maybe there no need to put the same response under your comment and even if it just so happened that your response was left uncommented, maybe there's a good reason behind it. Like he said, there are bigger things to worry about.

as i started, i also find time to respond back or comment to all the responses and comments. that goes especially to comments leaving a question. if there is no question asked by the responder, it would be fine and left unresponded and it would more non-sense if you will just comment by saying, "thank you". on the other hand, i will be a bit disappointed if my response is not answered, considering the effort i exerted and especially, if i left a question and get no answer.

This happens to me ALL THE TIME. Don't feel bad! Your DISCUSSIONS get in the HOT zone, so you are hardly ignored. I've seen a couple of yours here lately. Its only ever happened to me once, and for barely a couple of hours. Many of us get ignore much more, if that's any consolation.

It doesn't really bother me, as I am not paid for their comments anyway, and if they don't comment back, then they are the ones losing out. I only get paid for what I do, so if they don't want to comment back to responses, then it is on them. I really can't recall that ever happening though, not that I can remember anyway. I have responded to discussions though, where the ones who started the discussions, didn't comment back to anyone, as they would just leave the discussion and not comment back. I don't know why some will leave the discussions and not comment to them, unless they think they don't have to, as they think they will earn for the responses they receive, but it just doesn't work that way. I just wouldn't let it bother me if my response wasn't commented on. Good luck to you and happy mylotting.

Hi Cecille. You seem to be a very sensitive person. But if it happens to me, (i'm sure it did, i just can't recall ) I would not bother informing the person who started the discussion that he skipped my post. I'm sure there was no intention to skip yours. The only reason i can think of is that you give a comment that don't need getting responded to. A lot of people will no longer bother to give even a thank you note to those who made a post to their discussions. It may be a little insensitive but i think it's not something to get offended to right away.

I am more interested in responding than to start a discussion. Very few discussion I have posted and I will post fewer in coming days. Plagiarizing is very bad. Starer ignorance is discouraging us. And it is very sad feelings if all responds are answered other than me. In that situation I feel that my response is unwanted. ZERO response is also discouraging. But response is depend on the interest of the user. We can't force other to response us. They may not think our discussion as worthy to response. It is a good intention of you to attend all response. Reply to response is like recognition. But is don't feel that if responds are not commented. You can ignore my response if you find nothing to comment on my response.

I've started about 5 discussions and I think I've recieved maybe two responses. I don't know why. I have interesting questions and thoughts but for some reason people must just not like me I guess. It's really depressing.

hmm, i agree with your arguments and feelings about the situation for this. but somehow, we can't deny the fact that mylot allows people to earn some money.. and somehow, this has motivated many people in mylot. sometimes for me, that is my reason too for logging in here. and there are a lot of times that i really exert a lot of effort creating a nice topic for discussions, and yet got no reply. well, i respect those who do not. that they find it not right to respond. what could we possibly do?.. if they are not interested, then fine. if they are, then good. it is just a matter of feeding up to their tastes. and if they don't get or like what we are serving, and the other serves better, then let us be motivated that next time well do so much better than the first. i don't expect that all of my discussions will be more appreciated. but sometimes, it also gives me an idea to think of a discussions that would create an impact in their senses. that is why, when posting, there are also times that we should think of what is in and what is not. and if posting here is just posting for you, then expect nothing less than less attention and appreciation. but sometimes, you are well rewarded when you post here with all the effort and they appreciate it. it is just a matter of acceptance and understanding. that not all people are the same.. better widen your understanding.. thank you!

haha =D I think this discussion suits my mommy!! HEr comments are always being skipped over and missed by the starter!! hehe Well, it's up to the starter's decision to choose, which they wanna comment on.. It's their post after all.. There's nothing we can do.. After all, be it they comment back to us, we are still earning that one cent, and why should they care?? hehe ^_^ When i'm being left out, i will take it as me being the unique comment, with the starter not knowing how to respond to me instead.. lol =D

This happens once in a while.There are some groups in mylot where they comment on their friends' response alone and just neglect other opinions.In the beginning,I feel dejected and left out but later I realized that they are not only rejecting my response but also losing an opportunity to earn something more..

I have experienced that a lot of times, sometimes when I see that my comment was only one of a few who didn't get a response, then I'll read the whole discussion again and just see if there's something wrong in my comment, or it's just not responsable ( if there is such a term like that. hehehe. )... After that I just move on, I mean, what can I do right? Atleast I tried to share my opinion.

I know what you're saying, but I don't take anything too personally here on myLot. I try to comment back on everyone's responses to my discussions, but it's possible I can overlook a comment for whatever reason (it's happened before). When I first started myLot, I quite honestly was fumbling over what I was doing, so I know my first few discussions were left to the cyberworld without me responding (I still aim to finish some of my unfinished business here - but I only have so much time). I notice some people only comment to some of their responses . . . maybe they didn't have time or maybe they could only relate to certain responses. Sometimes I can feel sort of left out, but I won't get angry over it . . . who knows what the reason was.

Hey Cecille, It feel like, I have pictured a movie. Released it in the Cinemas but no one came to see it. Just like a frustrated actor.