Are you married to a younger man/woman?
By bebe_bonsai
@bebe_bonsai (112)
Philippines
February 18, 2010 3:17am CST
They say that age doesn't matter, but sometimes it does. I am married to a man four years my junior. The age gap is really not that wide so it shouldn't really post an alarm on our relationship. Although my husband makes me feel young most of the time because he's a kid at heart, there are times where I wish he'd quit playing around and take me seriously whenever an important concern comes up. I don't know if it is the issue of our age or it's just his personality. But, there are moments when he takes me and my reminders seriously... the thing is he's not consistent about it. I don't know what to do at times and end up frustrating myself thinking of ways to make him act the way I want him to act. What to do???
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12 responses
@bebe_bonsai (112)
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
Oh, that's sad to hear. But don't lose faith because when you've finally found the right person for you, joy will pour in. Good luck!
@bebe_bonsai (112)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
That's nice to hear, very sweet. Thanks for the response.
@urbandekay (18278)
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19 Feb 10
My wife is 20 years younger than I, don't think it is important.
all the best urban
@bebe_bonsai (112)
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
You're right. It doesn't really matter as long as you understand, respect, and love each other. Thanks.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
19 Feb 10
i guess being a kid at heart, with a great sense of humor is a very common trait of a man, specially here in the philippines. four years is not a problem as i am older than my wife by 4 years too. but men i guess, doesn't really want to always be reminded with their actions, especially, if the wife is the one involved. i am not perfectly sure about this, it maybe true to me but not to your husband?
@bebe_bonsai (112)
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
Don't worry, neildc, sometimes my hubby tells me the same. I guess, somehow, it's true for Filipino men because Filipinos are naturally fun-loving. Thanks.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
19 Feb 10
Honestly, I'm not married to my partner, but we've been dating for two years and marriage has been discussed. We have a sizeable age difference: I'm 30 and he's 19. It's not so much an issue, and at times it's downright amusing when he clues me in to some differences of being 19 in 2010, as opposed to when I was 19 in 1998. Ironically enough, I think that he explains more to me than I do to him.. but we have fun with it. It gives us alot to talk about it, and believe it or not, a LOT to laugh and giggle about. I wouldn't trade him or our relationship for anything :)
@bebe_bonsai (112)
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
You are very lucky to find someone to laugh with and share the fondest moments with. I really believe that when God finally gives you the perfect mate, age isn't even an issue or for any person so in love with each other nothing is too great that they cannot conquer. I'm happy that you're happy... nice to hear that. Thanks and stay in love.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
19 Feb 10
I do not think age has much role in a relationship, it is all about the level of maturity and the understanding. I feel that everyone has some private and public image. I may not be same at work place as I am at home.
I would suggest you to spend more time knowing each other to the best level and know each others like dislikes which will definitely help. just a suggestion :)
@recycledgoth (9894)
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18 Feb 10
Ok, first of all I should point out that the age difference between myself and my partner is pretty big. We have been together for six years now and although he still acts like a kid sometimes, I would never try to change him to conform to my own wishes. It's a partnership and as such we talk and work things out together. I don't think the age difference is the problem, rather than our different attitudes to things but I guess you take the good with the bad in any realtionship.
@bebe_bonsai (112)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
Thanks for giving me a piece of your wisdom. Whenever I feel like giving in or giving up, I will just remind myself of your advice.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
18 Feb 10
I seriously don't think that age is a concern if you are in love. It is normal to marry a guy younger than you if you love him. It may not look normal in the eyes of parents, but it is fine as long as it is fine with the couple. Once the marriage is over, you will forget the fact of age difference. I have a friend who is married to a guy two years youngeer to her.
@bebe_bonsai (112)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
Thanks although that was our problem at first when my parents almost didn't want the wedding to take place. I guess because they are old-schooled. I love my husband, don't get me wrong, but there are times when I have second thoughts and rewind all what my parents reminded me at first before jumping into marriage.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
My wife is much younger than i am, but admittedly i'm the one with a kid's heart, taking up things lightly. Fortunately, my wife never expect me to do things the way she wants me to, probably out of respect and taking me as i am.
@bebe_bonsai (112)
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
And probably because you're much more endearing the way you are. LOL. Thanks!
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
My husband is also younger than me but only 18 months younger than I am. I think there are already a lot of people having relationships with people younger than they are. Its common for males to have a relationship with a younger female. It seems odd that older females have relationships with younger males but the society is accepting that fact already. There's nothing we can do about it.
@bebe_bonsai (112)
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
I agree. It is much too common these days, we see them all around especially in the showbiz or entertainment industry that's why people are starting to accept the reality of it. Thanks.
@Nirishasol (879)
• India
18 Feb 10
Yes i will married a guy who is elder then me because i think if i will married with him then he will understand me lot and cannot create a lots of misunderstanding in our life.
@bebe_bonsai (112)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
I did tell myself that before but I ended up marrying someone younger than me. It has its downside at times but I'm happy in general. Thanks for your reply.:D
@melloncollie (661)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
true. age really is not a concern when it comes to love. my wife is younger than me. 4 years younger but i am simply amazed every time how her maturity surpasses mine. there might have been "alot" of times or things we don't agree on... i never took it on compatibility -- compromise will always come to two people who just can't live without each other. i am guilty. though she drives me crazy "alot" of times... i just can't live without her eccentricities. that makes me love her more.
@bebe_bonsai (112)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
Glad to know that you and your wife is doing well despite the age gap. Thanks for your insight.
