how old were you when you moved out of your house?
By abitcurious
@abitcurious (1422)
Philippines
February 15, 2010 11:07pm CST
Well, technically I didn't move out of our house yet when I went to high school. I lived in the province but I got a scholarship for high school outside of our region so I was forced to live in a dormitory. From that day forth, I was just visiting my home in the province. I was 11 then.
It was quite challenging but since I missed all of my friends and my family. But when I got the hang of living far away from home I started exploring more and more and I began enjoying my new life. I think it contributed a lot to my being independent.
How did you go about living far away from home and how old were you?
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15 responses
@mylesnarvaez (5451)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
wow, eleven... you were still so young then. but it speaks a lot about learning to become independent at an early age... people tend to be more self-reliant, self-sufficient, resourceful and grow up faster. hehe
i was 16 when i first moved out of our home from the province to study in the university. although back then i get to go home every month. but as i got older, home visits were less often. even more so when i started work and my 2nd job had a lot of traveling entailed.
yes, living away from home gave me enough freedom to do things the way i want and started to look after myself and rely on my decisions. it was great when the family supported me in my decisions knowing that i'm responsible for all my actions. i became independent at an early age, long before i left the home base. so it wasn't so hard to live away from the family... eventhough we are very tight knit.
@mylesnarvaez (5451)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
it must have been one big fun adventure back then. great for you.
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@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
It was. One of my most funniest moments was the first time someone used a cuss word at me. I was so angry. I wanted to go home without finishing my studies. It lasted for a day
@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
yep a bony 11 year old kid. It was fun though everybody was going away from their homes the first time so we sort of bonded together a lot.
@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
Wow, you must be smart . waht I nice chance for you
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@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
That is not slow in our country's standards. How come you went to germany for college? Or is that too personal?
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
17 Feb 10
Hi abitcurious,
Wow...11 is so young to be on your own. At 11 I was wanting to be independent but had a ways to go...quite a ways. I know my main goal was to be independent and on my own. I moved out once I graduated highschool. It was way tougher than I'd imagined but I loved it all the same. I think I was born desiring to be independent. "Even as a little kid, I remember building forts and pretending to be on my own.
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@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
Not exactly on my own since we we're a hundred or so in our dormitory. But I'm the same as you. I can't picture myself tied down in one place all the time.
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
17 Feb 10
I moved out from our house when I was 10 years old because I studied in town and my parents where living in the province. Until high school and college I stayed away from home much more when I finish my studies and get a job. I live away from my home just visit my parents every vacation time. It is nice to be independent. I had that when I was young at 10 years old.
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@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
started out young too. good thing you weren't freaked out.
@laura_lmaxi (678)
• United States
16 Feb 10
I went through the same thing as you, I study in an school specialized in science and math, this was high school, so I live my home at 15, we lived also in a dorm, and we would go on weekends to visit our families, then by the age of 18 I went to college living away of home also. So I guess i have been on my own since I was 15. At that early age it can be a little bit difficult to live away from your parents, but I think it is doable.
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@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
it is! it can be done and there's no stopping it once you start. You soon find out that going back home is quite limiting and the world is out there for you to explore.
@brandy_wine (80)
• United States
17 Feb 10
my dad kicked me out of our house a week after i turned 17 years old. i was still in high school. and i was working full time. dad and i just didn't get along, he said i was too much like my mom. needless to say, mom and him were divorced for years. so i moved into my mom's house, so i could finish school. i was there about a year. then i got married. and moved in with my new husband.
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@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
That really sucks. Here in our country most parents wouldn't dream of kicking out their children. It's quite a scary thought for many parents here. In that aspect of our culture I'm glad.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
16 Feb 10
I was 18 when I moved out. My mom and I didn't get along very well so I had to get out of that house. They gave me 6 months, said after that I'd be wanting to move back home. I moved in with my boyfriend and 2 friends into a house. It worked okay for a month or so but then I broke up with my boyfriend and he moved out. I ended up falling for our male roommate. Then the other female roommate moved out because she was homesick and she felt like a 3rd wheel. We didn't live far away from my parents house though, about 4 miles. At one point when we were still dating we moved out of state for a few months, but we hated it, so we moved back. We got married and had kids and ended up buying a house a few blocks down from where we first lived together. I love gloating at the fact I never had to move back home. Especially since my sister went back 3 times lol.
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@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
So sad that you didn't get along well with your mom. Well..soem relationships are just like that and are too complicated. IT really is exhilarating when you can prove to someone that you can do it even if they don't believe you could.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
16 Feb 10
Hi, abitcurious. I moved out of my grandmother's home when I was about 20 or 21 years old. I got so tired of being tied down. I wanted to get out there and experience all of what life had to offer me. She was very strict on all of the girls in the house. I was the first one to ran away from home. And then my other three cousins followed after me. Then lastly, my sister was the one to leave as well. In 2006, she got her own apartment. I also stayed with my aunt in another city but in the same state. I stayed with her for about 10 months and then I had to come back home. I was forced to by my grandmother. I liked it there where I was living at. It was very peaceful and I had more better opportunities than I did when I came back to my old hometown.
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@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
so sad you had to come back. I hope you still find a chance to have it your own way.
@pengbubu (1011)
• China
16 Feb 10
I moved out when I was 12, I was studying in Junior high school. I went home at weekends. When I was in Senior high school, I went home once a month. I went to study college at 18, and I go back to home twice a year. I studied in another province, it's about 25 hours by train away from my home.
It's really a challenging experience, I learned a lot via living outside of my home. Great topic, Thanks.
@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
Thanks pengbubu. Does your name have a meaning? Good thing you were able to go home during weekends. We had to stay in our dormitories because a lot of us were from far provinces.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
16 Feb 10
I moved out of my parents' house, when I was 21 years old. I completed my post graduate degree and got job through campus selection. So, one month after the exams, I decided to move to a different city out of my state to take up the new job. I was happy to move out of the state because it was the first time I stayed outside my house and also in a different state.
@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
it's so nice to try out new places. I like it when noone knows me in a place. IT's like having every chance to reinvent myself without thinking of someone's expectations. I can even contradict myself and explore my boundaries.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
I was 17 when I decided to leave my parents' cradle. JUst like you, I am a homegrown province lass but decided to study in the university in Manila. I lived in a boarding house and was only privilege to visit my family in the province during Holiday season.
When I graduated, I did not consider going back home but instead found a job in the city.I get so used to being so independent that the thought of living with my parents again after 17 years of being on my own is quite scary for me. (My parents are really conservative and they think that when you are living in their house you have no right to be doing your own decision. It must always have their approval.)
That's why I am doing my best to buy a house for my little family. :-)
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@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
Yeah my sister, a college grad at that, still lives with my folks and she still has a curfew. So I hear a lot about making decisions from her. She's never gone away from home because she works near our folks house and she can't afford to have her own place yet.
@good2go2001 (915)
• United States
16 Feb 10
I was in highschool when i moved out around the age of 16. I think it helped me to be independent more but in some ways i think i was nowhere near being ready to live on my own and should have waited. Now i have children of my own and they are at the age to move out but seem they are not ready to be on own. I think since the economy is alot worse now it is harder for kids to move from home younger.
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@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
IT keeps getting harder to find a job when you are still young because a lot of people are more qualified than you are. It's quite convenient for young adults to just stay with their parents. But I think a little encouragement from parents will help.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
The first time I moved out in our house when I was 20 , 20 years and 1 month to be exactly. I worked Abroad, at first I find it hard to live all alone, but thinking that I need to work for my family makes me stronger. Just like you.. I think living alone can have more freedom. Isn't? Though it's hard to live alone, but I would say that, It was my best experience ever. I returned back after 2 years.
I finally left my home and my hometown when I was 23, I got married at the age of 22, moved away after a year. I missed my family and my hometown.
But I'd able to coped up now. It's been almost three years since then and now I think im fine with my new home.
Happy lotting.
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@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
Missing everyone is the hardest part. But then you discover yourself a little bit more along the way so it gets easier overtime.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
16 Feb 10
I had to leave my home at the age of 18 for graduation and later on PG. It was very hard for few months without family and old friends. I missed my parents toooo much specially my mother. The food that we used to cook was not very good, we learned cooking being out of house. Still I am out of family but we are 4 brothers staying together,so its like a family without any women.
We all are happy together and expecting a women in the house soon :)
@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
That was I missed when went to college, too. Home cooked meals. I could never cook the dishes like they do it at home. And back in college I have to save my allowance so I end up eating instant food.
@ganesh_bala (294)
• India
16 Feb 10
I think i was 8 years old........... not sure friend
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