i feel really depressed.

Well i think the best suggestion that i could give you is that don't take too much tension and just work with the best abilities that you can and every thing would be fine.

I can't say I been in your situation... I will say this though, that kids father needs to step up and be a MAN. A man that does not provide for his family is considered worthless, in god's eye. In this case, you have to be a strong independent woman. Do not let things weigh you down, keep your head up and be free-spirited. Always look for the positive in your situation, whatever it might be. I can assure you no matter what situation your going through... Someone else has it worse. Please take these words into consideration, your son needs you to be strong. If your not strong, who else will he depend on? Another thing to keep in mind, I'm not trying to be religious or anything. Please pray a lot... Your situation will get better. Trust me!!

Hello Martha, It could be real tough in your situation even though I have not experienced what you have at this moment of your life, just the thought of what you mentioned. You can make it, if you just keep on going. Don't lose hope and never stop calling for God's help, keep on praying, even if it seems in vain, I believe in God and I was also been through with difficult moments where I almost give up living. But one thing I did, is to pray and keep on going. As long as you live, you still have a chance. Don't give up the fight, if you love your son, keep moving he needed you and he depend on you. With you all my prayers with you...God Bless...

..Hi mplhayers, You have done so well so far. Maybe not as well as you would like to, but you have raised your son to this point. Shame on your son's father for being so stingy and not helping you finacially. But we cannot make people do anything, they have to want to help and do the right thing. I would suggest that you get in touch with a church minister and talk about your sitution. You need to be counseled, to release some of the stress. Then you should contact Social Services in your town, you are probably eligible for food stamps. There should also be some kind of job training program you could get into, to train for a job. Try to find a restaurant to see if you could wash dishes. Go to some of the banks in your town, see if they need someone to clean the houses thst they have foreclosed on. A woman lost her job and she asked a major bank if she could clean the foreclosed homes, she is earning $60,000 a year cleaning those homes for them. You have to believe that you can succeed and you will, stop being down on yourself, if you don't believe in yourself first, no one else will. Find a minister to talk with and move on from there. Good luck to you. You will find a job eventually.

I am so sorry to hear how depressed you are feeling but you must not think of yourself as worthless. You are obviously a loving mother and you've done so well to bring your son up on your own. Even though you may not feel you have provided the best for your son - he only has one mother and he needs you more than anyone else in the world. Without you in his life, where would he be? I hope you can find someone to talk to about your problems and who can help you through these bad times. Things will get better for you.

I feel sorry for what is happening to you. So since your son was 1 yr. old and now you said he is 13 yrs. of age, how were you able to raise him? Was it through friends? Remain strong because despite the fact that you don't have a job, your son is still living a normal life. Has he been sick or anything? How's his health? Is he going to school already? Who supports his schooling? Like how long were you trying to look for a job? More than 5 years? Just continue to pray and continue searching for a job. God has a purpose and he will never give that trial if God knows that you will not be able to surpass it. God bless.

I understand how you feel. The mere fact that you believe in God is a mere confession that even you love your life. We all have down moments and its normal. Sometimes you can't appreciate the value of life if you're always in the high part of it. Continue praying and if you can't find a job, maybe you can create one. You can do something especially when you're sad, try writing your emotions in a paper and who knows you have a hidden talent on writing. It's normal to be sad, just find a friend whom you can talk too or talk to your son, he's the only family you have.

actually your not alone. i also dont have job and worst is i am pregnant right now and the the of the child is now gone. luckily i have my ex who help me in some of my expenses though he doesnt know that im pregnant. i just took the change since i need the money though i have no intention of using him since i also love him. his my longest boyfriend ever and i know he really loves me. i just pray to god that he will provide me whatever i need and that god will not leave me specially now that i needed him most. and i just pray that everything will be fine.

You did well to speak it out so that myLot friends are accepting your saying and feeling along with you. Let us watch something will happen. The worst enemy of yours will be if you feel discouraged. Let us learn to face. Enter into your inner self. It is the abode of God too. Just watch without words. God the Father knows your needs. Just be serene do not lament. Visual your son with tender care. Breath slowly in and out. Utter brief positive affirmations. Such as God is my Father He grants me everything I need. He has blessed me with this son to be more happy. When you feel drowsy to sleep and when you just wake up these moments are precious. Visualize your inner light and pray with serenity and smile. Jesus has said " Do not be worried little flock your Father in Heaven knows what you need" Take action too. Find out some NGOs, write to them . Pray to St.Antony. Please I am not advocating for religion here. But all know St.Antony is a good friend of the impossible. You need time to wait for even for one year. You see I pray for you. Trust in God, Trust in your well wishers. Have courage

First of all, you don't always have to buy your son everything he wants. That could save up a lot of money to use in other places. You should find a fun hobby you could do and also take your son with you to do it together. He will not crave for other things when he's occupied with one thing. Then save up the money you save from this and try finding a job - even the smallest extra helps. E.g. you may find a job as a shopkeeper or, heck, even a cleaner could do, there's always a demand for them, so you just have to look hard enough. Soon you'll notice you have enough money to buy a small apartment somewhere or even a small house. Nothing is impossible. Wishing you all the best, M.