Have you ever given a false excuse to get out of something you didn't want to do

Every Christmas I try to get out of my partner's family meal. It's just too painfully uncomfortable. They're really snobby and posh and spend most of the afternoon ignoring us and looking down on us. It's horrible. I couldn't avoid one this last month and they made me feel miserable. Even when I tried to join in the conversation I was ignored and I've never given them any reason to dislike me or be rude to me, they're just mecha snobby.

Hi, your culture is really different from ours, I mean traditionally, in our country especially in our family, my uncles and aunts, and my parents visits their parents on Christmas and the night before new year's day. It's like a sacred tradition plus it's a happy get together which really strengthens family bonds. But I do respect your culture and our differences. Anyway, going back to your main topic, I could recall several instances in which I had to make false excuse to get out of a situation I didn't want to get involve most especially in boring school activities and parties which include drinking sessions, as I don't really drink adding the fact that parties like those tend to end up in a disaster because of crazy teen drunkards living only for the day. On some occasions where I had to lie, I'd feel bad and guilty.

Yes, I've done the same thing many times. Mostly it is when I have already do have plans, but the first people are arrogant and think that they outrank all the other groups I belong to. So usually I say something like a medical appointment, a family emergency, etc.

Yes, we've all done that I suspect. It is usually the holidays when people try to plan your life for you. For me it's usually Thanksgiving. Living alone, people are always planning things for me to do on the eating day. I usually have a prepared made up excuse why I can't be bothered.

I make excuses professionally and again that is the last option but in personnel life because if the person will come to know that I had cheated, they will definitely not feel good. We should be transparent in all our relations and should not give any excuses to our near and dear. Be honest in all your relations :)

we call that white lies, wisereptiles. many people, including i, use white lies to avoid certain situations, even people. it's a rather subtle way of saying no. because, sometimes you know that they know you are lying. but most people would understand and it's easier to say no that way.

A lot many times really! There’s nothing wrong such small lies, in fact I would put it as presence of mind to be able to think of something to wriggle out of a tight situation. Yes, we feel bad when we use the same on our parents and close people but sometimes they act so immature that you are left with no options but use small lies LOL

I think we have all given false excuses. I know I am guilty of doing that myself. If I don't want to do something, I won't do it and I will find any simple way of getting myself out of the situation as to not hurt others feelings.

I am also guilty of that. Sometimes, I also give a false excuse when I don't want to meet up with some people. I usually tell my friends I am going out with my family if I don't feel like going out with them, like going clubbing or going somewhere very far. I guess I do this because I don't want them to feel hurt. The good thing is I don't do this regularly, just once in a while.

Some times we ought to use this way to avoid tension or misunderstanding.But in my case, I will see that such situation does not arise. To, the possible extend I shall tell the truth.

I don't make a habit of it, but making fulse statments can actually be better then the truth. Chances are your mother might have understood, but sometimes people don't want to except what's true. Saying you had other plans was an acceptable thing to say. It cuts down on less tension and you can't be easily wrongfully accused of not going because of one particular person. I don't blame you for not wanting to go out on new years. I refuse to go out under any cirmstances. I'll do laundry, and I'll go check the mail, both in bright daylight and as quickly as possible. I refuse to be caught off guard.

My answer is yes. I did that many times to get out of something. Well I did that because if I said that I didn't wanna go they might not invite me again and sometimes they just force you to go even though you really don't want too but in the end they'll win and you'll go. I know this is wrong so I'm gonna try to not do it anymore.

Although I try not to, I often do that as well. Sometimes, it feels that your reason is better justified than the actual event. This, of course, leads back to the question of "little, white lies". I always ask myself afterwards if it would have been better if I just told them "I don't want to go". I think we all need to work towards that goal. I am trying to make a habit of telling the truth. If I can't, I would give the event a try. Who knows, maybe I'll end up liking it!

Yes,I have given a false excuse many times. I think,do anything to be at his own wish,this is respect for others.For mother's invite,you can see your mother at anytime you like.

I don't think it is wrong to give a false excuse in certain situations. I have done so myself mainly to avoid giving offence to someone we were invited to visit. We really didn't want to go so I said we had tickets for a rock gig - perfectly plausable excuse :-D

I have done this and it took me ages to think of an excuse aswell.I am the one that tell my children that they have to go some where as there are alot of things in life that i do not want to do aswell as places i do not want to be yet i do and go there,lol,and there is me doing the opposite to what i have told them.My friend told me that she is the same aswell.

Yes,i did. When i feel that,we were invited and i knew that we will only an outcast to that party,i always try to look for a better reason not to sounds rude or offending the hosts. It is better to say No,when we knew or feel bad,rather than saying yes and attend a party and not enjoying it.

Yes, many a time, and most of the time I'm glad I have pulled out of such events The other day for example, somebody who I didn't really know invited me round for a house party. They are two years younger than me, but we have spoken once or twice. On the evening, I could not really be bothered, as nobody I knew would be there and it was just going to be a mass gathering of absolutely paraletic young adults The following day, I heard that a fight broke out during the party and quite a lot of people who didn't necessarily want to get involved were dragged into it

I think we all do. Recently there was a classmates' get together which incidentally I had started years ago and we keep doing it regularly now. There is this one person who came from abroad who gave excuses when it came to visiting me when I was not well and just to avoid her I did not attend that get together by giving a lame excuse!

Yes, unfortunately i am guilty of doing such a bad thing, i think. I wanted a very quite birthday, but the other family always need to make this very big thing out of it. So, i told a small teensy, weensy lie and said that i was invited by friends for a nice braai. You have no idea how bad i felt about that. TATA.