Friends Come And Go

I dont think friendship comes and goes, not the real thing. The real thing only changes and anyone who leaves was meant to leave and it's okay.

Well I have no referrer and no referral too actually so I could not answer your question exactly. But I would say that it is always a pleasure to see an old friend back coming again. I do understand those who could not come regularly or have totally left mylot. I'm sure they have good reasons. Just like me, I think I can't be very active again at mylot within the next few days. I will be missing mylot again.

I agree with the response above. Real friends don't ever go far away. If they do then they were not really friends at all, just acquaintances I come and go but I am always here. I can't possibly be on all of the dicussions by all of my friends here but I do try and get to as many as I can and as often as I can but that does not mean that we are not friends. I don't ecpect anything from my friends either but that does not mean that we are not friends. It goes much deeper than that if it is real friendship. I still have to go and do a dicussion in your 'not interested' interest. I have not forgotten and I am still interested too

neildc I was delighted the other day to welcome an old friend who I had thought had left for good, she was always so full of fun and good humor and made my day with her dry wit. It does feel so good to be one of the first to know an old friend is back. I will welcome all old friends no matter what. I do not do referrals so thats no problem as I can make money without that hassle. So I do welcome all old friends back here.

Friends do come & go on mylot & in real life. It is sad for this to happen but have always heard there is a reason for everything that happens but wonder sometimes what in the world that reason can be.

Hi! On any site where you make good friends they come and go. I had a good friend on another site and she had family problems and she left and hasn't been back yet. I hope she comes back but I don't no if she ever will. Maybe in the future she will. But I have friends that I have made on sites and we chat through our email everyday or we talk on the phone from time to time. But I hope your friends do come back that would be nice for you to see them again.

I have recently returned to MyLot after a considerable absence, and I was so glad to see a lot of my old friends still here. I never had a referrer so just coming back after a while is a joy

Referrer referral don't matter for me. But if my friends make a come back after long time, it'll be pleasant surprise! There are some friends from my initial days who are not seen here anymore. And I don't even know if they promised to come back, for it was me who just went abruptly.. No one was here to greet me back!

yes its nice to see friends come back even after difficult situations-they come into your life for reasons and leave also for the same- some friends are too matter of fact and dont realize the damage they do-others do and dont care- i lost one of my friends recently and i got tired of being afraid of saying how i feel she got mad when i told her she was wrong and she really proved to me-that being right all the time is her lot in life esp when she tries to tell me about my own husband- i simply corrected here and told her in nice way she was incorrect yet if i tried to tell her how i felt about her hubby she would be insulted and furious- i can see why she doesnt work as a teacher-today you have to have flexibility and respect people's feelings in both directions- shes funny/ gifted talented and insulted me so much-if she reads this =i hope she realizes her remarks were uncalled for and cruel- telling us we have no brains to get out of the rain as she stated was inappropriate and shocking- we have been friends for yrs- i can see why she isnt close to anyone!like mother like daughter ??the north country b----! as she called herself when first met her yrs ago-if being right and the fact she doesnt like being corrected when wrong would destroy a relationship then friends we arent! i know she worried with hubby on lay off money etc but we are also-friends need to be supportive with each other esp now- wanting her back as a friend? nope if she chooses to be like this i dont need the aggravation and heartache- breaks my heart she can throw a friendship away but she did this to us once before- sad i think- hope god shows her the way and she realizes i am not the bad guy and was trying to set the record set-shes so argumentative- not good.

Hi best. Frankly speaking, I'm really teary-eyed and so touched with this post of yours. I never left you or any of my friends here. I do come here every now and then, I just don't post, I just read your discussions. You know what I've been going through, you're "THE" only friend that I can confide with. I told you once in the other site that I promised that I will be back here, I will keep that. I never broke a promise to a friend, you're my BOF remember? I just have to clear my mind on certain things that's happening with my life so I can have my mind working again. I don't want to have my comeback post to be a very dramatic one, I wanted it to be a happy one. Ok, back to the topic, on my comeback, I want to see my referrer Long Bangod, posting here again, I will not say that I want to see my referral because he is really active here, and that's you my BEST... P.S. you know where to find me..HUGZ always!!!God Bless

Hi Neil, I give a referrer to a friend once, she opened an account but has never been active, a complete waste of my time, but a friend that I made here on mylot became very close and the this person went away for a very time, then all of a sudden this friend came back, I was so very happy that this friend is back. Hugs. Tamara

Oh neil, you got a bit touchy about those people, I'm not saying you don't have, i'm just telling what I perceive. ;D Well, for me, I don't miss really any of them, since the one who refer me is a friend of mine already and our house is just a stone through theirs. And those I refer, the one is a an old friend already so we still get in touch a bit and the other one is a friend in facebook, sometimes we comment each other there. :) But my 2 referrals didn't even make a question or respond, maybe they find it hard to use but I told them they will just ask me if they need my help, I dont know maybe they are just busy. And my friend who referred me stopped because she said she got tired, but i think anytime she'll be back besides she referral points from me. hahaiz... 0_o Well, I do hope sooner your friends be back. I do wish too that mine will be back, too, especially my referrals. LOL =)

Yes, they do come and go. That's why you have to be careful in telling all you're secrets because you'll never know how long the friendship will last. They might turned out to be your best enemy only in disguise. I was badly hurt by best friends twice so if I were you, just don't be so attached to them. Never hurt to be careful.

if you want to stay your friendship to be strong, make sure that you always have contact or communication to each other eventhough they we're far from you because communication is very important to everyone, in communication you will know every reasons or the explanation you want know why they go or left you behind. i'm doing this message base on my experience, i lost friends, and unti now i dont know the reasons why they left me, but in due time with the help of the internet i will search for them and ask the question in my mind the reason behind it why they left me? coz i'm the type of person who really treasure my friends, i really do and i miss them so much. i want to have a reunion with them, SOON, FRIENDS are the reason why i'm with them, how radical they are, for they're individuality, for they're ever loving heart,and i know it will never end, coz i die without my FRIENDS

I think you are right there that alot of friends come and go in real life aswell as on the computer as in on this site aswell as other social net work sites.When the friends come back on the net or when you bump into them it is a good feeling as you know that they are ok.I think that in life alot of people change friends aswell as they get other interest and what with all the pressures in life alot of people seem to have less hours in the day to socialise aswell.

hello neil, I missed my referrer,she is not active in here now. She comes one day last December and now she's gone again. I know she's busy with her new job,but,i still wish and looking always for her to come back and be active again here in mylot. Friends really come and go..some stays and some gone for good. And it hurts when one friend whom we had a close attachment suddenly out of sight. Well...nothing stays forever..only the word forever will remain forever. Cheer up anyway..keep smiling my friend

I guess people have their reasons why they leave. Maybe they got busier or have other things to do. It is sad though when you don't see eye to eye on things. I guess if it were me, I would give some room for them because people may sometimes be shy to tell what their current state of affairs are. They would not want to tell someone if they are in debt, are broke, or any reason for that matter. But it is also great if they come back. It is true, that people come and people go, but no matter what, we must remain the person that they knew before.

It will be great if you have lot of good friends here, and over time, you built the friendship with them. I will miss them all if they don't have time to come here to join our discussion here. I found many people are friendly and they really helpful to my question. If they gone, I will miss them.

You're right, friends just come and go without even letting you know. Sometimes, you feel lonely if you don't hear from them anymore, but sometimes it doesn't matter, after all, you have a lot of friends in myLot. Unlike family, friends will not be forever there for you. You're asking who I will miss so much in case my referrer friend and my referral leave. Well, I would love to see them back again, because they are both my friends. But if I have to choose among them, it depends on how we got along when they were still around. The best thing is to treat them equally and just enjoy each other's company.

I have no referals or referees. But I guess I would say the same, I would want both of them still here if I could help it. I will actively poke and prod them until they come back!