Is it an obligation to give money to parents when you already have a family?

Everything in life is not an obligation where it is a personal relationship to which one is indebted by force of such a close link. In the modern day, when pressures of life and managing it monetarily may be a mind wracking exercise, one may feel highly emotionally charged to feel that way. It is but natural. But then, it is an individual decision. For a moment, we have to stop and ask - how much have my parents suffered or undergone privations to put me where I am? Do they deserve to be neglected now that I am on my own with obligations to my own family? It is always an individual case. If they don't really need it, they wouldn't even take it. But a gesture of giving them will be much appreciated and in all probability, they would refuse it knowing your own needs. But where they need it for their own survival, it is incumbent on our part to make some adjustments so that, we do what we need to do as their child. It will give you a sense of contentment and peace of mind, which otherwise you would never find if you opt to do otherwise - Because the guilt factor keeping nagging you. Just a thought.

Hi...maria In my opinion, you should support them . In our childhood how they loved us and supported us to educate us and bring to a stage. So if you are able to support them in their old age, it will be better. If you are not in a position to support them dont feel guilty. Think that it is their fate.

In my own opinion, children are not obligated to support their parents and parents should not force their children to give them money specially if they have their own family already. Of course we can give money to them if they really need it but for them to expect the financial support regularly? I think, they have to understand that their married children have their own family to support. They can give sometimes but not regular.

hi friends, Its must to give money as children earning to their parents. The parents are earning should give money to their parents. Its responsibility to give money child to parent. I am earn and i will give money to my parents every month. have a good day.

If your parents are dependent on you then you will have to help them out. It has nothing to do with what is done or not done. It has to be judged on the basis of individual situations. The fact that you are feeling guilty gives the impression that you do feel that you have an obligation.

Giving money to parents is not an obligation for me because we can't paid our parents what they did to us ever since. Our obligation is to give them love and respect wholeheartedly. However, if you have some money give them as a gift that will give them happiness which can never be paid.

Of course you should give your parents financial support regardless of your own situation. They are the ones who brought you up with endless love and care, and now it is a kind of moral obligation for you to return love and care to them.

This is question for which you have to find an answer. because how can we assess your ability to pay after meeting your own, if there is surplus you have to you must be helping your parents.

It depends. If your parents are getting on well, they have no financial problems, then it's not necessary to support them financially (but it would be still a sign of your care for them). In case your parents aren't financially backed up, then I think you should provide them some funds, so they could improve their quality of life. Of course, if you are low on your funds and you can hardly feed your own family, then your own family should be the first priority (especially if you have a child too).

I think it really depends on the current situation of your parents. You should help them in times of need if they need the help but if not then it should not be an obligation. Children should not be obliged but of course it is a common courtesy here in the country to help their parents when they are in need.

u should give money for your parents it is them who bought u up spended all their money for your future if you are having a real financial problem them you can make them understand and can give a small amount which they will understand

Don't feel bad. Of course you already have a family. And you must prioritize them. Parents expect something from their children. But if the children can't do it because they already have their own family, they try to understand the situation. And they already experience it. I think you better talk to them about your situation. And I'm sure they will understand you. Just tell it in a very nice way that they won't feel offended. God bless your family!

I don't consider it an obligation. Rather, it is a practice, similar to providing for my own family. My parents are still my family, although we may not live together. I consider it proper to return what we had taken from our parents when we were young, although my parents have never requested us for money. My parents are now retired, and I should do my part as their child to provide for them so that they can enjoy their retirement and old age.

Surely you have to give friend.They made you up.They introduced you to the world.If you keep your parents happy then your children will keep you happy in later stages.Life is a cycle.It reflects what you do.So enjoy your life help others and serve your parents.

Depends on your culture. For mine, my parents do give a fixed sum to their own parents every month. It's like filial piety thingy. Well, if your parents do not need your money, a token some would be good. =) I'm not married but have just started work and i'm making it a habit to give a token sum to my parents.

I think that is necessary as they have brought you up & cared for you when you were unable to earn and look after yourself - all the more when they become old and their earnings reduce you should help

As what my dad always tells us, it's not an obligation for children to extend financial support to the parents especially if the children have their own families. But out of love for my parents, I think it's just right for me to continue giving them money or anything that I can afford to give. It's my own decision and free will.

Yes of course it is the obligation as children to give certain part of money to their parent as a token of gratitude for them. It is a sign of being a good children who cherish all the good things that their parents have done when they were young until to the time they grown up and made their own family.