Do long distance relationship work or is it just a waste of time?

its really difficult to handle my fiancee traveled tonight and am really really feeling so sad what a life

it depends upon the lovers. if they will make enough effort for their relationship to survive, of course it will work. i'm happy to share that i am in this kind of relationship for five years now and our relationship is still strong.

I do not believe in making a relationship work, unless it is marriage. Marriage is when you are supposed to make it work. Before then, you are not supposed to make the relationship work, you are supposed to date. This is a way of saying, find out of this other person is suitable for you. How do you do this? Discovery, communication, talking, learning about that other person. How do they act, how do they react, how to they live, and so on. World views, parents, blaw blaw blaw. I think the worst thing people do, is try and make the dating time, into relationship time. Why is that bad? Because during your dating time, you bounce around from person to person trying to find a decent guy or gal. When you try and make that into a relationship, getting emotionally attached to another person, and then break up, find someone else, break up, find someone else, that's a bad plan. You train yourself to be heart broken. You learn destructive behaviors in the precess, that harm future relationships. So can long distance dating work? Sure. I've met people who got together from states away. Once they determined they were right for each other, they got married, and started their lives together. Again, communication, talking, chatting online, chatting over the phone and so on. I think that most of the people who say long distance relationships don't work, are people who tried to make that dating time into a relationship. They never realized that they were supposed to figure out if they were suitable for marriage, and if they are, get married, if not, stop dating and move on. Instead they sat in this vague 'relationship' status never moving forward, never moving back, and then end up hurt. Because eventually you or the other person is going to want something more than this vague 'relationship' status, and feel guilty about leaving, or hurt when the other leaves. Again I say, this is why you "Date" people, not have relationships with them. Relationship is for marriage.

With patience, respect, trust and love. But normally such relationships doesn't last very long, unfortunately. TATA.

In my own opinium, I do not believe in distance relationships. Distance relationships have never worked for me. I feel more love for my partner when I always see her. Therefore i would subscribe to "it is waste of time".

if you really love each other so much then distance is nothing..

It depends. Some work, some don't. After having had a long distance relationship that bloomed to nothing and another that is working well, I'd say it really depends and there's no perfect formula to love. But, with all these experiences, I could only say one thing: In starting a relationship with someone, you must first see each other before becoming a couple. Nothing compares to physical presence. It's different seeing each other on cams or phones from seeing each other in person. I tell you, there's a big difference there. Most people welcome suitors online, and say that technologies has brought countries and cities closer. But when they do get to meet (if they go past the other hindrances first), they'd be surprised how awkward it is to meet your 'special someone' for the first time. You see, since you're a 'couple' online, then you'd expect that it'll feel normal. But you get to realize that you don't know this person that much still. You can't even find words to talk about - in short, it's really really awkward. Ask anybody from a long distance relationship, and they'd tell you that it's really awkward. So, therefore, I'd say, it's better to meet as friends or acquaintances first and try to see where that leads instead of meeting as a 'couple'. And besides, if they come to you early on in the relationship, it really means they're committed to make things work, and that's the best thing that you'd want to start a relationship with.

Well, have a long distance relationship means be able to afford several kind of problems. First of all, you can see each other "in live" really few, or quite never. Second, if the relationship goes on, and you decide to try to live togheter, one of the two must relocate, and this is not so easy. And more, once relocated probably you will have to face different cultures, habbits, uses, costumes. Anyway it can be ok, if you're really in love each other. It will be really difficult, but you can win this challenge. About me, 4 years of long distance relationship, married, and now living in her country ;)

Before my wife and i married, she live in delhi and i live at bangalore a thousand of miles away. Yes there are ups and downs, but if you two really love each other, you can always make it up. We even had a break of one year, but we are together again and eventually married. You should always keep in touch....

i think it depend on the person involved in a relationship. there are persons that needs their partner to be with them everyday then, most likely they are not the type of person who will survive for a long distance relationship. but for persons who survive that their lover is from a far away place then they are likely to survive that kind of relationship. and it works if both of the partners have loyalty, trust and honest to each other.

it actually depends on whoevers in the relationship. my cousin had a long distance relationship for 3 years and they made it work.now they are living together, and theyve been in the relationship for 8 years.

If you really love some one from your heart then there will never be a distance because my partner is also far away from me but also we both love each other very much and its not a waste of time and instead of creating distance it work smoothly and it happened to me only my friend..