Are you in good terms with your in-laws?

Unlucky for me and my kids coz we're like outcasts. It's not our loss anyways. I have grown tired of winning their acceptance. I just console myself with the saying that whatever we give out, it will come back to us three times.

I would say I'm on a neutral basis with my in-laws. I too don't live with them so I don't face the difficult day to day awareness which families tend to do. I don't get the bickering about how come I don't cook and tend to my husband. Instead, we visit them on holidays and when we are free. I feel that has served us healthy since the beginning. As I know that I would be overwhelmed by the sudden change of being in a new family and being told how and what to do. That would drive me up the wall considering that I feel like an American, I want to have the freedom to make my choices, not be controlled. So I'm at a good position which is smart as well.

Mother-in-law jokes will get a laugh quicker than anything because almost every married person lives one. I got along very well with my daughter-in-law and her entire family. She even called me her best friend. That is, until she decided to abandon her 3-year old baby and my son. I never saw her for over two years. Even then, I managed to keep a civil tongue and hold my bitter thoughts to myself. After all, she is still the mother of my grandbaby whom I love very much. It made him feel good when she finally decided to come back into his life for Sunday visits even though it took some time for him to get used to her again. It would serve no purpose whatsoever to create hatred toward her. He is nearly eight years old now. We were looking at an old slide show on the computer with both families together. He asked me why we never got together anymore. He remembered the good times from before his Mom and Dad split. He asked me why we never got together anymore and did I still love his Mommy and other Grandma and Grandpa. I was really surprised that he remembered since he was so young. Also, he has Asperger's and although he was traumatized by his Mother's abandoning him, I did not expect to hear that he still carried those memories of the family gatherings so vividly.

Though there are some ups and downs sometimes, i am still living with in laws,and i take it as good thing, as marriages are for not only for a couple to be together,but for two families to respect and be for each other...at times it feels that we lack privacy, but then there are some plus points of it...

I love my parents in law and I am very thankful that they are nice people; in fact I prefer them to my own parents! Sadly my mother in law passed away in 2008 and we all miss her terribly. My father in law came over to visit us at the beginning of this year because he lives on the other side of the country. My daughter loves her Grandpa and wishes she could see him more often; she is still reeling from losing her Granma. It doesn’t seem fair...

I don't have much relationship with my in-laws since we live several towns and cities apart. The children do get excited when we visit them in the province but after a while they get tired from not doing much so we go back home to the city again

Its very true that relations are better when people don’t live together for a prolonged period…distance always softens the mind and relatives are welcome when they drop in twice or thrice a year maybe. However, I too feel that I am lucky in the sense that I lived with my in-laws for 10years but it was a most cordial relation. We had our issues no doubt about that, but none of us ever let those skirmishes get the better of our understandings and inter-dependence on each other. As we grow up, we have a lot of misunderstandings and issues with our own parents and siblings but we don’t keep those in mind for ever…I think that is the truth to understand and keep in mind. If we can do it, then our relations with our in-laws can never become strained inspite of living together…BUT it has to come from both sides…I mean even the in-laws should remember that even their kids were not always obedient but that did not mean that they are not on good terms with their own kids…same should apply to the daughter-in-law.

I am on great terms with my in-laws. I actually like them, well actually love them a lot. I couldn't have asked for better in-laws. They are the best, they always are there when we need them and we always have fun together when they visit.

i'd like to say no comment but my mother in law separated from my husband's father and left my husband in the care of his aunts and uncle and had 3 more children from 2 different men. plus she used to regal me with her new guys. duh? there is still much to tell but i'd rather not. so i think no one can blame me for not liking her. everyone has a flaw and just because they are old doesn't mean they can warrant love and respect. those two are earned and not entitled to an individual by mere association.

I want to believe I am in good terms with my in-laws. My mother-in-law tends to talk behind your back and I hate that. But I choose my words wisely around her so she won't be able to say anything bad about me. But then again, in-laws tend to find any fault.

hello kat, Count me on! I am lucky to have my in-laws...i never had any big issues with them. Most of the time,or i may say...all the time,they are with me Yes,they believed me more than their son. It is becoz,they know their son very well...(they know his bad and good sides) that is why,they know i am telling truth when i complain about their son. They love my kids esp my daughter...maybe becoz she's the youngest girl in the family,and that's the reason they adore her that much.

Yup, we are. As a matter of fact my wife is is good terms too with my parents. We never encountered a problem with each other. Sometimes, they advices us on how to bring-up a family and most of the time, we took them seriously. Luckily, I'm one of those few who had a great in-laws.

hi kat me and my son are living with my in-laws now with out my husband, my husband and my father in law bought the house so we consider it as our house, as one family. since we had a small family so the house is just fine and comfortable to live in. my parents in-law are just ok, they are kind and I am not a perfect daughter in-law either. But I would say I am lucky because they're a good people.

I think I am also one of the few who gets along well with my in-laws. My husband and I living in a compound just five steps away from my in-laws house but its okay. My in-laws are good people. I just cant believe someone wants to destroy my relationship with them. I just hope that if that girl would have her own in-laws, someone would also destroy it so she would know how it feels like with what she is doing. lol

So far with my fiance, I have met most but not all of his family. From the ones that I have met we totally get along and sometimes we even hang out together. Even before I met my fiance all of my past relationships I have always gotten along with my boyfriends family. I do not know what it is about me, but their mothers and fathers always thought that I was the perfect girlfriends and all the others were the wrong choice! :)