What's the most effective way to get over somebody?

..hi.. its really hard.. it can't be forgotten in an overnight.. for me, I don't rush things.. I cry if I needed to cry to ease my feelings.. I give myself sometime to reminisce the past..then after sometime, I recharge myself and try to see the bright side of life.. It's never easy to move on after a painful break up from somebody we love.. and it is aus alone who can help ourself because even if many would say, "move on", we can't unless we decide to move on.. nobody can force us to forget something.. the more we push ourself to forget, the more it becomes difficult to deal with.. so we have to decide on our own.. we have to see that the world has some more happiness to offer us.. that if someone is gone, there is something better coming along.. What I always promise myself is not to cry for the same reason again.. once is enough for me to learn something.. then next time, I just have to more careful.. I have to tell myself to cheer up and console myself that I am not alone who have such experience and if others overcome that situation and became successful at the end, then I could also do that.. After all, this is my life and I can't blame anybody if ever I failed..

by not forgeting it if we try to forget it then we will always remember it. remember how they come and go in our life, and they've made us what we are now