Do you share your personal matters with friends?
By daliaj
@daliaj (5674)
India
February 15, 2010 3:54am CST
I don't mind sharing personal matters with my close friends. Sometimes it is relaxing to talk to them about personal issues. But, at the same time, I don't prefer to be an open book. I have a good friend who always come up with a few suggestions for all the issues I share with her. I think that the people who draw a thick line between personal life and friends are those who are having big problems in life.
Do you share your personal matters with friends at work?
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21 responses
@drakesuyat (1063)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
yes! especially if it's problem matters. that's my way of releasing stress. but i share it only with my best friend. and i think its the best thing to do instead of keeping them inside. it might explode inside and might cause me problem with my health.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
15 Feb 10
You are lucky to get a best friend like that. I also have a good friend. I don't mind sharing normal and happy incidents in life with friends. It will increase my happiness about the concern. Yes, it is a stress breaker. I have noticed that usually women share a lot of personal matters with friends, compared to men. Thanks for the response.
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@daliaj (5674)
• India
15 Feb 10
I have a very good best friend. She is my formal colleague. She is very soft and doesn't mind listening to me for many hours. She has very little friends and I am proud that I am in the list. I like to make her laugh my sharing all my fraud ideas and carazy plans to her. I miss her at work. We plan for some meetings together once in a while.
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@recycledgoth (9894)
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15 Feb 10
I have always been quite open with my friends, discussing problems and happy to receive help and advice. However, there should be a division between personal life and work life, it is not always a good idea to let work colleagues know too much.
@kaylachan (71773)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
15 Feb 10
It depends on who they are and how I felt about them. If I know them well enough I'll talk, but most of the time I'll stay closed off. Quite often I hear the same old thing, which quite frankly, yeah isn't the way to go. I don't want to hear the same old advice when I'm simply trying to not bottle up my emotions.
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@ALEXFDR (11)
• Portugal
15 Feb 10
I personally dont share my personal matters with friends just because i dont have that kind of friends the best friends.
but if i had them i probably hare it with them because they can help you sametimes.
my mother told me once that who is an outsider see the things in a diferent way and it also see what we can not see.
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@WiseReptiles (854)
• United States
15 Feb 10
The only person I share any personal matters with are my wife and my best friend. I don't think anyone else needs to know and I know whatever I tell them is safe.
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
15 Feb 10
With friends at work........?No!Certainly not.I hope good friendship can be from your childhood friends.I have few best friends to open up all important intimate problems and they have the ears to listen and can think wise to give suggestions.Other friends are not to be celebrated that close.they are all for fun time but not for serious issues.
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@dreamnishu (1247)
• China
15 Feb 10
I don't share my all personal matters with my friends. But some personal matters i share with my best friend. And some i keep secrete always. But i always choose my best friend. I don't share my personal matters with all friends.
Have a good day!
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@JewelLong (108)
• China
15 Feb 10
it depends on what the personal matters are.i like to share some of my family's matters with my friends except something whitch makes me sad,i dont wanna my friends to be sad like me.sharing with my friends,i can get more impotant views and happness.
@rajivmenon91 (82)
• India
15 Feb 10
Yup i do a lot of sharing. My friends help me put in mostly all of my problems. I like spending time with them but i do draw a line in between friendship and my personal life.It is very relaxing to share my thought with friends and i tell them most of my problems. What i dont tell them is something very very personal.Even if there is something personal, i tell them, unless it is very very personal.
@mak9839 (16)
• India
15 Feb 10
there is nothing wrong in sharing the personal matters with the friends, but there should be a "laxman rekha"(limitation) of it. this depends on you that how much or up to what extent you are going to will explore, reveal and disclose your most personal issues. therefore, there should be some limit of everything and this limit may be different for different people.
@lhadie (32)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
Before, yes I do share almost everything in our group, close friends. But i just realized that there are some friends who will say things just to make us feel better but not helping at all. now, I share things to those friends whom I know are true and would really help me all the way,and I can lean on.
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
I do share some of my personal matters but I put a line on deeper matters. So usually the petty ones are the ones I share just to get some of their thoughts on it. I usually keep issues to myself because I do not want anyone getting mad to people I am mad to. I just do not want to come out as someone who shares everything to everyone.
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@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
16 Feb 10
Yes i always share my personal matters with my friends.. but not wit all friends.. only one of mine friends who are my best friend.. and always helped me when i were in trouble.. and also he gave me good suggestion when i needed.. so i always share my personal matters only with him.. thanking you and keep mylotting always..
@mdbanks123 (41)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
Sometimes, I do confide personal matters with my friends. I am very careful who to share my problems though. There are friends who are very talkative and cannot be trusted. The only thing that I don't usually open up to friends are my marital problems which should be kept within the walls of our home.
@ksmith61 (33)
• United States
16 Feb 10
I'm like you. I share parts of my life with friends, usually when I'm looking for direction on something. However, there are some things that I keep to myself. I think an equal balance between the two keeps your relationships with your friends interesting while still keeping a part of your life for you.
