My 2 year olds development

Embarrassed?? What ever for? Kids develop at different levels and rates and 2 years old is pretty young to be concerned about them not knowing colors and shapes and stuff. At two years old, they're still pretty much a baby. One 12 year old doesn't walk any better than another because they learned to walk at 9 minths old as oposed to one who learned to walk at 12 months old, this is really no different. Parents spend far too much time worrying about trying to make their kids better, smarter, fatser, etc than another...in the end, it ammounts to nothing really. Parenting is not a competative sport. Just raise your child the best you know how and enjoy this time with them. These years go by very quickly and in no time, you will be standing at their high school graduation wondering why you were ever so worried about them learning shapes at two years old. Oh....I don't know what ECFE is, but from the sounds of things, you should keep you child as far away from it (and the over achiever parents that go there) as you can.

Every child is unique and thus what some 2-year olds can do doesn't necessarily apply to all. Your parenting skills should not be measured by the mental ability of your kid. There are several intelligences in every person and logical and verbal intelligence are just two of them. Just be your natural maternal self to your kid and enjoy him while he's young. You'll soon discover his smartness in several ways. These are just my thoughts...I'm not a parent yet but I've taken care of some nephews, nieces, and young cousins and have been around kids in primary and intermediate level for the past 17 years. I've seen how children metamorphosed at different age levels depending on their maturity. So don't beat yourself up if your 2-year old kid can't recognize A, B, C or red, white and blue he'll get to it when the time's right for him. Salute to all the loving mothers out there! To my mom in heaven, thanks for letting me be myself!

i don't have the exact explanation to this. but in my experience, as told by some experts in child birth and babies, you start teaching them while inside the mother's womb. i see some difference with kids given so much attention by parents. they starting talking to babies, right after delivery. they keep on talking to them, even we know that they could not understand us. but as they grow up, you could see that babies grow up smart... my two year old son, though he can't read yet, knows how to sing the abc, and can already count from one to ten. he knows that this is abc when he sees the abc chart or the keyboard of the laptop... i can also say that he is smarter than any other kids with the same age. he can remember a thing or an event, even if you tell him about this and that, once... i know this is not so amazing to others, but with 6 kids already, i can say that he is smarter if not the smartest or the brightest of them.

Hi Elsa! Do NOT compare your child's development to that of other kids. It will make you crazy and could stress out your son unnecessarily if you try to push him. As xfahctor said, your son is still a baby...he's not used to socializing in a group setting and it's easy to understand how that can be intimidating. If he's shy, he's shy...if he's not outgoing, he's not outgoing. Every child is different. My kids are all grown but, when they were young, I had some friends who were so competitive! They were so proud that their child had stopped drinking from the bottle first, or was potty trained first, or could recognize some letters and colors first. I refused to stress any of my kids out like that. I was not their trainer...I was their mom...so I took my cues from them. All four of them turned out fine and I doubt that any of them would be a genius if I had pushed them.

He may just be a slow to warm child.Its very hard not to compare your child to other children their age.My first-born daughter didnt want to interact with other children.She would rather play by herself.She didnt let me know how much she really knew until SHE was ready. She knew more than I thought she did!My pediatrician reassured me that she was fine because I had concerns just like you. My second child was completely opposite,I think she learned faster because she had an older sister to teach her.Now I have 3 children and they all have been different at learning and playing. Maybe those children in the play-group have older siblings or they just have a different personality than your son. Ask him questions and see if he likes the ECFE or wants to go there. He may like to just watch the others.If he doesnt want to go there maybe you can take him somewhere that he does like.Maybe the playground or outside,or to the library.Read lots of books its a great time spent with your son and will help so much when he starts school.Dont be hard on yourself,you sound like a good mom and I'm sure you're doing a good job!

You are not doing anything wrong it takes time and they have to want to learn the stuff and be ready. I taught my daughter how to write her name at age 2 1/2 and she loved learning after that. It's all how you do it. I taught her on her favorite toy the magna doodle that made it so it was fun and seemed like a game to her. When she got frustrated we would stop for a bit try again later. She would bring it back 5 minutes later to try again.