Intermarrige... yes or no?

Perhaps it depends on what the differences are, I have heard of successful Christian/Muslim marriages, Christian/Jewish but I wonder about Muslim and Jew married? Well, I am sure there are some but it must be hard. all the best urban

Well if you both attend churches of your two religions if you were to have children which religion would you raise the children or which of the two of you would the children go to church with, or will they take turns going to each. How serious about religion are you, and what are the rules of your religions regarding other religions. I do think it can work out just fine though and it is good that you are discussing these things before you become engaged.

and after you got married there will still be lots and lots of issues that will come out. but what really matters is to compromise and the give-and-take attitude.

Hi Jimeny!! I have same case as your...Even much more complex... My girlfriend is from another country and we have never met even yet...and we love each other and are planning to get married this year end. We are from different religion, country, community...so what?...our love is true for each other....our feeling is true and after all we are human being at first then bound by other things but love has no boundaries and it can cross all barriers. Religion or geographical distance are just for now and we can finish them any time.... I don't think that there is anything wrong if we want to marry inter caste or inter religion if you are sure about your relation that you can carry it whole life... No one can clap from one hand so both of you will have to work towards a better future...just one can't do it alone...I think if your boyfriend is doing some compromise for you then you should not think he is getting down...it is his love that he don't want to lose you and want you happy...so you should support him too where ever you can... I also compromise a lot for my girl friend but she understand my love very well and we are so sure that we will be one... one day... Marriage is relation of soul and heart not just of body so why to care about any barriers of country or religion or any customs... we are human being first... Have a good life with you boy friend!! Be Happy!! Good Luck!!

i think no one can help you to make a decision, everyone have different experience,they can offer you many proposals, but all of them is hard to change your mind, infinally you still shilly-shally, the future is unknown, everything have to be practised, and you'll feel about that, so just depend on your confidence,that is all

i think it depends on your decisions... if one of you decided to give up your life in your country in order to live with your partner, it's a great sacrifice... and in order for your relationship to work out, you really need to communicate and to talk things through.. there is nothing wrong with interracial marriages, the answer lies between the two of you...

I think that if two people can agree on such issues you might have a future however, if you can not agree now and can't broker a deal a marriage would probably be a mistake because those issues will come up time and time again.

I do not mind racial intermarriages as long as both have understanding of each other then it is good than nothing at all.When it comes to children both partner could comes out with a negotiation to let their children decide when they are already know to understand where they could choice freely which religion they would follow and it should not be a cause of worry. what matter most to keep in mind,both love each other and even though their is contradiction it would not matter as the most important at the end you both are the only one who would live together as a couple and those who criticism after all have nothing to do with your decision when it comes to the matter of the hearts it should be follow than regret later having not to decide so it would likely end up the two being in misery. Their is a need to respect each other cultures but need to settle does to repair irreconcilable differences and comes out with the ultimate solution for the sake of happiness do not let those contradiction affected your decision as with much planning and preparation do hope it both works for the benefits of the two of you. Good luck then:)

I do not mind intermarriages since love seek no boundary and anyone could be in live with other races as long as both have understanding and remain faithful with their words and action it is best when the feeling is mutual. In love their should be equal all is fair and should be no discrimination. Although, in other cultures they retain being the old tradition and so conservative. they do no like their blood to be mix with other races. In your case it is very normal to have many debate about your differences in nationalities, cultures, and ethnics. But the question is, who would live together it is then both of you who have understanding and so if you both stand to love each other then have to fight your rights than regrets later on. I have a cousin who also married to a different religion and races, but both have already with a mutual agreement. They would not insist their children to follow their religion, and they both give their children right to choose whatever they like to join s both have value give and take relationship which proves strong through out the years and manage to fix their irreconcilable differences which prove works like potion as long as their is love their should be no more question about it, as love defies all arguments to make both mind at peace and do not let other obstacles disturb you just let love dominate is the solution for all.

Will his parents accept you? Will yours accept him? Do both know that you will not be celebrating religious holidays with the parents? These little things can become a massive problem in relationships. People have ended up divorced because they thought the in-laws wouldn't be a problem, and they were. I would suggest having a very mature, direct talk, with both your parents and his, prior to getting married. And if there is a problem, then I would seriously reconsider. Not to say I wouldn't get married, but reconsider the hardship you are going to go through. Are you ready for it? Is he ready for it? If you are going to tie yourself to someone, you better be sure that both you and him, are ready to hold hands and run through the fire together.

in this modern world , who realy cares about all these things. if you are going to marry him that means your likings must be same either it is in ethnicity or religion... so for you children you can select everything on the basis of both of your likings. good luck!

Hi dear, first of all congratulations on being open minded to choose a guy from a different background. All my life I have been in interracial relationships. And I can tell you those things you mentioned do not matter in a relationship as long as one of you do not turn into orthodox person. Holidays are holidays. All of them can be celebrated if you two enjoy little fun. But I cannot answer anything for school since I live in USA and here all schools are public. As for the religion, you need to teach your kids about both. Let them learn them in logical fashion. Later it will them who would decide which one to go for.

I am in the same situation as you, me and my fiance comes from two totally different background, but it has work very well for us, because we have been very tolerant with the backgrounds of each other, his family has been very welcoming with me, they can't speak English very well, so sometimes my boyfriend has to translate, but we always make it, I think when there is love, tolerance and respect everything is possible. Both people have to compromise certain things, if you are not willing to compromise, then stop seeing him.

Hi jimeny! well if there's a strong love involve between you too then that would be a YES. If that is present in your relationship , then everything will follow orderly in a nice pace.As to the place to live , then choose one which is better maybe or to a place which is more relaxing .Whatever you want to experience and wherever that place then settle there .With the holidays, that will follow where you are at...I myself is married to a man different from my nationality and it works just well...Though sometimes there are culture clashes but with love present then we can talk it out ...Good luck to the both of you...

Congrats you are on a great start. It is good to see that you have been communicating your concerns with one another. First and foremost, if you have been dating for quite some time and are truly in love, then let love be your guide. It is best to make sure that you live in a community that is accepting of all of you and that you are ocmfortable with who you are and where you stand with one another.

Language..... how you will adjust yourself to His family, how he will adjust to your family. Culture and belief, there might be things you thought you can accept but time goes by you may found out that you can't. This also will lead somehow to argument about raising the children because both of you were raised in the different ways, so it's the matter who will follow whose way to raise the child. What religions the kids will be? And more and more However, love is love. True love will overcome everything. True love.......