SECRETS of a Long-term Relationship
By dee
@yresh12 (3212)
Philippines
February 18, 2010 6:20am CST
I Just wan't to share with you ways on how to keep your relationship together. I hope you could also add some, to help our fellow myLotters! thank you..
COMMUNICATION
This is a very good way to make the relationship last. Avoiding confrontation, this is a good way to do so. If you have some things that you don't like you talk it out so that the two of you know could think of a solution to the problem. Don't wait for something tragic or drastic to come before you speak out..
YOU ALSO HAVE NEEDS
When we get involve to a longterm relationship, we put ourselves second behind our partner's needs and desires. When deciding on something you should also think is this
what you want, do you agree with this? Don't put your faith in your partners arms. He/She must also know that you also want some other things to.
TRUST and HONESTY
This is very important in every relationship. You depend on each other most, this
traits are very important.
LEARN TO COMPROMISE
You should learn to give. It's not just your concerns, you should also be learn to be sensitive of your partners wants. Your investment is not just "love," it won't work if you think about it that way.
* I can't think of anything else..
Nosebleed.. So much for thinking what to psot..hahaha
COMMUNICATION
This is a very good way to make the relationship last. Avoiding confrontation, this is a good way to do so. If you have some things that you don't like you talk it out so that the two of you know could think of a solution to the problem. Don't wait for something tragic or drastic to come before you speak out..
YOU ALSO HAVE NEEDS
When we get involve to a longterm relationship, we put ourselves second behind our partner's needs and desires. When deciding on something you should also think is this
what you want, do you agree with this? Don't put your faith in your partners arms. He/She must also know that you also want some other things to.
TRUST and HONESTY
This is very important in every relationship. You depend on each other most, this
traits are very important.
LEARN TO COMPROMISE
You should learn to give. It's not just your concerns, you should also be learn to be sensitive of your partners wants. Your investment is not just "love," it won't work if you think about it that way.
* I can't think of anything else..
Nosebleed.. So much for thinking what to psot..hahaha3 people like this
21 responses
@chdsandeep (397)
• India
18 Feb 10
Hello!!
You have started a good discussion and I would like to thank you starting such a nice discussion. You have mentioned important points to make good relations and I would also like to add a few to them.
MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING:
Any relation is not possible without mutual understanding it is not just about compromise but it means much more than that. That how you understand your partner and how you can make them feel comfortable in various conditions.
LOVE:
If you have true love with your partner and you can never have any kind of problems ever and lovers can cross any barriers which comes through their way with happiness and not losing their confidence in each other.
GIVE RESPECT GET LOVE:
One should not think that his or her partner is younger than him or her so they should not respect. It is wrong point of view. They should respect each others feelings and thinking and if you respect the younger you will get their precious love in return.
@chdsandeep (397)
• India
21 Feb 10
Dear friend I will be really be very happy if my suggested ways can help someone in real life.
How are you? No thanks... just accept my response just as a friend as I am also a human being who want to make a happy life as everyone want nothing else and I know well how I can do so.
You have also added good points and those will be also helpful others as well..Thanks dear friend for starting such a nice discussion... I am really thankful to you for it and thankful to myLot who provided us such a nice portal where we can discuss anything we want and can make our life better as well as we can help others a better life.... no doubt it is a revolution in itself.... and I am happy being part of this revolution....
have a nice time friend....
@melloncollie (661)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
i specifically like the part "YOU ALSO HAVE NEEDS" it is true. whenever we get involve in a long term relationship we tend to put ourselves last. the other should always come first. what can i say, i guess that's how things really work. or else we end up lonely because of our selfishness.
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@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
18 Feb 10
For me the list above is true, but In my relationship I found prayer works as well . I know everyone is not religious and don't believe in a higher being but I know it works for me
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@cbjones (1147)
• United States
19 Feb 10
Cold showers every once and a while doesn't hurt either Having a hobby to preoccupy your time when away from your better half will make the time pass by sooner. There are a ton of different ways to also woman/man proof your person to ensure that you won't ruin a good thing by being unfaithful.
Guys, have your lady buy your clothing to were while she's out of town. She's guaranteed to brand you with a less than flattering wardrobe that screams "hey look, the circus is in town! Who wants cotton candy?"
Ladies, print out a picture of a mean looking body builder, and put it in your purse. When someone tries to hit on you, pull it out and watch every dude within staring distance scatter like a bunch of roaches.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
18 Feb 10
Where is love in any relationship, this relationship will hold, if love don t exist any relation exist.is simple. When 2 persons love each other, exist all; respect, understanding, trust, faith, everything; so just LOVE, all will come after they love.
@scaflone8 (190)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
My secret would be is to believe and no to doubt my lover. Because once you doubt the person you love, those doubts you were thinking might come realities like is he cheating, does he really love me, will this relationship last. Those things must be removed from your mind and believe that you'll love will last. Because when you believe in something from deepest bottom of you heart and mind it will happen.
My other secret would be is to love and care for my lover, give him enough love that would not make him doubt you also.
Honesty is always the best policy he he. No secrets must be kept.
@mrrome (73)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
RESPECT
This is where love begins and will keep each and everyday of our life worth cheerful, loving and remembering. Respect our partners' decision, his or her dreams, even though sometimes or most of the time unrealistic. Respect specially in the most difficult time of your life, though he/she thought that even you cannot understand the situation... be there to respectfully understand, but after all of these ordeal don't forget that you need to respect yourself too in order to stay everything in balance and never to loose your very own self respect. Here is where you pickup your self that each one of us mean something to everyone.
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@truckergirl (85)
• United States
18 Feb 10
Hello,
You forgot FRIENDSHIP, without it, you have no relationship. You have to be friends before you can be lovers. Somethings may start to fade alittle in a long term relationship, But, what keeps your love strong and longivity is friendship. RESPECT, you have to respect each other to love one another. And with respect comes trust and honesty. I leave some for someone else. There's much more.....
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@junrapmian (2169)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
Well, I guess, you said it all right. But you forgot the word LOVE ... to have a lasting relationship you must love the person you want to be with. Sometimes, we only get into a relationship because he or she can finance all our needs and wants materially. For me, if both of you love each other so much, you can overcome any challenges in your lives.
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@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
long-term relationships last because of what you mentioned, which could be summed in a few words -- it's not what you can get that matters, it's what you can give to a relationship that is important. so that entails, talking together, as you said, so problems can be addressed before they become too big to be discussed, a give and take discussion; needs should also be considered and given due attention, and that's what i am saying about giving; trust is the first thing that one should give because trust begets trust, nothing else; without honesty, there is no trust; and compromise sums up what i said about giving and getting...
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@brymel25 (285)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
I think that the biggest secret to a lasting relationship is good communication. When there is good communication between lovers, there will also be respect for each other. One can be aware of each other's needs as well.
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
20 Feb 10
Communication and Respect are two big ones for me..... If you have them there is no cheating or hitting by either party in the relationship...... Them are two things that went wrong in my first relationship were both..... I haven't got either one of these problems with my current husband; we took a vow that these two areas were expected out of both of us to reform too.....
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
19 Feb 10
For me its Trust and Honesty. No one should allow himself or herself to ignore these two things. I believe that every thing falls under these two only. Again mutual understanding is a must for a long term relationship.
trust your partner same as you trust yourself. Trust is like giving control of your life to someone who known in and out of you and can harm you completely but still he does only good for you.
Be positive spread happiness :)
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
Thank you so much for that positive response. I really do agree about honesty and trust these are one of the categories to make the relationship longer. Taking chances and risks of hurting your partner for your honesty is a very big challenge ina relationship.
@imran_40196 (21)
• India
21 Feb 10
Hi yresh, first i dont understand ur discussion. But the all things are very important to maintain a good relationship with partners.
@kaylayoe (293)
• United States
18 Feb 10
I agree with everyones! Communication is the big one in my opinion. If me and my boyfriend didn't talk I don't know how we would survive! We've been dating for nearly 3 years and I couldn't be happier. Happiness is important! If your not happy then your relationship isn't going to survive. Laughter is important too!
