are you obliged to send money home?
By abitcurious
@abitcurious (1422)
Philippines
February 15, 2010 11:15pm CST
my mom has a very different insight about me contributing on our house's expenses--different since she just isn't like everybody else parents.
the first time I earned something I tried giving it to her. I said it would help her with my other sibling's tuition or expenses but she gave it back to me. She said she did not cover my expenses because she was expecting something in return. she did that because she was a parent who loved and cherished her child's dreams. It was a parents obligation to support that.
Well, I guess I'm lucky for having such an enlightened parent. It's not as if she doesn't need help or anything. But it feels good that I can give back without feeling obliged to give and not feel guilty if I can't spare anything if I didn't have extra money.
How bout you? Do you still have to send money to your home? How do you feel about it?
6 responses
@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
Yeah she is. Yes gifts are the only things they accept these days.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
actually my parents didnt ask money from me before but i used to send them money at the province coz i know life there since they dont have job already even if we have house thee but they still need money for food and to pay for their bills. since we are 8 siblings and im the youngest most of us sent money to them as we know they need it. besides i cant just imagine myself having fine and in good times with all the money i have while my parents are suffering in the province due to lack of money. i guess its time for them to just relax. and o now that im going to have a baby soon. they still help me financially as they are the one who talk to my other siblings to help me in my needs. im grateful to have them.
@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
4 Mar 10
wow, you're really lucky to have a very supportive family (you, your siblings, your parents)
and your parents are lucky to have thoughtful, supportive children in you and your siblings.!
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
12 Oct 11
After I read your discussion, I felt about it, because I don't have such obligation stay in my mind, and I just keep on spend money on my own. I felt guilty, and I should give some money to my parents too to help out the family expense.
Even though your mom won't need your money, but you can still help out your mom and insist her to take that money.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
When I had my first job, my mother didn't give me the obligation to pay for some of our bills but I did give her money for the bills. At that time, all of my siblings were done studying and my mom was still working so she can obviously can pay for everything. But I like paying for some of the bills because I feel useful. And I like that feeling because its one way to help.
@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
IT feels nice to help if you're not being pressured to do it.
@will_win (222)
• India
27 Jul 10
Ever since my parents were divorced and i am the eldest daughter so i have to sent money to my mother because she hardly gets money from her job.We two contribute and she spent this money for my sister and bother school fees and other house household stuff and i feel good and relaxs that i can help my mom
@debbygirl (213)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
hi!
I see that this has been posted 3years ago, but anyway i'll share to you my experience.
We are not a rich family, so when i graduated college my parents and siblings asked me to send them money. So every time i'll receive my allowance i'll divide it for them and for me. But there are circumstances that i cant because i have needs to meet too. When that happens i started to receive messages from them that i don't care about them and that im ungrateful and alot of hurtful words. I think your lucky having such a understanding mom, but i cant blame my family, we are really in need that time. :(
