What to do when a pesky D.O.M. is hitting on you?
By hrvillares
@hrvillares (98)
Philippines
February 15, 2010 10:30am CST
Ugh. Recently, there's this guy aged mid-40s who's been sending me unwanted romantic signals. I won't go into detail how I met him but he gives me stuff such as food and offering to carry my things. It's really disgusting since he's old enough to be my father and his eldest son is only atleast five years younger than I. Last week, he was asking if he could invite me for dinner (mind you, on Valentines day). I've been leaving for work everyday earlier than usual just to avoid him because he rides to work in the same van terminal I go to. But still, he's been bugging me through text.
He's really making me uncomfortable and I can't believe he has the audacity to entertain romantic notions with someone who could pass as his daughter. What should I do to get him off my life?
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5 responses
@arystine (1273)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
If he is still persistent (to the point of ruining your day/making you paranoid), then it's time to be brutally honest. Tell him that what he is doing is improper, for his age. If he still doesn't get it, then be rude whenever he keeps talking to you in case you two get to ride on the same van. It's really time to tell this guy off.
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
Hmmmm...sounds like your in a tough situation right now. it's bad if the guy is married but if he's single then all you have to do is tell him you don't like him. The guy probably is experiencing midlife crisis right now. The more you avoid him the more effort he'll exert to pursue you. Be brave and confront him and tell him what you really feel.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
hello there,
i think you should be honest to him..tell him what you feel and what you think but in a nice way.
maybe you can also change your cellphone number so that he can't bug anymore through text.
your story reminds me of my boss way back then, he's already annulled to his wife & even older than my father! haha know what? he offers me wedding! argh! i am just working with him for how many months and yet he has the guts telling me that he likes me & would want to marry me! nah...i told him i don't like the idea, i am already marrying my boyfriend & i don't like him...
and after that day, i don't report for work anymore and ignore the text messages & calls from him...haha
if you don't really like him, he can't do anything.
i think love don't really see anything wrong with age. haha it just so happen that you don't like him that's why you feel disgusted...
@sunyskies (126)
• United States
15 Feb 10
That sounds like a tough situation. Maybe you could talk about your boyfriend (even if you don't have one) just to give him a reason to think you're involved with someone else. Or you could mention that he is the same age as your father or your uncle, making a point that he is too old for you. If you can't find any other way, I would just tell him that, while you think he's a nice guy, you're just not comfortable dating someone when there is such a big difference in your ages. Good luck!
