are you afraid of committment!!!

There's nothing wrong with choosing to stay single. I think because we're programmed to find love and to look for someone to fulfill us that we forget to find it within ourselves. This situation reminds me of something I was watching on PBS about Human Being and Desiring Companionship. I forgot the professors name but he was talking about how we are like porcupines. When its cold out, porcupines usually search for a companion to keep warm yet when they get too close, their needles poke one another and the two porcupines will move away and continue the cycle of searching for warmth. It sounds pessimistic but to bring it home with a more optimistic outlook on it, eventually some porcupines learn how to keep themselves warm. Trust me this was some enlightening for me too. My point is, sometimes we get so burned by love that we do in fact become afraid of commitment. Im not saying that's necessarily your case however being "committed" to another person is a full time job on its own. You have to put up with their baggage and carry around yours too and eventually you two are exchanging baggage rather than getting rid of them. I guess you can say that I'm straddling the fence a little for I was recently burned by love but I'm still wanting it in my life. There's nothing wrong with ensuring youre freedom and life but also keep in mind you can have a balanced relationship meaning you can be with someone and still have a life of you own. Now if youre speaking on the terms of dating other people then thats something you would have to gauge on your own. The only thing I can tell you is to continue to do whats best for you. If not having strings attached and a commitment is whats going to safeguard your happiness then go for it. But if you do want to settle down with someone just let it be clear of the terms and compromises youre wiling to make in the partnership.

hmmm...am I afraid of commitment? I guess so.. On my point, I'm afraid because of the idea that if I get into a commitment, I'm scared that can't get out it, or something like that. but Back then I badly wanted a Boyfriend, because, I was jealous of my friends having one and also to divert my attention to, or so that people won't think that I'm lonely..and then Again, I was blinded by the whole idea about falling inlove would be nice & not that being in love & be loved is. And then when there came a point that someone started courting me,... I liked him at first or I thought I liked him...I don't know...anyway, when he asked me if he can court me, I freaked out...and I began avoiding him...nonetheless that ruined our beginning friendship..(he was a new friend)...and that wasn't the first time that, that scene happened.. And I really don't know why I'm like that..and then after a year, I begun to get lazy, I don't care about boys anymore(I'm still straight)...hmmm... but still seriously I would like to have a boyfriend but when the commitment part comes in, it makes me want to back out...& no flings either..

No, I'm not afraid of commitment. I'm single because unlike every young man my age... I WANT commitment. I want a relationship that's serious, and not just for the sake of having a relationship or even just because I like a guy and he likes me. I'm not afraid of responsibility, I welcome it. I don't see getting married, having a husband, or having a serious boyfriend as lost freedom. I tell this to guys upfront, and they immediately run the other direction. It's both funny and depressing at the same time.

same as you,I am scared of commitment.I don't want my life to be dictated upon by somebody else.I want my life to revolve on things I want to do and achieve.I want my time to be completely mine.I don't like waiting for someone to call.I can safely say that I am not capable of loving a guy anymore because I am already "heartless".my heart beats for ME, and I can't bear to lose my freedom over a guy who sooner will leave me.