Jobs...Who needs one?

@leenie50 (3992)
United States
February 18, 2010 7:02pm CST
Well as most of my friends know, my Hubby has been out of work for over 2 1/2 years. He is 57 and about to have a birthday and feels as though he will never work again. He feels his age as well as a Stint in one of his arteries will keep him out of the work force for what is left of his life. He is a very intelligent man and I keep telling him the right job hasn't come along yet. Well, I have a huge favor to ask of all of you. Hubby received a call about a job today for the first time in I can't remember how many months. This person called the other day and hubby missed it. Today he called twice and he missed it the first time. Well, my favor is to ask those of you who pray, to pray that he gets this job. And for those who don't, just send us your well wishes. I am disabled and we are losing our home to foreclosure. Please help us with all the good wishes you can muster up. Thank you all for always being here for me. I love you all. Leenie
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
Oh my prayers are with you Leenie! I do hope your hubby will get that job.
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
19 Feb 10
laydee, Thank you with all my heart. With your prayers and God's Blessing, just maybe he has a chance. Leenie
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• United States
19 Feb 10
Sweetie, you and Dennis (and Dexter) have been in my prayers since we met. I do pray that he'll get the job, and feel more like the good man he is. Love you lots, Joanne
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
19 Feb 10
Hey Love, I know we have been in your prayers and you and John in mine. If not for friends like you, I wouldn't be as strong as I am. We will be alright whatever happens but you and I both know that the more prayers said for us the better the chance we have. Jo, you are a dear and precious friend. Say hello to John and thank you sweetie. Love Ya, Leenie
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
19 Feb 10
Leenie I am hoping that he will get it you are both in my thoughts and I will certainly keep my Fingers crossed for you It is already a good sign I think that this Person has called back there must be a little Hope that your Husband is on the top list I love you and big Hugs to you
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
20 Feb 10
Hi Gaby, How is your move coming? Did you work out the moving problems you had? I certainly hope so. How is our little Gissi? I hope he is ready for the big move. We are moving as well next Friday. My little Dexter gets a little nervous when I start moving things around but once we stop he just relaxes and sleeps. Sweetie I really appreciate all your well wishes and I will keep you in my prayers that everything goes well and you and Gissi stay as healthy as possible. I Love you too and Big Hugs to you and Gissi
@mslena75 (561)
• United States
19 Feb 10
My prayers are ABSOLUTELY with you!!! I will pray in your name since I don't know your husband's. Sometimes I don't think companies put enough stock in the work ethic of older workers at all. Tell your husband, don't give up! I have lost a home...it is a terrible feeling, but it will get better. In retrospect, home ownership is highly overrated anyway, at least to me. No more worries about maintenance and the like. I wish you guys all the best, and stay strong. My heart aches for those in similar situations. But for the grace of God, anyone could be in your shoes. Please let me know how it turns out.
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
19 Feb 10
mslena, I thank you with all my heart. I so agree with you about the way some compamy's don't stop to realize the work ethics that people our age have lived by. I also agree with you that owning a home can be way more work and anxiety not to mention the cost of up keep. There are so many people here in Florida that are in the very same position as we are and I feel the need to pray for all of them as well. I will for sure keep you updated. Leenie
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@celticeagle (168203)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Feb 10
I sensirely hope that your hubby finds work and something he enjoys doing. I think that is the hardest part. My granddaughter is looking for work. She is very negative about the job outlook and I really think that is a job killer. Your mind set and how you present yourself is all important.
@celticeagle (168203)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Feb 10
I hope it all works out for him.
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
19 Feb 10
Celtic, I pray that your ganddaughter and all those looking and needing jobs, find what they need as well. My husband Dennis is waiting to hear about a job that is what he wants and has done most his life. He will be very happy if he gets it. Thank you for your good wishes. Leenie
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• United States
19 Feb 10
My prayers are with you. My husband is disabled and we too are losing our home, so my sympathies are definitely with both of you today. Please tell your husband if one door closes, another opens, but we have to keep our eyes open to see it. Hugs, Maggie
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
19 Feb 10
Hi mystic, My prayers are with you also. There are so many people in our situation. I need to pray more for us all. I'm so sorry you are losing your home. How disabled is your husband? Are you able to work? My prayers are with you. Leenie
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
20 Feb 10
Maggie, I went right away and added you to my list of friends. I am honored to have you as a new friend. We don't live that far apart. I love Sarasota. My second husband fell ill with a Parkinson-like illness when he was 49. He passed away in 2002 just before his 54th Birthday. I have a lot of love and respect for care givers and their loved one. Only those of us going through it or having gone through it can truly understand. I truly understand that Love you share with your Hubby. I felt the same way. We too spent all of our home time together. We'll have to talk more about it later. I'm here and hope to have a computer although my acts as though it is going out. Big hugs to you and your hubby as well. Leenie
• United States
19 Feb 10
He had a massive stroke from which he didn't recover. I take care of him 24/7 because we simply cannot afford bringing in anyone to help. But he is so amazingly cheerful, he makes it a labor of love. We're fortunate in that all through our forty-one years of marriage, we never wanted to go out after work unless we were with each other. We couldn't wait to get home to see each other every day. That continues to be our wish although many folk think I should put him in a nursing home. He would die there, because he sinks into depression if he's away from home for too long, even if I visit every day. I'm trying to find work to do at home. Hopefully one day, I'll come up with something. Hugs to you and your husband. Please let us know if he gets the job. Put me on your friends list, too.
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
19 Feb 10
I will pray for the best thing to happen and for strength to come your way to see it through however this turns out. Probably succeeding in getting a job would give your hubby back his self-esteem and so that would be a nice birthday present. But either way, do not give up. Everything happens for some reason.
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
19 Feb 10
drannhh, I too believe that everything happens for a reason and I just pray that it is time for Dennis to go back to work. It certainly would give him back his self esteem. He used to be so proud of the work he did and he needs to feel that way again. Thank you for your prayers. Leenie
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
19 Feb 10
You will be in my prayers for sure. I can totally understand your husband's worries because jobs are so hard to find and 57, well..it isn't young. Still, it isn't hopeless. I know of plenty of people in their 50's that are still finding work. 57 is really not all that old and obviously someone was interested in hiring him. Good luck...hope he gets the job!
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
19 Feb 10
Thank you Sid, As you said, 57 really isn't that old. Lord only knows he will do the job with experience and knowledge he has achieved over the many many years he has worked so hard. He would be a great asset. But now he struggles to hold onto that truth. After a while even I couldn't convince him it would be ok. So thank you for your prayers and well wishes. Leenie
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@vmenard (895)
• United States
19 Feb 10
My prayers are with you and your family. Hang in there.
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
19 Feb 10
Thank you vmenard, Your prayers are greatly appreciated!! Gof Bless you. Leenie
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
19 Feb 10
I do so hope and pray for you and your hubby Leenie. I cannot begin to imagine how awful things must be for you right now. I've not worked for a similar length of time and although I am a little younger by 5 years than your hubby, it is soul destroying to know that all that input over the years counts for nothing now.
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
19 Feb 10
Hi plke, You certainly can relate to Dennis. I'm so sorry for your position. Our generation has such a great work ethic and I can't understand why people our age aren't hiring people like you and Dennis. It does destroy your heart and soul, especially that of Men! Our men are raised to feel that their self worth depends on their jobs. That they aren't real men without a job. How disrespectful is that to our men. We women have a difficult time when we can't find a job but we were taught that the Man of the house is responsible for our financial wellbeing. Well that is absurd as well but most of us don't hold that as truth. At least I hope they don't. Well, you are certainly in my prayers as well. I believe that everything happens in its own time. So your time is coming. Just have Faith and patience. I certainly hope Dennis's time is here. Leenie
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19 Feb 10
Hi Leenie, It is very difficult people our age group to get a job and like you I am disable, but I will pray for your hub to get that job also for you, hope all goes weel, take care. Tamara
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
19 Feb 10
Hi Tam, It's so good to see you. Not only does our age make it so difficult but this economy is making life so miserable for everyone. I will be so happy for everyone when they are able to get work again. Thank you sweetie for the prayers. What is your disability if you don't mind me asking. Hugssss Leenie
• United States
19 Feb 10
Having been thru a breakdown and all the losses that follow in its wake I understand too well and you indeed have ours prayers and well wishes...
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
19 Feb 10
greenfeathers, Thank you so very much for your help with prayers and good thoughts. I know if this job is meant to be Dennis's then it will be. I hope and pray that you have recovered from yourtroubles and are living in happier times. I will pray for you as well. Hugssss Leenie
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@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
Hi Leenie, I understand your situation because my family also have the same problems as yours. my father is unemployed and really having hard time in looking for a job because he is 52 and nobody wants him for the job though he has enough experience. My family was hoping that my dad will find a work because my 2 siblings are not yet finish in school and sometimes they cant go to school because they dont have money. I am the only one who have a work but I cant support them because I will about to give birth also. I am just giving my mom a small amount of money but it wasnt enough for there needs. They have full of debts because they doesnt have money to buy for food which makes my heart torn into pieces and I always cried at night thinking of there situation. I am still thankful that there are still people who helped my family and they are able to survive each day. I belive that god will answer our prayers and he has a reason for all this things. I pray for you and to your family, I hope that your husband get the job. Just have faith in god and he will never leave you.
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
19 Feb 10
Hello junmae, My heart breaks for you and your family. I do hope they have found sources to help them with food and at least medical care. The economy is hurting people everywhere not just here in the states. I will pray for you and your family. I know it must break your heart knowing how your family is suffering but you must take care of you and your baby. You obviously know that. Do what you can and be strong because as you said, have Faith and God will never leave you. Leenie
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@assadi (91)
• India
19 Feb 10
Best of luck.May god help you.believe in god and entrust rest to him.
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
19 Feb 10
Assadi, Thank you for your well wishes and my Faith in God is stronger than ever. Leenie
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
19 Feb 10
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I hope that all works out for you.
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
19 Feb 10
Thank you so much for your prayers and thoughts. When things get rough in your life, it really pays to be a part of Mylot. Hugsss Leenie
@Darkwing (21583)
22 Feb 10
Hello, my friend! I can understand your hubby's fears but it might surprise him to know that there are certain company policies out there these days that stipulate, "no prejudice" when recruiting staff. I used to work for Amex... ok, after contracting RSI, I couldn't go back to my job and I took voluntary redundancy but there were other jobs available to me. I'm sure that if he is up front about his disabilities and age, he'll find something that suits him. The fact that he was called at least twice, only goes to show that there are people out there who are willing to give him a try, at the very least. I don't pray, as you know, but I will certainly keep him in my thoughts and send good energies to him. I know how much better it would make him feel if he managed to get a job. I have a friend, who not only has suffered a bad bout of cancer, ops and such for a few years, but who also has had three, what he calls, "mild" strokes. He's still working, and as long as he doesn't over-exert himself, he's fine. He gets tired, but he's determined not to give up on life. He obtained his job in a hospital's path lab., after his first stroke and some three years after his initial, major cancer op. He was over 50. So, there's an example of why you hubby should never give up. Brightest Blessings my friend... energies will be winging their way to both of you, in the hope that all goes well with this job, and that your home stays secure.
@Darkwing (21583)
24 Feb 10
I'm just as guilty as you, Leenie. I have only been into the Den about once a month, or perhaps even longer a stint than that. There's not much going on in there because a lot of them went elsewhere, on invite, and kind of drifted away from mine. Their choice, of course, and I've taken a couple more on since then, but I kinda lost something with them not being around so much. I really must get back into it and build it up with some more friends, perhaps. Poor Star keeps writing me and wondering what's going on with me, but I keep missing her messages, through not going in there too often. Kay and one or two others have been in touch too, so I have to return and put things straight. I'm sorry... I did realise you're the disabled one, but just assumed that with his stint, your husband might be somewhat limited in the physical things he does. Sorry if I assumed unduly. I really hope he gets this job, and am continuing to send my energies, in the hope that you'll come back to us with positive news. Take care, my friend. Hopefully, I'll see you in the Den soon.. that's if I can drag myself off FB. lol. xx
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
23 Feb 10
Darkwing, It is so very good to see you again. As you know I haven't been around your site lately and that is only due to my inability to be at my desktop very long without pain. I have missed it though. I'm the disabled one. Dennis just worries because he is about to turn 58 that he may be discriminated against. I've tried very hard to convince him otherwise but he is too stubborn and won't believe it until he gets a job. I know there are people looking for people like him with his knowledge and experience and will jump on the chance to have him join their work force. It's been so long it's hard for him to hold out hope but I have enough hope for the both of us. This job is in South Carolina and I am so ready to move out of Florida. He has an interview tomorrow so I am so appreciative of all your well wishes and energies. I will let you and everyone who was kind enough to wish us well. Brightest Blessings to you as well. Hugsss Leenie
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
7 Mar 10
Hey Sweetie, Please tellme your real name again, maybe in a PM. I go to FB and know most of my friends by their Mylot names. My memory being so poorly, I have to write things down then forget where I wrote it. I don't spend much time on FB because until now sitting at the computer very long would be too painful to my back and legs.We just moved to an apt. and the computer is closer to the bed so I put the keyboard in my lap. Hubby never heard from the agent after his interview, I'm going to have to post to let all my precious friends here that he didn't get it. I think his asthma and Copd, and emphazema is really hurting him with this move. To be honest he should probably be applying for disability. WellSweetie, I'll check in on your Den soon. Leenie
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Feb 10
hi leenie been there and done that too. I can so sympathize with you and your husband, we were evicted from our apartment right after my son lost his job,he will be 51 in June, and hes been out of work for over a year. this is the pits. He too feels his age is a detriment towards getting a job and he has years of computer programming experience too. When we got evicted we were made homeless and finally my son, fearing for my welfare as his mom , I am 83, had me put here in Gold Crest a retirement home to have a roof over my head and somewhere to live, he got put into gov.sponsored apt with three other guys, all out of work and looking hard. I will pray for your husband as I have been praying for my son, I do feel for you really and hope to God you do not lose your home. I just hope that all my fellow my lotters will join in me and pray that y our husband getss the job and that you can save your home, hugs from hatley.
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
19 Feb 10
Hatley, I think of you all the time because of yours and your Sons situation. I pray for you as well because I know how unhappy you are there.I pray that your Son will become employed and takes you out of that home and makes you feel happy and safe again. You pray for us and I'll pray for you. Our home is lost and we are moving into an apt. but maybe out of state. Thank you for your prayers. Big Huh. Leenie
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@mentalward (14690)
• United States
19 Feb 10
Hi Leenie. This is very good news! Your husband is getting his foot in the door and that's definitely a start! I have chanted for him to get this job. (I'm more Buddhist than Christian. Chanting is praying, just a little different.) Nam Myoho Renge Kyo is the chant to get what you want/need. It has always worked for me whenever I desperately needed something. As a matter of fact, I chanted for myself about getting a job once and it worked. I was out of work for quite some time when I decided to chant and I received an offer from the company I was chanting about the very next morning. I hope it works for you, too. Hopefully, at least part of your optimistic attitude will rub off on your hubby. I'm very impressed with the way you always look at things. You deserve the very best! BTW, when is his birthday?
@mentalward (14690)
• United States
20 Feb 10
Nah, Dog, it doesn't help stupid. Leenie, you really are too sweet! Don't worry about me, I can take Dog any time.
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
19 Feb 10
Hi Sweet Pea, We'll take all the chanting we can get. I believe in all forms of praying!! All I know is that those who believe in a Higher Power and has trust and faith in that Spiritual Being, can't be lost. You are too kind and loving towards others that just thinking good thoughts for me means everything to me. If he gets this job, we'll be a lot closer because it's in Charleston South Carolina. At least I think it's closer. Nam Myoho Renge Kyo sounds beautiful. Please keep chanting. I'll keep praying. Love Ya, Leenie PS Dennis Birthday is Feb. 25th.
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
20 Feb 10
Hair, I do hope you are playing around and not making fun of my very good friend and her beliefs. That would really anger me.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
19 Feb 10
Hi leenie! I am so sorry for all that you and your hubby are going through! I can't begin to tell you how awful I feel! If all you want is a prayer, you definitely have it from me! I know how difficult this must be for the both of you and I do pray that something will come about that will fix all this misery for you both! I really do hope that you will be able to find a new place, and he will get a new job and things will be alright again! I know that all this is such a strain on the both of you! I have been going through something myself with my bf and not knowing if he is going to leave me or not! But, I am trying to stay strong and hope that things also work out for the best because that is all I have! I will continue to pray for you and if you want to talk you know where to find me! I love you Leenie~ Love, Leslie
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
19 Feb 10
Hi Sweetie, Thanks for all the prayers you can muster up. We can certainly use them. We just found an apt. last week. That takes some of the worry away. Leslie, this would be such a blessing from God if Dennis were to get this job. I will certainly keep you and everyone posted. Now, I want to hear from you about what is going on with you and your BF. I have been meaning to write to find out. Please write and tell me all about it. I am going to pray that you two can work it out. You so deserve to be happy. I love you too Les, Leenie
• United States
20 Feb 10
I will pray for you and your husband as well. I know it is hard to look for work. My husband is working in the field he likes, but his boss treats him so badly. He would love to leave the company, but since he can not find another job he is stuck there. My husband is attending an online University in hopes that he can get a better job once the economy gets better. I hope your husband gets this job to make things better for you and him. I am so sorry that your house is in foreclosure. I wish I could help you out.
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
20 Feb 10
Randy I wish you and your husband all the good luck in the world. Your husband is smart and has a smart wife to Love. Leenie
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
20 Feb 10
randy, You are helping so much with your words and prayers. One of my hubby's last bosses was like your hubby's boss. I understand how he feels. He is making his change the correct way. When he finishes his classes then he can make any change he wants, when the economy picks up. You have a very smart husband. Thank you for your prayers. Leenie
• United States
20 Feb 10
He goes to work even when he is sick. One day last week my husband had taken a day off from work because we had some personal issues to take care of. They were reluctant to give him the day off, but they did. He has been working at the company for six years and in the six years he has only taken two days off. My husband is studying communications and business. Thank you for saying that my husband is smart.