how do you stop someone from stalking you online?
By candyfairy21
@candyfairy21 (2039)
Philippines
February 17, 2010 4:11am CST
Hi mylotters,
I need your comments on this so help me out. I have this friend who stalks me everywhere online. every networking site I join she keeps adding me as a friend and i'm tired of it. if i disapprove her request she keeps on writing something on my wall. she contacts and adds everyone whose lastname is similar to mine.
i don't mean to sound so snobbish but i don't like her much although i'm very polite in dealing with her but she thinks were super close and she stalks me. My cellphone broke and for months i don't have a cellphone and also i moved to another location and she keeps contacting people on my networking site and keep asking them my recent phone number and cellphone number as well as other confidential info. i don't get it why is she stalking me it's becoming tiresome.
tell me how would I tell her without offending her, although i do feel at some point she might be. any suggestions?
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9 responses
@teamrose (1492)
• United States
17 Feb 10
I think this person really likes. Because of the way you have handled the situation she thinks you like her too. If there is a reason you just don't like her anymore, you have to be blunt and just break off all contact. Stop responding to her comments and calls. Refuse to accept her requests for your site.
Maybe publicly announce on your site you would appreciate no one share your personal information.
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@machivado (528)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 10
Dude, that girl freaks me out. Think she has a crush on you? Maybe... Anyway, it's impossible to avoid her in online world because she already has your friend's lists. You can change your username or email address, whatever it might be..but if you still contact your friends there then there is no way of stopping her smoothly... You can always use the hard way though...Can't help you there, sorry
@WiseReptiles (854)
• United States
17 Feb 10
The best suggestion I can give you is be blunt and straight to the point with her. Tell her you do not appreciate her following you around because you feel like she is stalking you. You could tell the moderators of the other sites what she is doing as well and see if the can help you with this issue. I would not worry about offending her I would just tell her "I don't appreciate you following me around and I feel as though you are stalking me, please quit doing this to me because it makes me very uncomfortable". Sometimes you have to hurt someones feelings to get the point across to them. I know it sounds a lot easier to do than it is because you don't want to hurt this persons feelings but this is the way I myself would handle this situation.
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@mynameiscindere (582)
• India
17 Feb 10
Hmmm, sounds unusual,
But In my experience, I have a lot of friends in my networking sites,
They always wants to contact me, I do not even know them.
I'll never reject or accept them.
I always keep them in pending requests, If I've accept them already, I just ignore them by not replying them anything, They'll try to contact me for a while, then they'll get tired and look for some other work.
So stop worrying about her and do your work, consider as if she doesn't even exist.
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@a_ce_e (1422)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
If you really don't like her, just ignore as if you're not receiving mails or her messages. Don't be feel so affected. In a long run she will stop soon as she will feel you are not interested with her. Don't be bothered, she might not too busy and she is just spending time stalking with you.
@danrunsfast614 (1396)
• United States
18 Feb 10
1) you could confront her about it, though this may cause some anger. If you feel stalked though, it may be worth it.
2) On most social networking sites, like facebook, you can block individual users from even knowing you exist. Just change your privacy settings. This may help minimize the problem you are having.
@kaylachan (71519)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
18 Feb 10
Be streight forward and honest with her. Be sure to point cyber stalking is what is known as a cyber crime and if she doesn't stop of her own free will you will call your local police department and report her as a cyber stalker. If the police get involved she'll be banned from socal networking and could risk losing a whole lot more.
@deenaly (162)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 10
Every networking site should have a way to block a person from contacting you. Facebook and Friendster for example have this option. I also agree with others, just be blunt and tell her how you feel. But be careful, since this kind of person might be so obsessed with you, she might be doing irrational things.
