real friends
By homeshoppers
@homeshoppers (6166)
Philippines
February 17, 2010 12:12am CST
i just realize now that you can only tell whose your real friends are during the time when your very down. i used to have lots of friends before while i still have job and earning a lot, we used to go out, dine out, go to party and etc. then when they found out that i dont have job anymore and yet im pregnant then all of a sudden they are all gone. and the only person who stay with me is the one i ignore before. im very much thankful to her coz she never left me. she always visit me at home and bring foods, she make sure to text me to ask if im fine or not. she makes sure to chat with me online if she saw me online. im just living alone and very lonely and im glad coz she understand my situation while the others are not even answering my text even just to say hi. maybe they are afraid that i will ask nor borrow money from them. anyway, i have family who can give me money so no problem with it. i just want emotional support from them. sad but true
19 responses
@Picquarian (724)
• United States
22 Feb 10
The tough times are really the test of true friendships.
@aganatrade (29)
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
Sad realities surface when we are at our deepest. Some are quite difficult to accept, especially if we see the tendency of people who only lends their umbrellas when it is not raining. I can fully relate to how you feel, for i am in the same boat. Let us weather the storm by focusing our attention to things that gives us meaning so we can move positively forward. Let us also think about the blessings in disguise that we were ushered to the true people that we should further our relations with.
@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
18 Feb 10
People tend to shy away from hearing your problems when the problems are more than 'I lost a boyfriend' or 'what will I wear to the party?' Most are too selfish and busy with their own problems and lives to care what happens in yours. Money may be the issue, too, but usually it's a social issue. They consider you a drag or if you are in the middle of a divorce, they don't want a single predator in the middle of their couples parties.
The person you ignored before is a true friend. I hope when she needs you, you will return the favor.
@psycospaz (320)
• United States
18 Feb 10
That is a hard lesson to learn, but it is so very true! Friends, true friends are hard to come by, and when you do find one, I believe that it within it's self is a true love situation. Not like you would love your partner, but a best friend will put up with you, stand up for you and help you even when you look like a pile of doggy doo.
I do hope you are feeling better though! And remember to always smile, even if you don't feel like it, it'll make you feel better!
@venkatachary (1165)
• India
18 Feb 10
Normally for a friend with more money, there will be a circle of friends. If the same friend lost money and he becomes penny less , there will be no circle of friends or no friends. The friend is one who is with you in your sorrows, happiness, and in your richness or poverty and behave in the same manner as before.Also friend should be the guide in all our doings. He should make us to distinguish good or bad, right or wrong.
@jkcokley (265)
• United States
18 Feb 10
I am so sorry to hear that your friend have let you down. Friends are hard to come by in times of trouble. I am glad to hear that one stuck around. Keep her!
On a side note - I just said a prayer for you. Been in your shoes and still digging out. So hang in and hang on. By the way. Congrats on your child. I'm sure the child will bring a lot of joy to your heart. It seems difficult for you now but if you keep a positive attitude things will get better -
@bebe_bonsai (112)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
Shame on all your so-called friends and kudos to the one that stuck by your side. Real friends are hard to find and they are like diamonds in a mine. Since you have probably found a true friend now despite your predicament, show her the same care and support. Hope the two of you last til both of you grow old and grey.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
17 Feb 10
I hope that you overcome this difficult period in your life. As you have well writtend you can distinguish real friends from false one when you are in time of need. Those who are false flee when they think you need their help while others will give you their hand to wake up and continue moving on in your life.
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
17 Feb 10
Aww that is really sad to hear how your friends abandon you like that. People can be cruel and self centered. Im glad to hear you have a true friend that stayed by your side. keep her around she seems to be in it for you. the others ones you don't need because you maybe down on your luck right now but you will be back on your feet in no time and you will see they will be back in your face again. but have the strength to let them go and focus on the people who really love you.
Blessing :o)
@artistry (4151)
• United States
17 Feb 10
...Hi homeshoppers, It is a fact which you do realize when and if you get into trouble, such as losing your jib, getting sick or not having money to support yourself. People are very glad to be with you when you are up and doing and not in a needy position. They seem very afraid, in some cases, when you are in bad shape, that you are going to depend on them for your care, and they literally run away from you. If wives come down with diseases, some men cannot take it, they have to leave, they are afraid of the circumstances, it is just in some people's character to not be able to take the stress and the pressure that goes with helping a friend or relative in distress, and you have to let them go. Your friend has a strong and caring character, especially after you ignored her. You should as I am sure you are be very grateful for her kindness. Good luck to you.
@srjac0902 (1169)
• Italy
17 Feb 10
You said it rightly, we need emotional support and our hearts should be attuned. Friendship does not have a word such as "Because". Loving unconditionally because it is a matter of heart. Love is blind. You may have a gratitude, acknowledgment of one's generosity but friendship goes beyond that. Even though your friend deserts you, you do not alter.
@veianet (14)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
it is sad to hear that your friends went away after learning about you losing your job. i do believe that friends come and go but true friends keep in touch where ever they are. sometimes we have to nurture friendships to build a lasting and true friends. it is a give and take relationship. friends are very important in our lives because a friend in deed can really carry us through difficult times.
Have you been a true friend to anybody? just a thought..
at least you got one who is sticking with you despite losing your job. you are still lucky and hope you nurture that friend for a lasting friendship.
good luck!
@kyvin147 (78)
•
17 Feb 10
Hi...
I'm just 17 years old and i don't have a lots of find coz i'm not very friendly....
but i'm proudly to say that i am very luck to have a few but loyal,loving,caring,understanding, and real friends.....
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
A friend in need is a friend indeed. Well, in this case, it is true. You can know your friends very well when in times of trouble or problems. You can rely on true friends who are there for you no matter what the situation may be. You can know the real intentions and motives of everyone around you, when you are in need.
I do also have friends like that. I also have cousins who are like that, only there when they needed something, but forgets you when they don't have anything to ask for you. In your case, they do discriminate your situation. It is not your lost, let them be. Just don't have any grudges on them too.
People do change their attitude towards the other when they think they are better in their standard of living or so. But be sure that you yourself will not imitate what your friends have done. That is the most important thing. Continue to do good to them that shows you wrong.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
17 Feb 10
What a shame. That is what they say though when things get hard that is when you will find out who your real friends are.
@ghieptc (2522)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
When we are on a tough situations or suffering down in life, we could figure out whose are real friends are. Nowadays it's hard to find friends who are real, they are RARE and we should never forget that we can still make new friends that will make our more enjoyable...
@johanneverg (23)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
Yes, true friends really stick through thick and thin. Not only for the good times but also in bad times. Aside from Jesus who always been there for me. I do have friend that I could proudly call my true friend, he's always been there for me always believing in me. We do had some fights together but we always reconciled. He knows everything in me and I can always share my secrets with him without worrying of getting it revealed to others without my permission. He always find his ways of helping me whenever I have problems that I could not bear alone. I am proud of him and I will always remain a friend to him as long as I live.
