Philippines: "Renewable Marriage" proposed

This is plain BS to me. This is even worse that divorce if you ask me. These guys are presuming that after 10 ten years of getting married you'll have enough of it so it's optional to renew it or not. What if you don't have plans of separating? does it mean that you have to go through all the trouble of finding papers so you can renew your contract? I'm sure those who are married here are aware of the hassles of preparing for paper works in preparation for marriage. The guys who are proposing for this new bill are nuts really, this new policy would only come up with more problems than solutions. If majority is against divorce why should anybody approve of a 10 year marriage contract?

One thing I have always admired about Asian people, is the fact they understand marriage is a "one time for life" deal. I love that. I am more inclined to marry an ethnic Asian, than any other women. I can't stand women in America, because they just up and divorce any time they are not happy. What? No Cable TV?! That's it divorce! I met a girl who was PLANNING her divorce BEFORE she got married! She was telling me about how she had separate bank accounts with money in it, that she had hidden away, so that if she got divorced, she had all this hidden money. Planning out a divorce before you get married? Sick!!! Now Asians that grow up here in the US, are just as bad. But ethnic Asians are totally different. You marry, and you are married. One man, one women, together for a life time. I would take a nice Asian girl over an American girl any day. What's my point? Do not lose that. It's a beautiful thing. It's a wonderful aspect of your culture. It's more attractive than all the jewelry, lip stick, makeup, hair highlights a woman could put on. Look what happened in the US. We made divorce easy, and now we have a massive divorce rate, and no one stays with anyone. Do not go there. Bad plan.

Maybe it's just because my "religion" has a form of this that I think it's a good idea. Sometimes, WHEN and WHY people get married is wrong. To force anyone, male or female, to stay together regardless of what they realize...is sortof cruel, especially if their spouse is abusive in some way... Perhaps I'm just not very traditional...but I've always believed that people deserve options rather than lack thereof.

Well, I think its not a bad idea. I mean, the only ones who would be reminded to renew their marriage contract would be those who have problems with it. If the couple is really happy with each other, I think they wouldn't even remember renewing their marriage contract. It would be better if it could be like this: if the marriage contract does not get renewed after the span of ten years, it means that it will still continue unless the couple decides to do otherwise.. Then again, with an expiring contract like that, couples would perhaps consider a false marriage in the very beginning to get something or just deal with something out of the marriage issue and just consider the contract as another bond that can also be part in any business transaction, I guess that's why the Church is not really looking at it lightly. It is part of the sacraments so, making it into a voidable contract doesn't really sound good for them.. This very well could encourage couples to split up. They wouldn't do their best to make the relationship work out for themselves or for their children if they already have children.. (-_-") I guess having something like that can only be viable by law but not within the church's authority.. which happens to be almost anywhere (^_^")

i cannot believe this is coming from a fresh mind. and what are these women, what are they trying to prove? i think is will only be going to trash and it will be a waste to our money, if this proposal will land in the congress. there is now way this proposal would be heard.

This group of women don't really know what they are doing. Never would you find in any country in the world that there will be an "EXPIRATION DATE " in your Marriage Certificate. We do believe that if we settle down with the person we love, we do respect the vow that we have because we promised that vow to God. And whatever the situation maybe, both the couple will be the one to decide with regards to that, and not because of any law that will invalidate the contract you made with each other. This idea is really evil and it does contradict to the Word of God which says "Husband love your Wife, and Wife Submit to your Husband. The devil is always aiming to break Marriages and disunite families. So let's just ignore this group aiming to destroy the norms of Sanctification of Marriage Vows.

I think its another form of divorce. I dont agree much with renewable marriage. Marriage should be renewed everyday with every decision that you make. But this is my personal opinion. Daily we take decisions that either make your marriage solid or else you can break it up. In my country right now there is a heated debated whether divorce should be introduced or not.

Hello myliez, Marriage is sacred and union between two people who wanted to share their lives as long as they live. and should not be compare to the format of a contractual worker. this isn't fair. people with agenda will use this as an advantage. most specially for those immigrant workers in our country. this law will be a disadvantages when the time comes.

Honestly, considering the very essence why a person married somebody she/he loves contradicts the idea of renewable marriage. I don't personally agree with it. Why marry if you are not sure or not even have the will and courage to keep your marriage vows? In the practical side, there's a good point about that proposal, too. Married couple who are really hopeless as couples can start anew. Instead of being tied up to a miserable relationship the couples have an option whether to continue living miserable together or not. Therefore, both of them can be given a chance to have a new life of less misery. Plus, there's no harm if both couple remains in love with each other after ten years, they just can renew their license and continue with their happy married life. However, if this proposal is abused then it can lead to disaster of one's relationship and one's kids' future as well... Have a great evening.:-)

For me not agree with the renewal process because many have the sick called HIV diseases it can easily the one exchange the wife and for the husband to and time will come the world is bad worse of immoral the big sin by Jehovah GOD.

Oh really? I have'nt heard of this "renewable marriage" thing being proposed here in our country. But personally I don't think this is a good idea. Although i'm not yet married, my perception of this special event in one's life is truly sacred or might as well say totally binding. Why have an expiration date for marriage...somehow it was treated as if it's a product with a certain shelf life. In my opinion this would just make people turn their backs on marriage. Who would want to get married if after there is a certain life span for that? Suddenly marriage turns sour in the end knowing this is possible...when marriage happens to encounter problems then couples would just wait and look forward for this unfortunate event which is quite an unhealthy way of dealing with marraige problems. Plus there are innocent beings whos going to suffer in this process...instead of problem solved...problems just accumulate. In this manner, problems in married couples are not dealt here...they are being tolerated...it is the same way of escaping from their problems which is totally not a good idea. In my opinion, I would prefer that divorce be legalized in our country as contrary to this renewable marriage thing. In marriage, you exchange vows of forever and nobody could take it away from you. In divorce, it's more of dealing with the real problem and somehow focusing on the mistakes and learning from it. Nice topic you started here myliezl0903....happy mylotting.

I think they have said it all. It is certainly not a good idea. Has it been approved? I hope it doesn't , because just this single discussion here proves how many people are against it. Ridiculous. I watched it in Jessica Soho's show once, and there was this old couple who were interviewed about it. They despise the idea because it looks like marriage's holiness is being taken for granted in this. True indeed. I wonder what has gotten in these women's minds.

Wow, I love this. It should be that way, you know. People make mistakes in their decisions, even major ones, so this is one way of correcting wrong decisions. However, I think 10 years is just too long. Why not make it seven years, renewable for another 7 years, and so on and so forth. There are many things that you discover about your partner later on that you didn't know. This would save a lot of people from being caught up in a miserable situation for the rest of their lives.

I don't think it's a wise idea, getting into a contract of marriage is a lifetime agreement so there's no need to amend that it's only valid for up to 10 years. And besides, I believe that when you enter into that contract it is therefore you want to spend the rest of your life with the one you have chosen to marry.

I think it's quite absurd. I mean, it's like divorce, people get married just because they want to, and they don't even think about it, and after a while they get divorced, if they suddenly realize that they don't love each other anymore. Marriage is something that we have to take seriously and having a choice of renewing it after ten years or dissolving it is just not right.